• Porn Sex vs Real Sex (The Differences)

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    There have been a few threads lately that have mentioned porn. (probably quite a few mentioned by me) and how it differs from real sex. Also some questioning about whether porn can give men and women misconceptions about their sex lifes, bodies and more. Well I just came across a brilliant Youtube video and found it funny and eye opening too, so I thought I would share with you guys.

    Porn Sex vs real Sex: the Differences Explained With Food:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q64hTNEj6KQ&feature=youtu.be

    Does your sex life more closely match the real life version, or the porn version? Do you defy the statistics? Would you prefer your sex life to be more, or less like porn? Does this video put minds at rest?

    Enjoy!

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    That was quite a creative video.

    But gotta agree that porn certainly makes you self conscious. It has with me but I feel since reading some opinions on these forums it has got rid of some matters would have otherwise been concerned with.

    I think there is such a huge amount of pressure on a man when it comes too sex and with performance and size. The worry of if you have a big enough one, how long you can last and so on.
    It's not something you can ask a friend or a doctor or anyone for that reason.

    But great find on the video though. I will forever a weird image in my head when I see a banana and nutella lol

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    Mr Gooner wrote:

    That was quite a creative video.

    But gotta agree that porn certainly makes you self conscious. It has with me but I feel since reading some opinions on these forums it has got rid of some matters would have otherwise been concerned with.

    I think there is such a huge amount of pressure on a man when it comes too sex and with performance and size. The worry of if you have a big enough one, how long you can last and so on.
    It's not something you can ask a friend or a doctor or anyone for that reason.

    But great find on the video though. I will forever a weird image in my head when I see a banana and nutella lol

    Me too! lol

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    That's a pretty good video just to set peoples minds minds at ease, it's lighthearted yet it gets in a load of good comparisons. Certainly puts things in perspective for you.

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    Ork I don't think porn sex is 'not reat' - more like its an unrealistic representation of sex, which I hope people are aware of. Porn is like a romantic movie, I think we all realize that some things shown in such films are hardly likely to happen to the average person, so why do we treat porn like its something we should compare to?

    I must admit that I haven't watched porn in a while now, because it annoys me how the women moan. It is SO obviously fake that I do not understand how people could possibly believe that the woman is having a good time. Porn is mostly made for the benefit of men who like the visual and think that if a woman doesn't scream it must be something they're doing wrong. But who knows, maybe that porn star really does enjoy herself so much that she screams her head off and does that weird thing with her lips and its totally real. I think people just need to accept that porn is basically a movie, and realistic doesn't sell.

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    Ork wrote:

    Allow me to offer an alien point of view no one has yet grasped, people in porn are human... you are human also, thus you can have porn sex :P I'm no longer sure how its classed as unreal etc, they are humans, having sex and fun, how is that not real? Sure the pizza delivery guys I've had have yet to try and screw me in a sexual sense, but you never know!

    So bluntly putting this, people are blaming their own body issues etc on porn, like they do with super models etc... honestly, I cannot see how porn is going to give anyone issues that weren't already there, you have porn dedicated to fat people, skinny people, old peole, young people, huge dicks, tiny dicks, big boobs, small boobs, you get my point? :P I hate to be the one to say this, but this is really in peoples heads... when has a pornstar outside of some humialtion videos, ever told you they give a shit about certain aspects of the male or female body? People are just blaming porn, its like a severe case of jealousy XD

    As for the statistics... aroused in 10-12 minutes? Maybe being an Ork I'm different, but I can go from bored to finish in under 30 seconds or spend half the night doing it, porn stars are going to have done more than the average person, they get paid to :P

    I can't say I agree with the points you have made. Yes porn is made by humans. But as an industry they make out that each bloke is some ripped bloke holding around 12 inches in length and goes at it like a rampant horse for hours on end. Surely Joe public who see's this from an early age like in your teens and that is what your first experience of seeing sex, then that is the image you would portray as being the norm? I think porn on the whole when it comes to stuff like humiliation and incest etc. This paints a very poor picture. When I watched that programme on channel 4 about those 3 blokes going to see their porn idols. I would ave never have guessed that the gay porn that bloke made was all fake and he actually straight and married. Says too me that porn gives a very false sense of what is actually reality.
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    Ork wrote:

    How would someone confuse the fantasy of porn with reality? I just don't understand that, surely people are going to know everyone is different? It's basic common sense, some people are tall, some people are smaller etc, surely?

    Young people for the most part who have yet to experience sex? I have to admit i was quite young when i started but i had watched porn beforehand and i had quite high/different expectations of my first time down to porn.

    After that first time you realise and everyone is different but for lots of younger people its a bit of pressure expecting to orgasm their first time or to cum multiple times.

    I dont watch "porn" per say, more ameuter videos or live chats as i cant and actually could never stand the pure cheesy fakeness of them.

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    You would like to think people can differentiate between what is fantasy and what is reality. But its no surprise why you hear stories of people doing stuff to partners which is wrong.

    People see these porno's and then want to do the things they see.

    But getting onto the point of knowing everyone is different. Well i dont think you would really. Its not like you would go into a room with a dozen other blokes and then go comparing sizes. I just think compared to women, for men there is such an emphasis on being hung like a stallion and being able to last an eternity.

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    Blackcherry wrote:

    Ork wrote:

    How would someone confuse the fantasy of porn with reality? I just don't understand that, surely people are going to know everyone is different? It's basic common sense, some people are tall, some people are smaller etc, surely?

    Young people for the most part who have yet to experience sex? I have to admit i was quite young when i started but i had watched porn beforehand and i had quite high/different expectations of my first time down to porn.

    After that first time you realise and everyone is different but for lots of younger people its a bit of pressure expecting to orgasm their first time or to cum multiple times.

    I dont watch "porn" per say, more ameuter videos or live chats as i cant and actually could never stand the pure cheesy fakeness of them.

    You have pretty much hit the nail on the head and said it how i was trying to explain it.

    When i was younger you didnt have internet access like you do today. So the only porn that was around was the cheesy porn where a woman was getting banged by 2 blokes etc or the smutty magazines. Sex education was non existent and it wasnt like you could ask your parents quite deep questions about certain things which would have made me curious.

    I have always thought that there should be an avenue where people can have a proper education on sex and everything to do with it.

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    There is an issue of there is a lack of education for people in their teenage years. Too a degree yes i think Porn should take some responsibility because it does set out a false image of how sex really is.

    Like Blackcherry im not one for porn but much prefer see ameteur stuff or live chat stuff over the cheesy porn.

    However were i young, inexperienced and wanting to know, i may look towards the porn side of things to get an idea. But with that i could well be just getting the wrong end of matters.

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    Like everyone else said, porn isn't educational, it is essentially entertainment, but due to the lack of education on the subject, younger people turn to it as a form of education, having nowhere else to go or a lack of places to go without embarrassment.

    I am not anti-porn. I enjoy it but the simple truth is that some people look to it for answers and tips or help, just the same way young girls might look to models or pop stars and young boys might look towards their role models as teenagers, it can be a bad thing. (Most female models on the catwalks are like 13/14 years old btw, no woman who has developed hips and boobs can ever look like a pre pubescent girl, but they model womens clothing and fashion)

    I honestly don't know if I would say "i blame porn" because the truth is, if young men and women have silly ideals learnt from porn then it is a fail on behalf of education and knowledge and maybe parenting (not discussing sex with your kids) but if porn is the main place where teens go for sex education then maybe porn could or should help lead them in the right direction in some way? Maybe the industry thinks, well voilent films do not have to explain to people that this is the wrong way to act, or pop singers singing about drugs etc, and we are an entertainment industry too and why should it fall onto us to educate" Who knows. This is an interesting debate but I am just too tired to comment properly. Knackered! I can definitely see both sides though!

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    I actually found more confidence in my body through watching porn. When I would see porn with ''big' girls in it with rolls of fat and big boobs that obey gravity and the comments saying "this is so hot" I felt much better in myself because I realised there are people out there who arent exclusively attracted to slim girls, like I had previously thought.

    However, saying that, I think porn can be really damaging.

    In male/female porn, when women are unwilling, or say no, the sex still happens anyway, which obviously is because the actors are there to do a job that involves having sex and so have essentially consented to it already. Most adults understand that it's an acted scene and so (hopefully) the woman is not really not consenting. But that bleeds into society when young minds don't understand that and are thinking "oh so even if a real girl says no, she really means yes, and I should do it anyway."

    I've seen porn where the woman saying No is played out as some silly little game. That alone can give a really warped idea of consent and the fact of the matter is, kids don't get educated about consent properly. Should we blame porn for that? Not necessarily. But I think we can blame porn for warping the idea of consent in the way it does, and therefore not just lacking in proper education but actually perpetuating the exact opposite of how people should conduct themselves. Therefore, doing more damage than the poor education system.

    I think it's not necessarily about the act that's taking place, and whether that comes across as real or not, but it's about how the porn stars conduct themselves that can be negative. In porn women regularly get slapped, choked, hair pulled, penises thrust down their throats and it's always 'okay' to do so, even if they say the word no. And I know for a fact that some men in the real world think the same way about 'real life' women, and so act accordingly, without first checking that the woman is okay with that.

    And don't get me started on homosexual porn. I literally saw a comment once asking how lesbians know when to stop having sex because as there's no man present to cum to signify the end of the act how do they know when to stop?

    Seriously...

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    Orc dear, if you think porn is a realistic representation of human sex, no wonder you feel like an alien.

    I think I smell some eau de troll though.

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    Blackcherry wrote:

    Ork wrote:

    How would someone confuse the fantasy of porn with reality? I just don't understand that, surely people are going to know everyone is different? It's basic common sense, some people are tall, some people are smaller etc, surely?

    Young people for the most part who have yet to experience sex? I have to admit i was quite young when i started but i had watched porn beforehand and i had quite high/different expectations of my first time down to porn.

    After that first time you realise and everyone is different but for lots of younger people its a bit of pressure expecting to orgasm their first time or to cum multiple times.

    I dont watch "porn" per say, more ameuter videos or live chats as i cant and actually could never stand the pure cheesy fakeness of them.

    Yeah I remember reading an article before that was talking about how most teenage lads learn about sex from their porn exposure and don't bother talking to parents about.

    From the female point of view, when I first started having sex with my first boyfriend I thought that I should be having mind blowing orgasms and I wasn't. So I spent a year and a half faking loud orgasms and never told him what I needed.

    But I agree with Ork too, porn is an easy scapegoat. I couldn't talk about sex and that was my fault not porn's and I imagine most people at 16 wouldn't feel comfortable talking about it.

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    I just think porn on the whole paints a false picture and for anyone who is of a younger age and inexperienced, but looks at porn as a way of seeing how the deed is done could well be getting lead up the wrong garden path.

    I think men more then women would look at porn. If i were young and watched a porno and all i see is some woman screaming like a mad cow and having stuff done to her which in reality is a no no, could well be deemed at the norm for anyone looking towards porn to find the answers on how to be a stud.

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    Sorry, but if you think young adults and young children aren't watching porn and learning things from it, and that they should "just talk to their parents" and there is really no issue there at all well... I shake my head in despair.

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    mnms wrote:

    Sorry, but if you think young adults and young children aren't watching porn and learning things from it, and that they should "just talk to their parents" and there is really no issue there at all well... I shake my head in despair.

    What mnms said, yes it should be put in education but there wont be and we really dont have enough funding to cover the whole ins and outs of sex, most schools stick to the basics of safe sex, bodies and STIs.

    As for asking peers, i dont know about you but i was way too embarressed to go asking "when do i expect my first orgasm and is it natural to scream?" questions to my parents and teachers so although porn is not meant for the younger generation it was a hell of a lot easier to seek it out to see how others experienced things.

    I see where your coming from with it but its really not "real" sex, its faked.. I assume not very many people go setting up their lighting and camera man before they go at it, faking 7 orgasms with a 10" guy on here ;p?
    Also who really needs to fake an orgasm? I havent faked an orgasm for years and thats when i was very young and had false ideas of sex (wayhey happened to be when i was watching porn).

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    I think the porn industry has to take some responsibility because their material is so readily available on the internet. And no government imposed filter will block this while proxy sites get set up.

    Just reading the story about the government around the legal age for consent and Nick Cleggs comments about sex education. I wouldn't have a lot of faith in the government and think they are so out of touch.

    What it needs is more in depth conversations between parents and their kids or someone who is independent and goes around schools explaining in more detail.

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    MrsD enjoys anal (40%), is willing to "take a hot load in the face" (22%) and will "swallow said load" (30%). My GCSE Maths says the chance of me having a partner willing to do all three is 2.6% which means I am an incredibly lucky man :)

    Obviously most of the time we have and enjoy Real Sex but now and again we have a session of Porn Sex.

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