• Bf selfish in bed

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    ShannonMarlene [sign in to see picture]
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    Definitely sit down and talk about it, let him know how you feel and be totally honest.
    Try and show him what feels good. It'll I've him ideas and will be a massive turn on.
    Get him to use his hands or mouth on you first and then you on him, that's how we do it

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    Hellotitty [sign in to see picture]
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    He told me when we first started going out,that im the first girl he will ever go down on as he has always just had random girls not girlfriends.So im thinking he doesn't know what to do,but being a man,he won't admit it.

    Would it be better to mention it in a random converstation or tell him what i want during sex? i don't want to hurt his ego and make it into a argmuent.I just want him to give my body more attention rather than it be about him all the time.

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    Hellotitty [sign in to see picture]
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    we have watched porn together before lol but i might give this another go when i see him.We don't live together comminication is key but knowing how to bring it or and how to say it,is importnat,i don't wanna hurt his ego.

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    Hellotitty [sign in to see picture]
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    he wont let me have a toy lol.But i was thnking about buying some games on here or some dirty cards or something.

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    Cap54 [sign in to see picture]
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    Here's a thought are you trimmed or shaved?
    That might help
    It works for me

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    mr and mrs [sign in to see picture]
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    amandammmm wrote:

    I just sit on his face. No choice then. ;)

    this is great advice and will work. I always try my hardest (not always possible) to make sure my wife cums first. I have given this advice to many young people as i know that its good advice. So just sit, or 69 so he to is getting some pleasure but make sure its all about you and not him. Just to confirm this isn't selfish because you won't leave him stranded you will complete the task in hand once you have had your orders completed.

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    Mr&Mrs Teddy [sign in to see picture]
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    I agree with amandammm;

    just sit on his face!

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    smirnoff09 [sign in to see picture]
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    I have to agree with everyone else...talk about but keep it positive rather than accusing him not meeting your needs etc.

    Possibly something along the lines of "I love it when i.....but i would also love it if you could...."

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    ShannonMarlene [sign in to see picture]
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    It seems like you're totally focused on his pleasure too. Why won't he let you have a toy? You can use it together

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    Laveila [sign in to see picture]
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    I am going to be the oné who will say dont just sit on his face. I would try to have a honest conversation, it may be he does not know what to do or he is worried about something. In the second case, just sitting on his face would do more harm.

    i know, if i was not too keen on oral and someone did that to me, I would get a block and may even start to have a block towards the person in the long run.

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    Jazzam [sign in to see picture]
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    Why are you letting him have a say on whether you have a toy or not? Sounds pretty immature of him if you ask me.

    Try some subtle hints first, cuddle up, lead his hands, tell him how much it would turn you on etc.
    Tease him and get him turned on but DON'T do him first, make a little time of pleasuring you his only option (doesn't have to be oral at first maybe he could just use his hands and build up to oral in other sessions)
    DON'T put pressure on the orgasm though, appreciate the actions, not just the eventual outcome.

    Lastly this whole no toy thing, he needs to know that a stupidly high proportion of women can't orgasm from penetration alone, if he's not performing the foreplay on you it's only fair you get a toy for yourself - that being said, try a wand or bullet; a) you can use it during sex so he's involved, b) I think men's egos get hurt when we have dildos that look like dicks lol

    Don't let a man control and manipulate your life. You don't have to be a bitch but you don't even lie together he has no right to say whether you masturbate or not.

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    Jazzam [sign in to see picture]
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    Live*

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    jackjohn [sign in to see picture]
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    u could try 69. u get what u want and promote equality too. mmmmm

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    RedHeadLovely [sign in to see picture]
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    69 is amazingly hot! I find me on top is much better though so I can sit up when he's cum and ride his tongue

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