• Different sex drives...x

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    Mammame [sign in to see picture]
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    I just want to get this off my chest. Ok, so me and my husband have an amazing and adventurous sex life. The problem being a big difference in drives, especially mid month for me. I'm getting very upset that sex always seems to be when he wants it, and he won't even allow me to make him horney. I've spoken to him about this so many times, but he doesn't think there's an issue and me do it 'enough'. What to do? :/ x

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    Strange Days [sign in to see picture]
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    What you don't do, is do nothing. Or you will just go mad..!!

    I can think of lots of ways forward, but you really need to think of them yourself...... :-)

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    ShannonMarlene [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm exactly the same.
    When I do have sex, it's brilliant but I'm almost never in the mood. My medication and illness has caused me to entirely lose my drive. And at 19 years old, that is not what I want!
    I've found that sex shopping and trying new lubes and different positions has helped a little bit. It adds some fun and makes sex seem like less of a chore.

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    KateL [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm the same.

    I'm 20 my OH's 22 and he only seems to want it 2/3 times a week. Well, that's not enough for me! & he wonders why I started buying toys... x

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    Fluffbags [sign in to see picture]
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    Have you tried only having sex with him when your in the mood? See how he likes it? lol...please note, this is just a bad joke. Don't turn your sex life into a tit for tat or it will get worse and you will resent each other. However, I had to comment because you are really not alone. This is a very common issue and normally I would write a long reply but I thought why not link you to the threads previous. I even wrote one on this exact issue between me and my partner. I believe a few people have over the months (This is how common mismatched drives are) Hope these help, because they are packed with info:

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/763894-any-advice/

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/726027-another-mismatched-sex-drives-issue/

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/546372-out-of-sync-sex-drives/

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/622195-i-think-my-husband-is-being-unreasonable/

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/144533-i-need-honest-answers-to-this-difficult/

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/435052-feel-selfish-about-sex-drive/

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/499041-girlfriend-and-i-have-completely-different/

    One thing that jumps out at me when i did the search for these threads is that most of them are started by women! It is not always the man with the higher drive anymore. I hope these help you.

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    Gentle giant [sign in to see picture]
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    I think it would be rare to find a couple with the same sex drives. We are I think the more traditional male higher sex drive couple. When we were young it used to wind we me up. As we got further into our relationship we talked our way around it. My OH is all ways happy to give me a HJ or a BJ now. There is an element of her enjoying the knowledge that she is wanted & desired. She also now's a like the fact that whenever she want it she can get it.

    Moving onto your issue, you have the power and the tools to make it happen. There are few guys that would not be turned to find there OH masturbating. If he is not prepared to do it a little more then some you time with some of the great vibes here on LH would have to be acceptable to him. Good luck

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