• what does "average" mean to you?

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    Tectonic Tiger [sign in to see picture]
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    This is my first post but 'in at the deep end' is my usual approach and my wife and I were discussing this subject just last night so here goes...

    Penis size by itself is completely irrelevant, it's the compatibility of penis and vagina sizes that matter more, even then (to use a slightly bizarre analogy) a small weapon in the hands of a ninja is more effective than a huge weapon in the hands of ballet dancer. It is logical, therefore, to suggest that a small penis will be used to better effect by a guy who knows how to please the woman he is with, than a large penis wielded by an idiot whose only aim is to empty his balls with no regard for the woman's pleasure.

    Personally, I have no interest in measuring mine, my wife and I are perfectly compatible and I consider her enjoyment to be equal to, if not more important than, my own. With that said, I did measure many years ago (I think all teenage lads do) and as has already been said "Where do you measure from, the underside will give a longer measurement than along the top?". Perhaps measuring both, adding them together, then dividing by two would give a more precise figure, in which case IIRC mine would be six inches. Would I like to be bigger? Not a chance, I like to get it all in and have been told many times that if it was any longer it either wouldn't be going all the way in or would cause a lot of pain.

    Another point that has been raised is that of the perspective from which it is viewed. It's true that looking down at a flacid penis makes it look shorter than when looking at ones reflection in a mirror, but look in a mirror at various times throughout the day and you'll see various sizes. It's not simply a case of having one size when flacid...physical exercise will make it become smaller as your body drives as much nutrient-rich blood into your muscles as possible, relax and it becomes larger, get cold and your body protects itself by drawing blood away from ones extremeties to keep your vital organs warm (sorry, but your brain's survival instincts do not consider your penis to be a vital organ, even if your ego does), yet when you're warm your blood is pumped to the surface to aid in cooling so your penis gets bigger. Want to look bigger in the mirror? Take a look when you're warm an relaxed. Go for a ten-mile run in the middle of winter and say hello to little winky.

    To summarise, the sounds she makes when you're using it and far more important than the digits on a tape-measure.

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    I'm smaller than average regarding breast size, even smaller now that I've lost a lot of weight. Am i happy with the way I look? no, but I'm not going to let it ruin things for me. At the end of the day as long as your confidence is bigger that whatever part of you you're feeling down about, then it shouldn't become a problem. And anyone who chooses or rejects you based on how "average" you are, is in my opinion not worth it :) x

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    TT, well said!
    +1

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    Fluffbags [sign in to see picture]
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    I tell you comething, as a lady who owns quite a lot of dildos....

    The Tantus Dildos mostly all measure a "mere" 7 inches in insertable length. Now, if you go and watch a video for one of the Tantus Dildos here on Lovehoney, you can see that those 7 inches are pretty damn long! I cannot personally insert the full length of a Tantus dildo into my vagina, no matter how horny I am, it hits my cervix at around the 5 to 6 inch point. Go and look at one of those 7 inch length dildos in the hands of Annabelle (Or whichever Lovehoney lady happens to be doing the video) and ask yourself, are you really as long, or longer than that? Some men will be, ofc, but the point is, I think most men hover around the 5 to 6 inch mark. I say this because, even the biggest penis I have had could fit all the way inside me...Tantus dildos, and any other dildo that measures 7 inches...not a chance! lol

    So, a bit of fun......

    I measured tha Tantus Cush to have an insertable length of 7 inches. Lovehoney measure it at 6.5 inches.....now go check out the video on the product information for the Cush below and tell us....are you realllllllly 1 to 2 inches longer than that bad boy? Iol Because....OUCH! :D

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=22540

    When you see it stood upright on the table...I just think...Most porn stars are smaller than that! lol

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    I agree with all the women on here.. I've had sex with a variety of colours, girth, lengths of penis and it's the person operating the machinery that matters not the size... Tbh the bigger the penis the worse the experience in my case.. I think men with larger penis' tend to rely on the fact they have a big penis and don't put effort in anywhere else and they have been awful in bed..

    I don't have the problem with boob size as I'm above average, but do women have more of an issue now about how their vagina's look due to porn? I know this is a subject me and my OH have had.

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    datalogger wrote:

    Something that came to mind today got me thinking. So many women ask why men are so obsessed with their pens size. It's a good question and as a guy, I wish I had an answer. I spent some time online today and I find myself falling into the average range (using stats from wiki so I take that with a pinch of salt). Now Im quite sure that I would be more than happy being of average height, average weight, average looks etc. Yet to be frank I am not happy with my penis. It got me wondering why this is a department that average doesn't seem to be good enough. I can't even really explain a reason why Im not happy with an average cock. So I Wanted to get the opinions of others on this and what the guys thought.
    Do any girls have similar thoughts with regards to breast size? I guess this is harder as an average breast size is proportionate to your figure. Sorry if something similar has been posted before. The search function didn't return anything. Cheers guys and girls.

    I think its more down to the fact average sounds common therefore boring , bland or bog standard to most . Remember we live in an age where everything is hyped and marketed and touted and photoshopped to the point anything less is almost a waste of time . People have been brainwashed into thinking the more the merrier with the end result being a superficial existence based on an endless need for constant craving.

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    And that constant craving is what keeps consumers spending their money! :D Advertising genius really. Make people feel insecure about their flaws and sell them a product that will fix it.

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    I'd love to believe the average of 5.5"- 6" as this would make me a big guy. It might not be far off but I don't know how they measure or what age range, ethnic origin and so on. The newbie initiation test certainly defies this (no surprise there.) In the school playground about 8" was average. My answer was always 12" because lets face it if I was honest people would bust me down a few inches since nobody tells the truth anyway.

    This said it's what the parts are attached to are what matters. I'm well past caring about size, it's other things that let me down.

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    datalogger [sign in to see picture]
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    "sorry, but your brain's survival instincts do not consider your penis to be a vital organ, even if your ego does"
    best thing I've read all day :)

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    datalogger [sign in to see picture]
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    so...

    i didn't really anticipate this thread becoming another one of those "penis-size-conern threads" my question really was if and why men aren't happy with that average penis that they may and why when it comes to cocks, men want to "stand out from the crowd" so to speak. you don't really get that with many other body-factors

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    At the risk of over simplifying maybe it is just down to how we feel as men and women. A penis is a very male thing so maybe subconsciously for some there is an idea that bigger is better, the bigger the penis the more masculine they are the fact that its nonsense and is usually irrelevant to prospective partners doesn't change the way you feel deep down.
    Lets not forget these are often things that we hear from quite a young age, school yard comments, so they have a habit of staying with you.
    I personally have a partner who loves my body but that doesn't stop me from thinking my boobs are to small. Why? because years of seeing men ogle women with big breasts and admiring 'womanly figures' (as if having a small chest makes me less of a woman) has convinced me that's better and i won't change my mind on the matter.

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    I dont think its about size to be honest, Its about how its used ;) 

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    I happen to be above average (no im not just saying it out of some man pride thing) I don't really think my wife would care if i were smaller, she has never said anything about liking me being big.

    They are measured from the front at the very base where it meets your body to the tip (helps to have an erection!) Apparantly men get their biggest erections during a blow job.

    Yes i have measured myself, more out of curisoty i guess but i did care a little bit even though its not like i have any need or people to compare with its irrelivant

    Whats the point in a penis that can't get all the way in side anyway its less intimate isnt it?

    And yes Lou i believe this starts a lot from a school age, when you are in showers with other men and people look around and measure themselves up comments are made and so on.

    I doubt there are many people who wouldn't want to change something about themselves, there will probably be many that are saying "im happy and content im at ease with myself" and maybe they are or maybe they are saying that to hide the truth.

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    Apparently men get their biggest erections during a blow job.

    My OH say I'm Bigger with or after she has put something in me ass ;)
    I'm not happy cos I think I'm not that big, but OH loves it, suppose that's all that matters.

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    lol whatever works for you mate!

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    blackjag63 [sign in to see picture]
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    As long as OH is happy then I'm happy ;) we all have our own little kinks just finding them is the fun LOL

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    Perkalite [sign in to see picture]
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    I think im somewhat the other way, im trying to find something kinky i dont like :o 

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    My breasts are below average. They're an A/B cup but I'm really happy with them. I think they're perky, and sometimes I find it anoying that I don't really have much of a cleavage but I just wear underwear that suits me and makes me look good. Breast size doesn't bother me at all, and it hasn't seemed to have bothered the guys I've been with (my boyfriend now is more of an ass man anyway!) in fact they like how perky they are.

    Regarding penis size, I'm pretty tight so too big for me is just painful!!! One of the guys I was with had a pretty small penis but I found that the way we fit together just hit a spot, and it was the closest I've ever come to having an orgasm through sex. As long as you can get it up thats fine with me! My first boyfriend was pretty big but he had a little issue with his erections... which was always a mood killer and the reason the relationship crumbled!

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    Just read through this thread because i was wondering what real women actually thought about size issues. A recent article on AOL, which i thought was highly patronising towards men, apparently found that the ideal penis size was just over 8"!!

    Breast size for me is simply not important, if anything i actually prefer them NOT to be huge or fake looking, that turns me off.

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    Funny how people don't think of things like how tall a person is in this thread. I was a kid with growth disorders I can tell you that being short hurts you much worse than having a small cock. Nobody actually know how big someone's cock is until they see it.

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