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    ADVICE NEEDED!!

    33yr old guy.

    most times (these days) wen me and OH have intercourse i only last maybe 10-40 seconds b4 i pop (my word for cumming), this leaves my wife unforfilled (she is a super cool lady no she does not have a goat me for it.), i REALLY want to last longer. in the past i have, not sure y now more times than not i can not last...... suppose saying that my wife is HOT ant a real reason y ? lol

    any help would be verry cool. thanks.. a question too...

    1. is it true that a wank every other day helps controling how long u last b4 POP? , as in it helps to streinthan the muscles uesd in sex?? think i red something once..but not sure/

    Thanks.

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    Hi

    I'm sorry you're having this problem, definitely something that can mentally get on top of you and cause you to worry everytime you get down to business. The mental aspect is more than likely weighing you down - do you go into sex expecting to pre-ejac? If so, that's the mental part kicking in.

    Do you have foreplay before penetration? If so, it might be worth you blowing off during that as part of foreplay and then having intercourse when you get hard again - having popped already you should have more staying power as a result. If you would be embarassed to do that then masturbating before sex should also slow you down.

    There is medical help you can get for this too - there is counselling available to help you to push past whatever is causing this issue - as this hasn't happened all the time you might want to think about something that changed and could have caused this to happen.

    In the short term, communicate with your wife how you are feeling - do you feel bad because she is left unfulfilled? Have you tried using sex toys as part of sex so that she can have an orgasm before penetration/oral sex? There are also delay sprays that you can buy from here - I believe this contain a local anaesthetic agent to help numb the sensations of sex and thus helping you to last longer.

    Good luck !

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    Danslack, you would probably not be surprised to know that the "average" guy lasts about 3 minutes, on average? Anyway, to try and help you:

    1) Pelvic floor exercises can help. (When you go to pee, stop the flow of urine. This is the same muscles you should squeeze and relax to train your pelvic floor muscles.) Doing this regularily will give you better control at holding back when you get close to the edge. You can Google detailed guides and advice by checking out something like "Pelvic floor exercises to help premature ejaculation" or something similar.

    2) Stressing/worrying about the issue can actually make it worse. So I have heard. I know it is not easy not to worry when you feel like there is a problem, but if you can relax more about it, it will probably help a bit.

    3) Not sure that wanking every other day would help everyone. It may help some people to masturbate a few hours/day before sex, the idea being that the second orgasm takes longer to build up and therefore you last longer. Sometimes this method doesnt help though, because, like you mentioned, your arousal is more heightened with your OH.

    4) You can try wearing condoms to lessen the sensations you get from sex. I would not recommend a delay spray unless you also intend to wear a condom, because delay sprays contain numbing agent that can just rub off inside your lady, causing her to go numb or even have a reaction to it.

    5) Rather than wanking and cumming every other day, you could try edging. Practising edging will help you gain more control, figure out where your tipping point is and train you to be able to resist the urge to cum. You can practise it alone or even with your partner.

    6) You could always pleasure your lady in other ways too (I guess you do anyway) but the point being that sex doesn't have to be the big finale or the end act. If your lady likes to be penetrated you can always use fingers, dildos etc.

    Women tend to take longer than men to reach orgasm, so you are not alone with this. It is a very common situation (I would not call it a problem, it is pretty normal and natural)

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    We like to have a lot of foreplay when we have sex, so by the time it comes to having sex I find it difficult to last much more than a minute. Then I find it difficult to get back into the mood at all that night.
    I recently got some sildenafil (non branded viagra) from the website of a high-street pharmacy. Three times now I have taken half a tablet and what a difference! I don't get the constant, uncontrollable erection you may associate with viagra, but I am noticibly harder and not only do I last longer; I am able to go again within minutes (leaving mrs h much more satisfied than before)
    While this may not work for everyone and probably isn't a sensible long term solution, it is something you should consider

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    Hi landmark, Fluffbags advice is all good. Pelvic floor exercise is a great way to help. When you have learnt by her method of Pee stopping. You can progress to a laying a wet flannel over your erection and practice lifting it with your cock. Then progress to a hand towel and then a bath towel. Then finally a damp bath towel. Once you have this muscle control as you are about to come you squeeze this muscle and it will stop you climaxing.

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    What helped me is Delay condoms, they numb you slightly and you feel less, my biggest problem even now is our foreplay is so intense and extreme that I'm almost ready to blow before we start, I get my OH to sit on me first so I not doing anything and I can calm down a bit. Never suffered from PE until we started our extreme sex life and it's only now because I'm so turned on!

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    Ste wrote:

    Hi

    I'm sorry you're having this problem, definitely something that can mentally get on top of you and cause you to worry everytime you get down to business. The mental aspect is more than likely weighing you down - do you go into sex expecting to pre-ejac? If so, that's the mental part kicking in.

    Do you have foreplay before penetration? If so, it might be worth you blowing off during that as part of foreplay and then having intercourse when you get hard again - having popped already you should have more staying power as a result. If you would be embarassed to do that then masturbating before sex should also slow you down.

    There is medical help you can get for this too - there is counselling available to help you to push past whatever is causing this issue - as this hasn't happened all the time you might want to think about something that changed and could have caused this to happen.

    In the short term, communicate with your wife how you are feeling - do you feel bad because she is left unfulfilled? Have you tried using sex toys as part of sex so that she can have an orgasm before penetration/oral sex? There are also delay sprays that you can buy from here - I believe this contain a local anaesthetic agent to help numb the sensations of sex and thus helping you to last longer.

    Good luck !

    i/ we have chatted about it a bit now, have off and on for a little time. we used to have foreplay some times b4 intercourse yep..she said that sometimes works...sometimes i look hot she says and its easy to make her pop and some times not. i might try popping at forelay so can last wen get hard again.....

    i feel bad coz she is not fulfilled yep. sex toys..she/we have some... i dont think she likes me useing them on her (can not recall, not dun that in a while...its a good thing tho), will ask now tho. i think its the feel of her wen im iside... she feels real nice lol. i got some cream from LH... did not work (in reviews) iv orderd some other stuff... (in my sex toy wish list) that knumms my cock...and i got some "manhammer" pills (not tryed yet.) but there is some big family health issues that are happening at the mo (not us 2 tho) that might be not helping both of us at the mo.

    thanks man. :)

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    Yes man wrote:

    What helped me is Delay condoms, they numb you slightly and you feel less, my biggest problem even now is our foreplay is so intense and extreme that I'm almost ready to blow before we start, I get my OH to sit on me first so I not doing anything and I can calm down a bit. Never suffered from PE until we started our extreme sex life and it's only now because I'm so turned on!

    tryed a deley the second to last time... realy silly Q but.. how long after u put it on did u have intercourse or any kind of stilulation to u cock? .. i put it on and then she got on top of me and we started...might of been 20-35 seconds i lasted. :(

    like u, i think the knolage of some thing really cool and fun is about to happen gets me too... im realy turned on with her and stuff that..... well....... u know.. :( lol.

    thanks, feel bit better now.

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    Fluffbags wrote:

    Danslack, you would probably not be surprised to know that the "average" guy lasts about 3 minutes, on average? Anyway, to try and help you:

    1) Pelvic floor exercises can help. (When you go to pee, stop the flow of urine. This is the same muscles you should squeeze and relax to train your pelvic floor muscles.) Doing this regularily will give you better control at holding back when you get close to the edge. You can Google detailed guides and advice by checking out something like "Pelvic floor exercises to help premature ejaculation" or something similar.

    2) Stressing/worrying about the issue can actually make it worse. So I have heard. I know it is not easy not to worry when you feel like there is a problem, but if you can relax more about it, it will probably help a bit.

    3) Not sure that wanking every other day would help everyone. It may help some people to masturbate a few hours/day before sex, the idea being that the second orgasm takes longer to build up and therefore you last longer. Sometimes this method doesnt help though, because, like you mentioned, your arousal is more heightened with your OH.

    4) You can try wearing condoms to lessen the sensations you get from sex. I would not recommend a delay spray unless you also intend to wear a condom, because delay sprays contain numbing agent that can just rub off inside your lady, causing her to go numb or even have a reaction to it.

    5) Rather than wanking and cumming every other day, you could try edging. Practising edging will help you gain more control, figure out where your tipping point is and train you to be able to resist the urge to cum. You can practise it alone or even with your partner.

    6) You could always pleasure your lady in other ways too (I guess you do anyway) but the point being that sex doesn't have to be the big finale or the end act. If your lady likes to be penetrated you can always use fingers, dildos etc.

    Women tend to take longer than men to reach orgasm, so you are not alone with this. It is a very common situation (I would not call it a problem, it is pretty normal and natural)

    hi. thanks, was a good read :)

    1. i will try that now, thats sort of the thing i ment for no3. "masterbating reg". lol. but i will start that today.

    2. going to try.. my wife is having a hard time at the moment (we both are), some bad/big family health stuff going on...for about a mouth+ now. thats not guna help is it! ..thats y im so pissed off with myself..she needs the pop/release to let go of some stress and stuff.

    3. again, thought it might be the same sort of thing as the "stop-start pee" thing... maybe i will try "stop-start" wen i have a wank?. (sorry for imagr :S ).

    4. always with a condom....i just like useing them... iv tryed a cream..was pooo! (in reveiws) and have ordered a nother numing cram/thing to try (in wish list) also have manhammer pills to try.

    5..... cool. will defo try.

    6. for got to add.. we have twokids one 4 1/2. the other 2+. sometimes finding time to have fun is hard and sometimes not for too long.. so think we just start with intercourse... she told me yesterday that sometimes my fingers dont work aswell sometimes (i have in past made her cum 2,3 times from "magic fingers", so sometimes they work and some they dont...) also she said that sometimes a small pop is worse than no pop at all and the fingers mostly give her a small-ish pop. also she know how she wants her vibe on her clitt..so i dont tend to use her toy.

    thanks for all the adives... u guys a very cool.... feeling better :)

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    danslack wrote:

    Yes man wrote:

    What helped me is Delay condoms, they numb you slightly and you feel less, my biggest problem even now is our foreplay is so intense and extreme that I'm almost ready to blow before we start, I get my OH to sit on me first so I not doing anything and I can calm down a bit. Never suffered from PE until we started our extreme sex life and it's only now because I'm so turned on!

    tryed a deley the second to last time... realy silly Q but.. how long after u put it on did u have intercourse or any kind of stilulation to u cock? .. i put it on and then she got on top of me and we started...might of been 20-35 seconds i lasted. :(

    like u, i think the knolage of some thing really cool and fun is about to happen gets me too... im realy turned on with her and stuff that..... well....... u know.. :( lol.

    thanks, feel bit better now.

    We normally stop doing something to me about 10 - 15 mins before I go in as she can get me close just with her mouth in seconds, she's learnt how to fully deep throat the bitch! Lol I then play with her only or she has as play but I'm left alone, I put the condom on about 5 mins before as you have to let the delay substance do its thing, if its pussy or anal she always goes on top first and we take it really slow at first and then let things take it course after! Another thing we have noticed is before we started having very regular sex my OH was very tight so always needed lube so the sensation was very intense, this was obviously the same when we started anal sex! Since we have been very active things have got a lot easier as she is, for want of a more flattering word, bigger. She even likes the fact that she is stretched as sex is so much easier. She has also been stretching her ass as she likes it and it makes anal at lot easier, still very intense for her but not as much for me!
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    Yes man wrote:

    danslack wrote:

    Yes man wrote:

    What helped me is Delay condoms, they numb you slightly and you feel less, my biggest problem even now is our foreplay is so intense and extreme that I'm almost ready to blow before we start, I get my OH to sit on me first so I not doing anything and I can calm down a bit. Never suffered from PE until we started our extreme sex life and it's only now because I'm so turned on!

    tryed a deley the second to last time... realy silly Q but.. how long after u put it on did u have intercourse or any kind of stilulation to u cock? .. i put it on and then she got on top of me and we started...might of been 20-35 seconds i lasted. :(

    like u, i think the knolage of some thing really cool and fun is about to happen gets me too... im realy turned on with her and stuff that..... well....... u know.. :( lol.

    thanks, feel bit better now.

    We normally stop doing something to me about 10 - 15 mins before I go in as she can get me close just with her mouth in seconds, she's learnt how to fully deep throat the bitch! Lol I then play with her only or she has as play but I'm left alone, I put the condom on about 5 mins before as you have to let the delay substance do its thing, if its pussy or anal she always goes on top first and we take it really slow at first and then let things take it course after! Another thing we have noticed is before we started having very regular sex my OH was very tight so always needed lube so the sensation was very intense, this was obviously the same when we started anal sex! Since we have been very active things have got a lot easier as she is, for want of a more flattering word, bigger. She even likes the fact that she is stretched as sex is so much easier. She has also been stretching her ass as she likes it and it makes anal at lot easier, still very intense for her but not as much for me!

    cool. like my last post/reply says..... 2 kids, not much time,... so most offten just get straight to the intercoures bit... had good advice on here so lots to try.

    next time we try/use a deley.. i will try to wait longer for it to do wat it does. slow at first dont realy matter... i think its a mix or me being sensative cock wise, HER BEING HOT, the excitment of getting some off her lol.and the fact that we dont finf time that often,,so like u said...she is tight,, so more often we do it the "bigger" she will be...(use ur word lol). thanks

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    danslack wrote:

    Yes man wrote:

    danslack wrote:

    Yes man wrote:

    What helped me is Delay condoms, they numb you slightly and you feel less, my biggest problem even now is our foreplay is so intense and extreme that I'm almost ready to blow before we start, I get my OH to sit on me first so I not doing anything and I can calm down a bit. Never suffered from PE until we started our extreme sex life and it's only now because I'm so turned on!

    tryed a deley the second to last time... realy silly Q but.. how long after u put it on did u have intercourse or any kind of stilulation to u cock? .. i put it on and then she got on top of me and we started...might of been 20-35 seconds i lasted. :(

    like u, i think the knolage of some thing really cool and fun is about to happen gets me too... im realy turned on with her and stuff that..... well....... u know.. :( lol.

    thanks, feel bit better now.

    We normally stop doing something to me about 10 - 15 mins before I go in as she can get me close just with her mouth in seconds, she's learnt how to fully deep throat the bitch! Lol I then play with her only or she has as play but I'm left alone, I put the condom on about 5 mins before as you have to let the delay substance do its thing, if its pussy or anal she always goes on top first and we take it really slow at first and then let things take it course after! Another thing we have noticed is before we started having very regular sex my OH was very tight so always needed lube so the sensation was very intense, this was obviously the same when we started anal sex! Since we have been very active things have got a lot easier as she is, for want of a more flattering word, bigger. She even likes the fact that she is stretched as sex is so much easier. She has also been stretching her ass as she likes it and it makes anal at lot easier, still very intense for her but not as much for me!

    cool. like my last post/reply says..... 2 kids, not much time,... so most offten just get straight to the intercoures bit... had good advice on here so lots to try.

    next time we try/use a deley.. i will try to wait longer for it to do wat it does. slow at first dont realy matter... i think its a mix or me being sensative cock wise, HER BEING HOT, the excitment of getting some off her lol.and the fact that we dont finf time that often,,so like u said...she is tight,, so more often we do it the "bigger" she will be...(use ur word lol). thanks

    We've got 2 kids also, 8 & 10, we're just used to having very late nights now, some nights we don't finish till 2am, most nights its 12 to 1am, I've got used to the limited sleep as it well worth it!
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    Safe to say I can not be a expert on you and how you work but for me I can get too mentally stimulated to be able to last for very long. For example: If my fiancée is really really turned on by something I have done to her I might get caught in her excitement mentally and not be able to last for very long. However, taking a moment to "cool myself off" mentally helps this, I can for example direct my thoughts to my fingers for a moment to really concentrate on stimulating her with them and keep at it there to keep me from getting to mentally aroused too fast.

    Second thing that makes me last longer is if she has given me a blowjob and stopped before it "went too far" and then I have concentrated on her for a few minutes. By doing this the "initial senseation" will not get too good too fast as I will be used to her giving me pleasure when I enter her and by such be more used to great pleasure abd last a lot longer.

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    not Quoteing... tooo long lol..

    2 kids too..cool.. think at this stage in our lives we r both knackerd at the night... the kids have some specil needs and i fin a 5:30pm-9:30pm work shift 4 week nights a week, by the time im home at 10pm...its tea n chill.. but day time fun is wen we normaly grad wat time we can :)

    but get wat ur saying :)

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    Hi mate,

    A couple of points from someone that has exerienced the same in the past:

    Try to mellow out a little on the run up to the event you may well be excessively sub consiously siking yourself up prior to the event.

    Do more foreplay to her before you enter her, satisfy her first. Use toys to assist her in becoming fulfilled.

    Enter her very slowly during oral sex then withdraw before the final act is performed and carry on with oral foreplay. Keep repeating until she wants you to cum :-)

    DO NOT over think the issue

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    Ryuudoragon wrote:

    Hi mate,

    A couple of points from someone that has exerienced the same in the past:

    Try to mellow out a little on the run up to the event you may well be excessively sub consiously siking yourself up prior to the event.

    Do more foreplay to her before you enter her, satisfy her first. Use toys to assist her in becoming fulfilled.

    Enter her very slowly during oral sex then withdraw before the final act is performed and carry on with oral foreplay. Keep repeating until she wants you to cum :-)

    DO NOT over think the issue

    good advice, thanks. but like i said in post above, 2kids, some health stuff with them and evening work..dont get much time to have fun, so wen do its not much time , so its intercoursemostly first. also, thats what she is mostly in mood for at the time... but wen we do get time, we try wat uv said. thanks its cool advice :)

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    We all work in that manic mad lifestyle now buddy, health issues, work issues, family pressures, lifestyle pressures its affecting us all!!!

    Try to make some minor lifestyle changes, if possible get a relative to assist with the little people etc if only for a couple of hours, then make time for the both of you even if its going out for a walk, lunch in the local pub or booking a local hotel room for two hours (nudge nudge wink wink) :-)

    Good luck

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    UPDATE..

    we tryed the "China Brush Delay Solution 3ml"

    i told her id put some on and i wanted to test it by her giving me a hand job... "No!.. might as well test it fully" she said.

    5 mins later..and.. no pop for me...... about 10 mins later she POPPED! a big 1.. :P

    yep, that works..maybe too well coz 40 mins or so after we started i still had not popped...got close a few times watching her use her vibe on her clit (2 more pops for her), had to fininsh myself offafter 40 mins.

    think i put a little to much on the end of me.... it was hard work just for me to cum. if u guys try it then dont ues much, it works.

    got some LH Stay lube to try next :P

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