• What's your cheating threshold

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    flaneur [sign in to see picture]
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    This is primarily a question for the heterosexual ladies and homosexual guys here just because I'm curious.

    My question is which of the following would you consider your man doing to be wrong or cheating (you can answer twice if your threshold for each term is different.)

    1. Giving himself a handjob

    2. Using a cheap rudimentary stroker.

    3. Using the prison trick with a rubber glove, mattress and cooking oil (I will explain if required but I'm hoping I won't have to.)

    4. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening (not based on real person)

    5. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening and internal texture (not based on real person)

    6. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening which is a mould from a real person(not yourself.)

    7. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening and internal texture which is a mould from a real person (not yourself.)

    8. Using a love doll (not based on a real person.)

    9. Using a love doll modelled on a real person (not yourself.)

    10. Using a love doll which is a lifesize inside and outside replica of a real person (not yourself.)

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    littlebox [sign in to see picture]
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    Anything that doesn't involve another person isn't cheating to me.. Especially none of those options.

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    LilMissMardyBum [sign in to see picture]
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    hmm i would not consider any of the above to be cheating,they are just toys ,although if it was done behind my back i would have some concerns regarding our relationship,and would need to have a chat as surely if he as me he would not really need to be using

    4. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening (not based on real person)

    5. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening and internal texture (not based on real person)

    6. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening which is a mould from a real person(not yourself.)

    7. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening and internal texture which is a mould from a real person (not yourself.)

    8. Using a love doll (not based on a real person.)

    9. Using a love doll modelled on a real person (not yourself.)

    10. Using a love doll which is a lifesize inside and outside replica of a real person (not yourself.)

    i have no idea what the prison trick is,

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    to me as long as it's not another person i don't consider any of those options cheating though i would naturally have some concerns if he was more interested in using those options rather than the real thing

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    flaneur [sign in to see picture]
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    LilMissMardyBum wrote:

    i have no idea what the prison trick is,

    There are many variations of it. If you've got all day on youtube you'll find more. This is the non mattress version. The mattress version is hands free and non inflatable. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jLGICINDNz4

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    Anything from kissing another person to touchim ect ect ect is cheating to me.


    1. Giving himself a handjob

    2. Using a cheap rudimentary stroker.

    3. Using the prison trick with a rubber glove, mattress and cooking oil (I will explain if required but I'm hoping I won't have to.)

    4. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening (not based on real person)

    5. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening and internal texture (not based on real person)

    6. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening which is a mould from a real person(not yourself.)

    7. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening and internal texture which is a mould from a real person (not yourself.)

    8. Using a love doll (not based on a real person.)

    9. Using a love doll modelled on a real person (not yourself.)

    10. Using a love doll which is a lifesize inside and outside replica of a real person (not yourself.)


    I wouldn't class anything of them as cheating

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    LetsTryThis [sign in to see picture]
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    Similar to what others have said - anything solo is fine, anything involving other people intimately in an interactive kind of way would be off limits (but within that my reaction would vary according to the degree of 'cheating'.) But I would be concerned if my partner was actively choosing anything solo over playtime with me.

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    Fluffbags [sign in to see picture]
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    I wouldn't class any of that list cheating either. Cheating for me, starts at a kiss or some naughty texts to another person that insinuate that he wants to have sex or an emotional cheating with someone else. However, like LetstryThis says, if he was turning me down night after night to play solo with toys instead, I would not be happy at that point.

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    Yeah as everyone says I couldn't class any of that cheating, however I wouldn't be thrilled at my partner having sex with a sex doll...cheating is with another human being to me, from sending texts with a sexual intent and kissing passionately...obviously up to full blown sex with another person.

    all of the ones you listed are masturbation to me...

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    I wouldn't class anything NOT involving another person as cheating...

    Everything else... yes..... but not using toys to stimulate himself..... altohugh I think there is a time and a place....

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    flaneur wrote:

    This is primarily a question for the heterosexual ladies and homosexual guys here just because I'm curious.

    My question is which of the following would you consider your man doing to be wrong or cheating (you can answer twice if your threshold for each term is different.)

    1. Giving himself a handjob

    Not at all, in fact I would be surprised if he didn't

    2. Using a cheap rudimentary stroker.

    no, and I use toys so it would only be fair

    3. Using the prison trick with a rubber glove, mattress and cooking oil (I will explain if required but I'm hoping I won't have to.)

    I wouldn't class it as cheating, but I wouldn't be happy if he chose to do that over being with me...

    4. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening (not based on real person)

    no, although again, I wouldn't be happy if he chose this instead of being with me

    5. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening and internal texture (not based on real person)

    see previous answer

    6. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening which is a mould from a real person(not yourself.)

    still not cheating, but at this point I wouldn't be happy

    7. Using a toy with a vaginal, anal or mouth opening and internal texture which is a mould from a real person (not yourself.)

    see previous answer

    8. Using a love doll (not based on a real person.)

    still not cheating, but I would be pretty annoyed if he was having sex with a doll when he had the real thing available. I would be fine with a boyfriend using toys,but once they start to become too realistic or feeling like a replacement for me, then I would start to feel pushed out.

    9. Using a love doll modelled on a real person (not yourself.)

    see previous answer

    10. Using a love doll which is a lifesize inside and outside replica of a real person (not yourself.)

    see question 8

    As others have said, I wouldn't class it as cheating unless it involved another person.

    I also think cheating can be emotional rather than purely physical, for example if one of you becomes too close to someone else and shares things with them that they don't share with you, I would consider it as cheating x

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    I wouldn't consider any of your suggestions to be cheating. They're all just increasingly expensive wanks and nothing more.
    Obviously, if any or all of these suggestions were being done instead of sex with the bloke's partner, that would be a problem. But still not cheating.

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    flaneur [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks for the replies, some quite interesting ones there. I should have asked if the real touch would be cheating as it can and is pretty much designed to involve another person online. I suppose cheating was the wrong word to put in the title.

    I've had people say that all of them are cheating in the heart simply because they involve thinking lustfully about another person.

    Part of this is me thinking about how carefully to hide my little stash anyway.

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    dh [sign in to see picture]
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    I wouldn't consider any of those options to be cheating, nor would my partner. Though she may feel a little uncomfortable with me using a fleshlite based on a pornstar's bits, just as I would think it a little weird if she had a dildo modelled on someone else's cock

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    flaneur wrote:

    Thanks for the replies, some quite interesting ones there. I should have asked if the real touch would be cheating as it can and is pretty much designed to involve another person online. I suppose cheating was the wrong word to put in the title.

    I've had people say that all of them are cheating in the heart simply because they involve thinking lustfully about another person.

    Part of this is me thinking about how carefully to hide my little stash anyway.

    Masturbating doesn't necessarily mean thinking lustfully about another. When I masturbate I only think of my OH, I actually cannot climax thinking about anyone or anything else!

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    I wouldn't consider any of the list cheating but if he had a love doll I would be a bit put off.

    Cheating to me involves another living breathing person

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    blonde vixen13 wrote:

    I wouldn't consider any of the list cheating but if he had a love doll I would be a bit put off.

    Cheating to me involves another living breathing person

    Completely agree!

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    taraman wrote:

    blonde vixen13 wrote:

    I wouldn't consider any of the list cheating but if he had a love doll I would be a bit put off.

    Cheating to me involves another living breathing person

    Completely agree!

    +1 (whatever that means but seen other people use it to mean I agree)

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    littlebox wrote:

    Anything that doesn't involve another person isn't cheating to me.. Especially none of those options.

    this

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    capricorn13 [sign in to see picture]
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    Cheating for me has to involve another person, though I might not be happy if an OH was engaging in some of the later ones

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