• Advice to help broaden our sex life

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    Golfer_guy [sign in to see picture]
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    I feel a bit embaressed by asking this but me and my OH are both quite inexperienced in the bedroom and where wondering if there was anyone out there how could give us some advice as we are looking to experiment in the bedroom.

    is there anything on lovehoney that we should buy and what foreplay/positions should we try to help us broaden our sex life?

    all suggestions are welcome

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    SherbetWrite [sign in to see picture]
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    There's no need to feel embarrassed.

    I'm sure others will be able to help you more, but perhaps a good place to start is by browsing Lovehoney's guides: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/buyers-guide/.

    Hopefully they should give you ideas about what you might like to try, and you can go from there.

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    kc. [sign in to see picture]
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    The way to gain experience is to experiement, explore and enjoy each other. You can go as far as you want as long as you are both comfortable with it. The further you go the more you have to shed and cast off societies inhibitions.

    Even after thirty years together my wife and I are still experiencing new and exciting games together.

    I'd suggest buying a vibrator, dildo and cock ring to start with and take it from there. Perhaps read or watch some porn.

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    Sum Sub [sign in to see picture]
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    How about talking about fantasies. Not necessarily with a view to acting them out but talking about the gets you really hot under the collar. It can lead to some really good sex.
    Work in massages and showers/baths together and just explore each others bodies. Take time to learn each others turns on and off.
    Some sexy lingerie is quick and easy way to add an extra dimension.
    A vibrating cock ring is a good investment for beginners too.
    You could try some erotic literature for ideas or to get in the mood.

    Just don't underestimate the power of communication. And always remember to gave fun.

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    Gentle giant [sign in to see picture]
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    Sum Sub wrote:

    How about talking about fantasies. Not necessarily with a view to acting them out but talking about the gets you really hot under the collar. It can lead to some really good sex.
    Work in massages and showers/baths together and just explore each others bodies. Take time to learn each others turns on and off.
    Some sexy lingerie is quick and easy way to add an extra dimension.
    A vibrating cock ring is a good investment for beginners too.
    You could try some erotic literature for ideas or to get in the mood.

    Just don't underestimate the power of communication. And always remember to gave fun.

    Great advice as always Subby.

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    Scorpius12 [sign in to see picture]
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    Sum Sub wrote:

    How about talking about fantasies. Not necessarily with a view to acting them out but talking about the gets you really hot under the collar. It can lead to some really good sex.
    Work in massages and showers/baths together and just explore each others bodies. Take time to learn each others turns on and off.
    Some sexy lingerie is quick and easy way to add an extra dimension.
    A vibrating cock ring is a good investment for beginners too.
    You could try some erotic literature for ideas or to get in the mood.

    Just don't underestimate the power of communication. And always remember to gave fun.

    +1 Excellent advice Subby :) xx

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    blonde vixen13 [sign in to see picture]
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    I find I get ally if my ideas from reading erotic fiction. I read something, think.... Hmmm I wouldn't mind giving that ago and then I show my husband.
    Also deal of the day offers helped me a lot at the start. When I wasn't sure what type of toys I might like, I bought the deal of the day items and then I was able to see what sorts of things I like without spending too much cash.

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    Golfer_guy [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks for your advice, it has made the thought of experimenting not as daunting as I thought and also as you mentioned the deal of the day specials, not to expensive either

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    Golfer_guy [sign in to see picture]
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    If you have any more advice that would be great too

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    Alastor [sign in to see picture]
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    There is a wide range of interests expressed within the Erotic Fiction forum here that might spark some ideas. Many different styles (and lengths) of writing too.

    Good hunting wherever you go to get your inspration.

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    FrumCouple [sign in to see picture]
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    Another thing, if you're both looking to experiment and just need some ideas, a couples game like Monogamy (http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=662) can be great at providing ideas.

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    MrsMcX [sign in to see picture]
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    Welcome to the forum :)

    There's no need to be embarrassed, plenty of us have started out just like you...me included!

    When we decided to 'spice things up' we started with this...
    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=22875

    You could have a read of the reviews and see what others think about it too. It was a brilliant starter set for us, it totally changed our relationship, it has made us more confident with our own bodies and opened up a new way of communicating. I honestly can't thank Lovehoneh enough for this little bundle, it has transformed our relationship.

    This little set come out after if had already bought the one above, but if it's in your price range I would go for this....
    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=28482
    The cock ring isn't a disposable one so you'll get more use out of it, and the items generally look a but more fun!

    I hope that helps, I think a little starter set for couples with plenty of toys in for both is brilliant. It was for us.

    Good luck :)

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    blonde vixen13 [sign in to see picture]
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    Another thing that might be worth doing is sitting down with your wife to shop look on line. We used to do this at the start, we would spend ages looking at products and reading the reviews together. Some of the reviews would have us bent over in two laughing but some would get us so horny that we would dash upstairs for sex.
    The reviews are also great for ideas and techniques of how to use a product. X

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    Some great advice already given, just want to mention the 3 for 10 /25 /50 deals on at the moment. Great selection of toys and you can save a nice little bit.

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    Golfer_guy [sign in to see picture]
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    You are all so helpful I would never of thought or found the products that you have all suggested. I feel we are going to have so much fun trying to find out what we like and what we don't.

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    Alastor [sign in to see picture]
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    The journey of discovery is never-ending, and usually fun.

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    MrsMcX [sign in to see picture]
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    I personally think it's lovely that you're taking all the right steps and making an effort to try and better your relationship.

    You'll be amazed at how open you become with each other when you start trying out new things. It really does improve a relationship in my opinion.

    I hope you've managed to find something(s) that you like, and we're always here to help if you need any more advice.

    Good luck :)

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    swingcouple [sign in to see picture]
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    Watch amateur porn together? Not the stuff with unrealistically-beautiful porn stars, but with 'real' people. There is female-friendly stuff around, she likes Anna Span films which are this sort. It's entertaining and instructive to watch others.

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