I'm dreadful at finding my own, despite having 'piano fingers'. And the only times I have managed to find it on my ownsome, I've not managed to get much pleasure out of it :/ I'd say I must just not be a g-spot kind of girl, but my boyfriend...wow. He never fails to find it and get me writhing about like mad. I really don't know how he does it, but I'm just glad he does!