• Is this the answer.. sex doll help

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    Little Strummer Boy [sign in to see picture]
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    Im almost ashamed to admit that im not very experienced when it comes to sex or partners. As I approach my late 20s Id really like to get in some practice. I wondeed if anyone has ever tried a sex doll...

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/blog/2011/05/09/customise-your-sex-doll/#How_to_add_a_masturbator_to_your_sex_doll

    Read this useful blog but not sure...a few years ago I would have thought these were only novelty products.

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    coffee2sugars [sign in to see picture]
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    In my humble opinion the answer is no.

    I am sure these devices have a place but they could never similate the intamacy shared between two people when having sex.

    The only way to get the experience you are looking for is to do it with a living flesh and blood partner.

    Easier said than done I know but I think alot of it is to do with confidence. I dont think a doll will help you with that but possibly make it easier for you not to even try to chat up real women/men.

    Best advice I have is ask some friends to get you into some intimate social activities with people they know are looking.

    Good luck and sorry about the essay. I hope no part is taken offensively.

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    Draven [sign in to see picture]
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    Agree with Mr coco nut.

    I know confidence is a big issue, it is for me too in certain areas. I'd suggest doing things where social interaction is normal. A social club, if you have hobbies. An evening class, where you will all share an interest and make breaking the ice easier. Join a social forum on the internet designed around a specific interest or hobby. There is also dating websites where you can message people until you get to know them. Just a couple suggestion.

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    MissTig [sign in to see picture]
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    Little Strummer Boy wrote:

    Im almost ashamed to admit that im not very experienced when it comes to sex or partners.

    Don't be ashamed. You are a lovely, caring individual. You will find someone with time and patience. I agree with what has been said. These dolls do not replace the intimacy you want. Try and get out there. People will see you are a nice person. :)

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    Scorpius12 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi LSB - I really don't think a sex doll will help. As the chaps above have said you really need to build on your confidence with women. Draven mentioned joining a dating website and may be a good idea. You can take things as your on pace and build up a relationship with a woman without having the stress of actually being face to face - so to speak. You can take your time and really get to know someone this way - so that when you do meet them you will feel more comfortable and things will flow more easily.

    If you have some friends who you can go out with and meet women socially then this will help to boost your confidence too. The best way to get more confident is to actually fake it. I don't mean over the top, loud confidence - but just making yourself feel more confident. Think about someone you admire - be it a famous person or a friend and mimic how they act. Stand up straight, keep your chin up, and never look down at the floor or your feet. This is a great way to show confidence in your body language. Make eye contact when speaking to someone as it’s a great way to show confidence and to let the person you’re talking to know that you’re listening. Smiling is a great way to show confidence. A smile lights up your face and shows others that you feel good about yourself.

    I hope this helps Hun :) xxx

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    Lou22 [sign in to see picture]
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    Id be inclined to agree with the previous posts. I think its more about gaining confidence in these areas and i suppose in theory if you believe the doll may help with the sexual side of things then it might work but as Mr Coco nut said it won't replicate the intimacy or communication needed during sex.
    Also from a sexual side of things as a women i don't know how realistic the masturbators feel but it won't give you any indication as to what feels good for your partner which of course can be different for everybody.
    I think getting to know people and becoming more intimate on a non physical level may help.
    :)

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    CuriousKara [sign in to see picture]
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    As a single lady myself I kind of know what you mean and can understand your doubts. I've never been overally confident with dating and then I lost the small confidence I did have until recently. Finding this site has helped me regain some of that confidence in myself by knowing what I want better and experimenting.

    The best advice I can give is to follow the above advice from everyone about getting out there and trying it and when you do find yourself in an intimite situation hopefully you will be comfortable enough (albeit still nervous Im sure!) to talk to her. The top thing I can say is to ask her what she wants, listen to her and her body as those would be the signals at what feels good for her and I know personally if I was asked that question I would be over the moon as it means he cares about my pleasure. Good luck :)

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    DavidB1986 [sign in to see picture]
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    When it comes to sex, you only get the experience if you do it! Women (and men) all react differently during sex, and that's one thing a sex doll can't do - it can't tell you what feels good etc because sex is a two way street - it may feel amazing to you, but does she feel amazing too? But there is absolutely nothing wrong with being inexperienced - we all start out that way, and from what I gather, some women find an inexperienced guy a good thing, because they will help you understand what really gets them going! All you need to do is listen, and be bold and get 'stuck' in!

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    Janny [sign in to see picture]
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    I can't really add anything to previous posts. Go out there, pubs, bars, clubs whatever. Have a chat with females. It doesn't have to lead to sex. But it will get your confidence up.

    Good luck

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    blonde vixen13 [sign in to see picture]
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    Can you take up any hobbies that involve getting out and meeting people. Building your confidence just meeting new people will help build your confidence in the bedroom. That and alcohol..... Lord I think I'm a porn star when I have drink in me lol x x

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    LetsTryThis [sign in to see picture]
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    I would also go as far as to say other than the added bonus of confidence, each new partnership takes a while to learn each other's bodies, what turns each other on, and off. I know sex with my husband is far better than any of my other partners, not because of our experience, or prowess, more because we've grown up together (I use this in the loose sense as we were adults when we met), and as a result of that we know each other inside out. No sex doll, or number of previous real partners could add to that.

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    Strange Days [sign in to see picture]
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    No, a doll is not the answer. No way. Lots of good advice already on this thread. Certainly get out and about and do stuff that you enjoy. You could also try doing things that perhaps you don't enjoy so much, but where you might meet more ladies...! (I am sure you can think of some)

    All of this is valid if what you are looking for a relationship - rather than just sex - for which other options exist, if you would consider that.

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    Little Strummer Boy [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks everyone. I was thinking as more for the physical practie but its lovely to hear so many thoughtful and lovely comments.

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    DavidB1986 wrote:

    When it comes to sex, you only get the experience if you do it! Women (and men) all react differently during sex, and that's one thing a sex doll can't do - it can't tell you what feels good etc because sex is a two way street - it may feel amazing to you, but does she feel amazing too? But there is absolutely nothing wrong with being inexperienced - we all start out that way, and from what I gather, some women find an inexperienced guy a good thing, because they will help you understand what really gets them going! All you need to do is listen, and be bold and get 'stuck' in!

    My thoughts are basically the same as everyone else's, and especially this post from David.

    Whilst I'm confident with my toys, they have no feelings and I use them to satisfy myself only. When it comes to me being with a partner however, it will be extremely different no matter how many times I've used dildo's. I will without a doubt be very nervous and I need to be able to make sure he is satisfied too. And don't forget that every individual reacts differently; what one woman may love, another may really dislike. My view is that no matter how much experience we have had in the past, we are somewhat inexperienced when it comes to being intimate with a new person anyway as we don't quite know what makes them 'tick'. x

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