• What's your cheating threshold

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    DavidB1986 [sign in to see picture]
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    None of the above classify as cheating in my book. Cheating is anything where intimate feelings or actions are reciprocated by your partner and a third party. But as with several others, if they became dependent on those things listed, rather than spending intimate time with me, then i'd have a problem.

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    flaneur [sign in to see picture]
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    I've rephrased the questions to make them a bit more interesting, I made a bit of a mistake by focussing on the cheating part too much. To save some googling real touch is an interactive sex device where you can have a primitive form of sex online.

    If your guy owned any of these before you met him, would you make him get rid of them?

    Would you be okay with him using these if you were miles apart?

    1. Using real touch with preset programs

    2. Using real touch online with another person

    3. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening which is a mould from an ex

    4. Using a love doll modelled on an an ex

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    LetsTryThis [sign in to see picture]
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    A mould of an ex, that would be freaky. Must admit that one may bother me because although it is a solo act, it's based upon a 'real' person. Porn star stuff like the fleshlights don't bother me because the guy wouldn't have met them.

    The using *anything* online with another person would bother me. Because this is intimate and interactive.

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    LauraP [sign in to see picture]
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    Cheating as far as I'm concerned is a relationship involving physical, emotional or mental intimacy that the other person doesn't feel is right. If they can't tell me about it it's cheating.

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    69happydays [sign in to see picture]
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    I agree showing any sort of affection in a sexual way towards another other person than your partner is classed as cheating in my eyes.

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    Laveila [sign in to see picture]
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    Personally anything involving another person would bother me. Including doing anything with someone online. This does not include discussing sex theorethically like we do on this forum, but anything interacting or trying to arouse each other would bother me.

    Using a mould made from an ex would not make me fully comfortable either. I guess I would not like the reminder of the partner which was before me. Especially as they shared very intimate connection. I would not be trully comfortable with it.

    Anything involving toy etc in solo play is not cheating for me. I would not even consider cheating thinking about someone else during it. I would only get worried if it became obsession, but admitably? How many people thought about havng sex with someone else during solo play but their partner? From what I heard from people round me a lot. Even if it is just faceless stranger.

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    I don't consider any of those to be cheating....

    If she/he was to be touching or doing stuff with another person that would be cheating...

    I don't mind my wife looking at other men as long as she doesn't touch or explore them in more detail

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    For me if he even texted another girl (like that) behind my back, but if he shagged someone in front of me it would be fine lol. We're all different at the end of the day x

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    I don't consider any of those to be cheating, though I'd prefer it if he didn't use a love doll. Isn't cheating though, just a bit of a turn off for me. If it's a turn on for him that's fair enough as long as I didn't have to participate.

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    I wouldn't consider any of them cheating .. however I would rather it not be a secret .. if he likes porn , dolls whatever .. it would be nice to share our sexual fantasies ...

    Cheating however is any form of intimacy with another person I feel .. sexting and cybersex included .. kissing , holding hands .. it's that connection you have and if you are doing that with someone else you're cheating in my eyes.

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    I would consider anything involving anyone else cheating and I would be very worried if he did any of the above behind my back. I'd rather know and make an informed decision rather than finding out and immediately assuming he's cheating.

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    Almost forgot this thread. I started it because there's a chance I might be living with woman soon and I was debating how much trouble to go to in order to hide my little stash. I own one of everything on the list except for the dolls. From that point of view I'll keep them in the closet firmly to save me from answering those questions.

    For the cheating part, I've heard too much of the cheating in your heart type stuff. I have to admit I have no idea what I'd think if I found my girl using a dildo that was a mould of her ex.

    Mammame wrote:

    For me if he even texted another girl (like that) behind my back, but if he shagged someone in front of me it would be fine lol. We're all different at the end of the day x

    Love this comment I've had people cheat on me openly before, I'm still keeping my collection hidden.

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    Fiery_WA [sign in to see picture]
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    Judge not lest ye be judged.

    Each person has their own reasons for "cheating"

    I am going to be brutally honest, I was married for 15 years, left because of physical abuse, entered into a defacto relationship, which I am still in.

    For the past 15 years my OH has never once seen to my needs (I'm talking about the big O), I need direct clitorial stimulation, he doesn't like going down, I know there are other ways he could have seen to my needs, but he never took and interest, as long as he got his rocks off he was happy, and to a degree while disappointed in his lack of interest in my needs, I was happy enough at least to be getting something.

    Then 3 years ago we were going at it and all of a sudden he just hopped off. It took him awhile to admit he had lost his libido, and has no desire to get it back, not even to see to my needs (why would he, he hasn't for the past 15 years.) Andropause (male menopause).

    "Cheating" never crossed my mind, I wasn't raised that way. So 3 years ago toy usuage started, I have always been a very private person, so when I first started with the toy's I would lock the bedroom door, then I thought maybe if he see's me playing it might interest him, so I left the bedroom door ajar, he has come in several times. looked at what I was doing, done an about face, and closed the door on the way out.

    After 3 years of toy usuage only, I was missing out on the intimacy of being naked and wanted as a sexual being. So I did something I never thought I would do, and look for a Lover.

    I am now 50, and I am happy to say I have found myself a 43 yo Lover, we are exclusive to each other. (I am not a bed hopper nor do I want to become one), my lover is married, so we have a NSA (No Strings Attached) affair that is ongoing.

    My lover has made me feel like a woman again, he thinks me as sexy, and tells me I am. a term neither my Ex Husband or Defacto have ever told me. He is smoking hot, and I still have my now 25yo baby belly plus extra weight,

    Neither of us are out to hurt our respective partners, but being honest, where I thought I would feel guilt, I now feel extreme pleasure in our discreet rendezvous.

    I am once again feeling like a desirable wanted woman.

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    mrs.hiskett [sign in to see picture]
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    All them are toys.tgeres not emtional attachment so i wouldnt class any them as cheating

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    Ink and Kink [sign in to see picture]
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    I don't consider anything cheating unless there is another person involved.

    anything from physical to sexy texting etc. If they have to hide anything from me that has something to fo with another person, they're already cheating.

    Masturbating, watching porn, sex dolls whatever. I dont see that as cheating in the slightest.

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    innocent-fun [sign in to see picture]
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    I don't consider toys/porn as cheating, as there's no person involved. If they had a dependence on these things or hid them from me, that would cause an issue, not one that couldn't be fixed.
    I see cheating as more than physical. Yes if they have sex with someone else, of course that's cheating. But if I found my husband had been having more of an emotional attachment to another person than me, I would consider that cheating.

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    sassykitten;) [sign in to see picture]
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    Same as others as long as no ones involved I dont really consider it cheating ... although id be freaked if I saw a sex doll simply coz doll especially china ones freak me out n im petrified of clowns

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    sassykitten;) wrote:

    Same as others as long as no ones involved I dont really consider it cheating ... although id be freaked if I saw a sex doll simply coz doll especially china ones freak me out n im petrified of clowns

    +1 Couldn't even look at my children's dolls ! Damn things eyes used to follow me, I swear they did !

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    Fluffbags wrote:

    I wouldn't class any of that list cheating either. Cheating for me, starts at a kiss or some naughty texts to another person that insinuate that he wants to have sex or an emotional cheating with someone else. However, like LetstryThis says, if he was turning me down night after night to play solo with toys instead, I would not be happy at that point.

    I feel the same as a women that has bin cheated on I wouldn't class any of them as cheating bit doing them in secret behind my bk I wouldn't be happy with either x

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    Sum Sub wrote:

    taraman wrote:

    blonde vixen13 wrote:

    I wouldn't consider any of the list cheating but if he had a love doll I would be a bit put off.

    Cheating to me involves another living breathing person

    Completely agree!

    +1 (whatever that means but seen other people use it to mean I agree)

    completely agree on this

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