• The Language of Lust

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    Alastor [sign in to see picture]
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    Female orgasms are wonderful things; I love helping to produce them and I adore seeing/feeling a lady enjoying one.

    However, as a male I will never experience one, never feel 'what it is like' to have one.

    When I write erotica/porn, I usually do so intending women to find it arousing (see above). To that end I do try to describe the various sensations of arousal and ecstasy. For those descriptions I rely on what might be deduced from observing the actions that result, conversations with recent partners, writers I trust, and a few e-friends. Which is where you come in. (I hope)

    If anyone is willing to share a description of their own personal pleasure-sensations, I would be most appreciative. Maybe just why a bite on the back of your neck feels so good, or that kiss on your ear, a mouth sucking on your nipples, or your pussy being licked... If you can find some words to describe the build-up to, and orgasm itself, I would love to read it.

    I live in hope.

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    ShannonMarlene [sign in to see picture]
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    The orgasm itself is hard to explain but just before it, my feet get really hot and tingly and my toes 'curl'
    When the orgasm hits, it's like warmth spreading throughout my whole body and my inner walls sporadically contract. It feels like a head rush aswell and if done well, my vision will go all wobbly

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    Alastor [sign in to see picture]
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    ShannonMarlene wrote:

    The orgasm itself is hard to explain but just before it, my feet get really hot and tingly and my toes 'curl'
    When the orgasm hits, it's like warmth spreading throughout my whole body and my inner walls sporadically contract. It feels like a head rush aswell and if done well, my vision will go all wobbly

    Thanks SM. This is actually follows a structure we might expect... Many features shared with others (at least allowing for differences in expression)...and one or two very individual elements. In this case your feet! Thanks again.
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    MrsMcX [sign in to see picture]
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    I think it's different for all women, and it is hard to explain. For me it kind of feels like pressure building up inside me. I feel my whole body start to tense and I have no control over it. The pressure keeps building and I start to feel really hot around the back of my neck, it's almost like when you're really poorly and you have the sweats and your neck burns. Then it just feels like my body is going through some sort of inner combustion. It really is sensational, and I often feel guilty that I've got the better part of the deal. Afterwards I just feel a massive sense of relaxation and calmness, and if I try to walk, the upper parts of my legs are unstable and I find it quite wobbly when I'm walking for a little while.

    I think it's probably something that a man, unfortunately, will never fully understand. Actually, I don't think anyone would fully understand unless they've experienced it themselves. It's even difficult to explain, but those are usually the motions that I go through.

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    I regularily ask my OH what her orgasms feel like as she tends to be able to expreience several different ones that all vary in location of sensation, intensity and consequently noise! lol

    A few things I have heard her say time and time again is that her internal (g-spot etc) orgasms tend to start at a point and then expand outward in a warm pulsing circle, like a shockwave that travels the length of her body and through each extremity. She once descibed it as like a 'Mexican wave of pleasure'!

    From what I see, her eyes roll into the back of her head, her back arches in the 10-15 seconds before orgasm and when it hits her she kinda goes off like a rocket but then limp and occasionally her legs shake for another 10 seconds plus.

    Quite a spectacle to behold!

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    miss_s [sign in to see picture]
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    When its building my legs twitch and I start to feel warm, my head starts to sort of pulse. When I orgasm, which at the moment its only via clit stimulation, arch my back, my body goes tense. I usually put my head back and close my eyes. Majority of the time I squirt and have a very loud moan and a sort of grunt! Lol!

    afterwards, its contentment, eurphoria and I feel limp and just want to lie and enjoy the pulsing in my vagina. They are very very addictive!

    hope that helps, apologies for spelling.

    :) x

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    Alastor wrote:

    When I write erotica/porn, I usually do so intending women to find it arousing

    Then go with what you know.... You have information (a man's opinion) that many women would contemplate trading in their wands for. :-)

    If you could put into words even a fraction of what our men are feeling but can't say, your efforts would probably be well appreciated.

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    Alastor [sign in to see picture]
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    rose hip wrote:

    Alastor wrote:

    When I write erotica/porn, I usually do so intending women to find it arousing

    Then go with what you know.... You have information (a man's opinion) that many women would contemplate trading in their wands for. :-)

    If you could put into words even a fraction of what our men are feeling but can't say, your efforts would probably be well appreciated.

    Thanks.

    I do try to do that as well, but I already have access to my own thoughts and sensations, as you point out.

    Some people who know me might tell you that my thoughts may not be entirely typical of other males, but I use what I have.

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    Alastor [sign in to see picture]
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    A big thanks to everyone so far for sharing their private moments to help out an aspiring author too.

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    Alastor [sign in to see picture]
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    Time for a bump to see if anyone else is willing to help.

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    Well for me, sometimes I get these mini orgasms......? Say every 3/4 thrusts I get a wave of pleasure/ heat that spreads out from my groin. Only if I'm really really turned on though. As for the main event, I go into myself.........like an inner body experience.... I go completely unaware of my surroundings... and my face gets really hot....... afterwards, it's the common jelly legs.

    Gosh, I never realised how hard it is to describe my orgasms.....

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    Alastor [sign in to see picture]
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    crazy horse wrote:

    Well for me, sometimes I get these mini orgasms......? Say every 3/4 thrusts I get a wave of pleasure/ heat that spreads out from my groin. Only if I'm really really turned on though. As for the main event, I go into myself.........like an inner body experience.... I go completely unaware of my surroundings... and my face gets really hot....... afterwards, it's the common jelly legs.

    Gosh, I never realised how hard it is to describe my orgasms.....

    Imagine why I struggle CH! lol

    Thanks though. xx

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    Alastor wrote:

    crazy horse wrote:

    Well for me, sometimes I get these mini orgasms......? Say every 3/4 thrusts I get a wave of pleasure/ heat that spreads out from my groin. Only if I'm really really turned on though. As for the main event, I go into myself.........like an inner body experience.... I go completely unaware of my surroundings... and my face gets really hot....... afterwards, it's the common jelly legs.

    Gosh, I never realised how hard it is to describe my orgasms.....

    Imagine why I struggle CH! lol

    Thanks though. xx

    You don't struggle though! You do it so well!

    x

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    Hi Alastor,

    My orgasm varies from time to time, but when its a really intense one i get a feeling of pins and needles from head to toe. Many times i have to open and close my fists as my hands go ridgid and i cant move my fingers. I cant see clearly and i dont know where i am, its really hard to describe but feels amazing. Afterwards i cant get up for 30mins upto and hour as my legs are like jelly and i feel really light headed. With smaller orgasms i get waves of pleasure from my groin, and my hips buck, i cant control the movements, as much as i try to stay still i cant.

    With the big one, ive woke up the next day with my hands still tingling, now that was a weird sensation. The big ones are out of this world and my fella giggles as im stumbling to the bathroom but i physically can not help it. We always make sex fun so even tho he is giggling its not in a nasty way, he just doesnt get how im feeling. After sex trying to have a fag can take some concentration as im shaking and quivering so much.

    I guess its different for all, but only my current fella has given me the big orgasm and the first time he did i was quite worried because my vision was going funny and i felt like id got pins and needles all over, i felt kinda spaced out and not really there, but it also felt wonderful.

    Geebee

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    Gosh - an interesting but difficult descriptive challenge!

    It feels like my orgasms start with a tingling that spreads out in waves from my clitoris across my body. The tingling gets stronger, I feel a tightness in my tummy, and a warmth in my breasts. The tightness and heat grow and become achingly but beautifully intense. When I actually tip over into full orgasm, I suppose it's like a flash of white light, a disconnection from reality, a spear of intense pure sensation right through my body, an other-worldliness, and a maelstrom of contraction, spasm and release between my legs and in my tummy. Then it fades into serenity and bliss, my limbs feel trembly and weak, and my vagina throbs.

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    Alastor [sign in to see picture]
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    Many thanks for the further contributions, they really are much appreciated.

    Bluebells, that was an especially descriptive paragraph, there is some writng talent there I reckon. Thanks particularly for putting in that imaginative effort.

    GeeBee. Really interesting differentiation there. If you would care to, would you say the big and little ones originate from different type of stimulation? Or in different parts of your sexual nexus?

    Sorry for the delay replying btw. It has been an eventful week, in rather the sense of the Chinese proverb.

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    Hmm, the easiest way I could describe it would be lots of pressure and then firworks, a good one literally feels like an explosion for me. Then (and I can't control this no matter how many times I try) I instantly clamp my legs shut. Can't help it. I just can't bear to be touched once the fireworks have gone off.

    I too get the wobbly legs thing afterwards for a good half hour or more :)

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    I've never tried to explain an orgasm before, but anything to help a fellow writer!

    So, I know when I'm about to reach that climax, because my back arches up and my hips lift off the bed (they do at the moment, anyway, because there's no one to pin them down there) and then it's like a grand but brief eruption. I really hit the g-spot with my vibrator the other night and it was the best experience ever! It built, and built, and built, then it exploded through my body. I was blown away by it.

    The aftershocks are usually more of a woozy headiness with the wobbly knees (if I have to stand up, that is). Or, other times, I feel bright & ready to face the day (even though it's usually the start of the night when I pleasure myself).

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    Alastor [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks. Better response from me in am.

    But here is a question for rabbitlover.... What is building is it just a sense of expectation of a forthcoming explosion? Or is there also a physical build-up of 'pressure'?

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    Alastor wrote:

    Thanks. Better response from me in am.

    But here is a question for rabbitlover.... What is building is it just a sense of expectation of a forthcoming explosion? Or is there also a physical build-up of 'pressure'?

    I would say anticipation, and maybe a little pressure too. I get a thick headiness, and a flushed face; maybe it's the build-up of the endorphins & oxytocin hormones, which will be released wtih the orgasm, or maybe it's the course of my blood flow (though most of that should be downstairs by then). As well as that, there's the anticipation of the approaching 'explosion'. Then it all disappears with the actual orgasm.

    I might actually be better writing about an orgasm shortly after having one, but I'm giving myself five days or so off due to personal reasons. So, I'm going on the memories of previous experiences, and each one has been slightly different in some way, depending on my initial mood before pleasuring myself. Hope this info helps. :)

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