• What's your cheating threshold

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    DavidB1986 [sign in to see picture]
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    None of the above classify as cheating in my book. Cheating is anything where intimate feelings or actions are reciprocated by your partner and a third party. But as with several others, if they became dependent on those things listed, rather than spending intimate time with me, then i'd have a problem. 

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    flaneur [sign in to see picture]
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    I've rephrased the questions to make them a bit more interesting, I made a bit of a mistake by focussing on the cheating part too much. To save some googling real touch is an interactive sex device where you can have a primitive form of sex online.

    If your guy owned any of these before you met him, would you make him get rid of them?

    Would you be okay with him using these if you were miles apart?

    1. Using real touch with preset programs

    2. Using real touch online with another person

    3. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening which is a mould from an ex

    4. Using a love doll modelled on an an ex

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    LetsTryThis [sign in to see picture]
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    A mould of an ex, that would be freaky. Must admit that one may bother me because although it is a solo act, it's based upon a 'real' person. Porn star stuff like the fleshlights don't bother me because the guy wouldn't have met them.

    The using *anything* online with another person would bother me. Because this is intimate and interactive.

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    LauraP [sign in to see picture]
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    Cheating as far as I'm concerned is a relationship involving physical, emotional or mental intimacy that the other person doesn't feel is right. If they can't tell me about it it's cheating.

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    69happydays [sign in to see picture]
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    I agree showing any sort of affection in a sexual way towards another other person than your partner is classed as cheating in my eyes.

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    Laveila [sign in to see picture]
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    Personally anything involving another person would bother me. Including doing anything with someone online. This does not include discussing sex theorethically like we do on this forum, but anything interacting or trying to arouse each other would bother me.

    Using a mould made from an ex would not make me fully comfortable either. I guess I would not like the reminder of the partner which was before me. Especially as they shared very intimate connection. I would not be trully comfortable with it.

    Anything involving toy etc in solo play is not cheating for me. I would not even consider cheating thinking about someone else during it. I would only get worried if it became obsession, but admitably? How many people thought about havng sex with someone else during solo play but their partner? From what I heard from people round me a lot. Even if it is just faceless stranger.

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    Dragonfly86 [sign in to see picture]
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    I don't consider any of those to be cheating....

    If she/he was to be touching or doing stuff with another person that would be cheating...

    I don't mind my wife looking at other men as long as she doesn't touch or explore them in more detail

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    Mammame [sign in to see picture]
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    For me if he even texted another girl (like that) behind my back, but if he shagged someone in front of me it would be fine lol. We're all different at the end of the day x

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    sexynurse09 [sign in to see picture]
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    I don't consider any of those to be cheating, though I'd prefer it if he didn't use a love doll. Isn't cheating though, just a bit of a turn off for me. If it's a turn on for him that's fair enough as long as I didn't have to participate.

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    Karenlea [sign in to see picture]
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    I wouldn't consider any of them cheating .. however I would rather it not be a secret .. if he likes porn , dolls whatever .. it would be nice to share our sexual fantasies ...

    Cheating however is any form of intimacy with another person I feel .. sexting and cybersex included .. kissing , holding hands .. it's that connection you have and if you are doing that with someone else you're cheating in my eyes.

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    strawberrybasketcase [sign in to see picture]
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    I would consider anything involving anyone else cheating and I would be very worried if he did any of the above behind my back. I'd rather know and make an informed decision rather than finding out and immediately assuming he's cheating.

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    flaneur [sign in to see picture]
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    Almost forgot this thread. I started it because there's a chance I might be living with woman soon and I was debating how much trouble to go to in order to hide my little stash. I own one of everything on the list except for the dolls. From that point of view I'll keep them in the closet firmly to save me from answering those questions.

    For the cheating part, I've heard too much of the cheating in your heart type stuff. I have to admit I have no idea what I'd think if I found my girl using a dildo that was a mould of her ex.

    Mammame wrote:

    For me if he even texted another girl (like that) behind my back, but if he shagged someone in front of me it would be fine lol. We're all different at the end of the day x

    Love this comment I've had people cheat on me openly before, I'm still keeping my collection hidden.

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