• [guide] Performing cunnilingus (or eating pussy)

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    mrsdivine69 [sign in to see picture]
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    Fluffbags wrote:

    mrsdivine69 wrote:

    Fluffbags wrote:

    It was not my intention to make you feel unwelcome. Your opinion is just as valid as mine. We don't have to agree on everything. If everyone thought the same it would be a boring old world and a boring old forum!

    PS: Agreed....This is a fab guide.

    Finally Mrs D & Fluffbags agrees.

    Maybe we do have something in common after all.......................

    Shhhhhh! The universe may implode if it finds out! lol x

    I shall await your friendship request. lol

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    Frisky freckles [sign in to see picture]
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    Very good guide , if I ever get sex and oral sex especially I will get my guy whenever I find him to give me great pleasure by following the advice.

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    Ste [sign in to see picture]
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    Oh wow.

    I've not been monitoring this thread or the forum in general much the past couple of weeks due to ill health and i'm overwhelmed by the amount of comments on here. Thank you to everyone who has submitted positive feedback, i'm happy that I managed to write something eloquent that made sense!

    Few people who raised comments:

    Firstly, I definitely get that eating pussy and all similar variants can be taken as cringeworthy. Not the intention, I simply struggled to find other appropriate wording at the time!

    @Topcat07

    It's important to realise that indeed, every woman is different and will have preferences (which can also change) from hard pressure to gentle as an example. It's very important for your partner to communicate to you what she likes the most and if she wants more pressure/faster movements and on what area. If she doesn't know then you can (and should) turn it into an enjoyable learning experience for both of you.

    As an example, my partner loves me to firmly use the tip of my tongue where her clit meets the clit hood, she also like me dragging the flat of my tongue slowly over her entire vulva. It really is all about communication and finding out what your lady likes.

    Also, don't worry about being inexperienced as we have all been there! Practice practice practice!

    @Alastor

    I completely agree with everything you said about consistency. If your lady is clearly getting off on what you are the doing, the worst thing you can do is completely change. Rhythm, pressure, motion are all things you should not change if your lady is enjoying herself.

    Also, a communicative woman *IS* a massive turnon, and very very important.

    @mrsdivine69

    Thanks for the compliment. However, I disagree with much of what you wrote.

    For too long men have been expected to know what to do to please a woman, for the man to be the quintessential alpha male and to take control and for the female to simply accept what is given.

    Your post highlights this issue.

    It may come as a surprise to find that someone who has had two sexual partners was able to write the guide that you praised so much. One of these was a woman who expected body-trembling orgasms whilst communicating nothing and expecting a high level of skill. This same woman had been with over ten partners at the time and complained than none of them were able to bring her to orgasm through oral sex.

    It is so so easy to expect a man to simply get down to business and know what to do. Men are not born with the knowledge or skillset to provide excellent oral. It is learned and skill develops over a period of time with that partner. Whilst my guide highlights the major key points, on each of them there will be varying nuances from partner to partner, and the journey to excellent oral with each partner requires effort, commitment, dedicated and COMMUNICATION from BOTH sides.

    On the flip side, if a guy slams a woman for providing poor oral is that the woman's fault? Whilst oral on a man is siginifcantly easier as everything is visible, again each man has their own niche that needs to be communicated to derive maximum pleasure. It works both ways but for so long women have had the attitude that you have portrated in your post and I find it very narrow-minded.

    As an aside having read your posts over this weekend, I think you need to be more considered when posting as I, and several others, have found your overtly flirtatious tones rather nauseating.

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    Alastor [sign in to see picture]
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    Ouch!

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    Wish I'd had this guide when I was a naughty schoolboy.

    Maybe I'd have reached degree standard in cunnilingus quicker.

    Simply Divine Darling.......................

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    It is so so easy to expect a man to simply get down to business and know what to do. Men are not born with the knowledge or skillset to provide excellent oral

    Sorry but in this day and age I have to disagree with some of this. Back in the days before the internet or of 'normal' sex shops on high streets the info available to men or women was limited to the nth degree. That changed some years ago. Communication as has been said in threads every week on here is key to a healthy sexual relationship; However, with the freedom of information out there it is within any individuals grasp to learn more about tips, tricks, techniques - call them what you will.

    Bottom line is that the perfect considerate lovers will have an arsenal of those techniques, will bring them out randomly to avoid stagnation, will communicate with each to let each other know what 'is doing it for them THAT day, and will look to see what they can add to their bag for future encounters. Not to denigrate the original essay, but the idea that one size fits all doesn't sit well....a personal trainer would likely do someone serious harm if they didn't watch and pick up every nuance of their trainees condition throughout their session, similarly the trainee would be a fool not not alert the trainer to what hurts, how they feel etc. There's a basic start point for many things in life, how one proceeds after that is purely individual, and as mentioned, if people can't find that basic info these days they're sadly lazy or unimaginative.

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    Keep it friendly, everyone. We are a community, debate is fine but this discussion has become unfriendly. Everyone is welcome in the forum, I don't like the mini war that is breaking out here! It's nice to be nice. Please could everyone take a minute to reread the forum rules and remember the spirit of the forum is friendship and advice. Discussion is encouraged but don't make it personal. Thanks everyone and have a great Sunday :)
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    Alastor [sign in to see picture]
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    Morning Steph! Hope the shift goes ok.

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    Alastor wrote:

    Morning Steph! Hope the shift goes ok.

    Thanks Alastor, I'm actually at home in my onesie! Just thought I'd have a little read of the forum in my free time :)
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    mrsdivine69 [sign in to see picture]
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    Alastor wrote:

    Ouch!

    I didn't feel a thing ;)

    Hark, it that cracking whips I hear?

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    Alastor [sign in to see picture]
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    mrsdivine69 wrote:

    Alastor wrote:

    Ouch!

    I didn't feel a thing ;)

    Hark, it that cracking whips I hear?

    Might be! Work all done?

    More tedious drivel has been added to my latest btw. Oh! and M ultra pleased when I told her about your comment last night. xx

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    WOW! what a wonderful description of pussy eating (which i like the terminology of) im very lucky and have been with my man for over 20 years and your erotic post was very sexy and made me think that really you have described the way my partner makes me feel and feels when we do such intimate things together it makes it even hotter! if you are lucky enough to meet your soul mate you learn as you go along what you both like and "pussy eating" is defo one i like!!!

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    I LOVE licking and sucking a woman! It's so cool you wrote this, it's basically exactly how i do it i love sucking her clit too and making noise and cute faces for her but i just love it so much rrrrrrr im such a perv lol

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    Ste [sign in to see picture]
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    Quite old now but wanted to say thanks to everyone who responded to this, I appreciate it!

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    i love eating pussy , must admit i was not too keen in my younger years , but i look back now and realize what i missed out on , especially when its the 69 position as well #pureheaven

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    One of my friends has been with an obscene amount of women... and has never sampled the divine delights of cunnilingus or analingus, the poor bugger

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    Thanks Ste for this thread; I don't have a great deal of experience in going down on a woman, so this provided a good starting point, although I would agree with Heatseekher in that I doubt there's a 'one size, fits all' method to cunnilingus, but at least you steered some of us licking neophytes in the right direction.

    The only woman I've been with so far is my ex. I really wanted to do all I could to please her, but she was quiet as a tomb in bed. I really wanted to give her oral, but I couldn't advance far, as she just wasn't telling me what was feeling good, or guide me to try something else. She was my first and a lot of the time, it was hard knowing what I wanted, or knowing what she was willing to do. I guess I relied too much on her greater experience.

    My current gf are long-distance atm, and our conversations almost inevitably turn to the bedroom. We talk about toys, positions, things we'd like to try, even dreams we've had (at one time, realising we'd had the exact same erotic dream on the same night, only from our own POV!) and I think this all helps us to get to know our bedroom selves, as much as our day-to-day conversations teach each other about the other aspects of our nature. Not least because I'm her first, so the tables have turned, in a sense. But I'm man enough to admit I have much to learn and am more than willing to learn how to please her most, if she can teach me all she can; we'll be the teacher and student to each other.

    What I'm saying (if I'm saying anything, because I may have taken to rambling now) is that notwithstanding all the differences between our genders, at least one thread of commonality remains:- we're not bloody mind-readers! And while the phrase 'communication is key's might be a well-worn trail, it's one that hopefully lead to enlightenment.

    And frankly, my gf and I are very much looking forward to the beginning of 'school'!

    (and if you've stuck with me this long, you have my apologies and gratitude in equal measure!)😊

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    Great guide buddy.. A few of us guys could learn a few tricks there but I've always enjoyed going down on a woman especially if she kneels and straddles my face so it's just me tuning in to her desires, I love it and couldn't be more happier in this position. My OH can cum like a waterfall and I find that by doing so then I guess I'm doing a good job

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