• How to dominate a man in bed

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    MissTig [sign in to see picture]
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    That is very nice miss B. He is sure to love it. Good luck :)

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    mr [sign in to see picture]
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    MissTig wrote:

    mr wrote:

    MissTig wrote:

    Or this: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=19809

    We realllllllly want it, but could do with a new bed first. Ours is broken :(

    haha not going to make a joke about breaking the bed... Anyway those restraints look great would love to get some myself to try.

    Recently me and the OH tried pegging which defo made her the dominant one haha. Not for everyone i know, appolgies if it is of no use to the OP. Just thought i would chip in.

    Tell me about it! :D They do look great don't they, I've heard good reviews of them too.
    I was going to mention pegging too, but like you say it's not for everyone. My OH isn't interested in that at present but maybe in the future....who knows!

    They look brill, only reason why me and the OH havent got them alread is that luckily our bed is a four poster which has made it easy for us to create our own restraints using some leather cuffs and velcro straps. Not very elegant though haha.

    Im sure you will be able to introduce the topic of anal to your oh in the future :) i know it wasnt something i was interested in for years. However after going anal toy shopping with the OH for her, i was persuaded to add a little something for myself... that little something got a bit bigger, and now here i am with her pegging me hehe.

    Another suggestion for the OP, why not get some handcuffs, restraints, etc. Tie your OH to a chair or bed, then just make him watch you play with a few of your toys. If you strip him down first you can watch him getting excited as you go along.

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    mr [sign in to see picture]
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    missbaker wrote:

    Thank you for your tips, I'm not too sure he or I will be comfortable with prostate massages at the moment.

    I was thinking of wearing this http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=25160

    and buying a flogger, cuffs, blind fold, and red candles (to set the atmosphear).

    Just seen your post, very nice. very kinky. Sure he will love it!

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    There's loads of methods to dominate someone in the bedroom.

    A popular one is forced orgasm with high powered vibes while a sub is tied up.

    Tieing up. Possible causing pain depending on the individual via electro stimulation, scratching, spanking, and more.

    When escorting and Domming, I am often very light, and a lot of men enjoy / actually dislike but enjoy the attention, or me pinching their nipples, tugging on their balls and more.

    During escorting wearing something Dom like also helps. So wet look clothing, PVC, black, etc.

    When professionally dominating someone clothing is optional. The sub gets what he gets, whether I'm in everyday clothes or more. When pro domming I am a lot harsher. To Dom a sub in the bedroom I could do anything almost. From tieing up and rubbing things like sand paper over them, to shagging another person in front of them. I enjoy the mental side to sub / Domming, and will use this to tease a sub. There's one sub who has a few phobias, and I will use these and force him to experience them, but make it as erotic as possible - it really messes with his head.

    Another thing is to pretend I'm submissive and get them to think that they can treat me like a sub and then quickly turn Dom on them once they believe it. That's a tad harder.

    Also forcing them to strip in front of you can work well too.

    Making out a sub is a sex toy as well works for some and you can use them however you like. Blindfolding can help here, or make them watch something on TV which they dislike whilst you are screwing them, or more.

    There's a lot you can do really.

    Although as you can understand, when I'm pro Domming I do a lot more than just spanking and tieing up a subv, and it often doesn't inolve shagging, but either pain or warping their perception of reality towards their breaking point. I always recommended giving it a go to push towards someones limits too, but not past them.

    I teach BDSM at a uni and in workshops too. I think orgasm related things are very popular whetehr you are refusing them to or forcing them to have one.

    Oh sissyification is popular as well - getting a guy to dress as a woman.

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    Lady Ness [sign in to see picture]
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    Oh, plus I wouldn't recommend forcing anal onto anyone who doesn't already consent to it and feel ok with it. Anal is a very tricky thing to force onto someone, can one of the limits when pushed the wrong way and time, can put someone off for life.

    Another note you might like the book known as Bondassage.

    Plus if you ever wanted to learn more tips, there's the option of taking a course / being taught by a pro Dom too, or attending a salon at Coco de Mer.

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    Lady Ness [sign in to see picture]
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    oh also forcing a guy to suck on a strap-on is a popular method too and can feel very humiliating yet erotic (even if you don't use it for strap-on / anal intercourse)l.

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    mr wrote:

    They look brill, only reason why me and the OH havent got them alread is that luckily our bed is a four poster which has made it easy for us to create our own restraints using some leather cuffs and velcro straps. Not very elegant though haha.

    Im sure you will be able to introduce the topic of anal to your oh in the future :) i know it wasnt something i was interested in for years. However after going anal toy shopping with the OH for her, i was persuaded to add a little something for myself... that little something got a bit bigger, and now here i am with her pegging me hehe.

    Another suggestion for the OP, why not get some handcuffs, restraints, etc. Tie your OH to a chair or bed, then just make him watch you play with a few of your toys. If you strip him down first you can watch him getting excited as you go along.

    Wow a four poster! Would love one of those, maybe one day when we have room!

    We have only just started on the idea of prostate massage which he found pleasurable but couldn't quite get over the feeling of need 'to go'. So that's something I'd like to try again. We have a p-massager but he doesn't feel ready to use it which is fine, I'm not going to push him faster than he's ready to. :)

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    just from curiosity - you mentioned that you have discussed being more adventurous in bed and that thought has formulated into dominating him - is this something he is up for?

    have you also discussed other more 'adventurous' things that you can do - such as him giving you anal sex, rimming, mutual domination, role play etc etc.

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    Citygirl2810 wrote:

    just from curiosity - you mentioned that you have discussed being more adventurous in bed and that thought has formulated into dominating him - is this something he is up for?

    have you also discussed other more 'adventurous' things that you can do - such as him giving you anal sex, rimming, mutual domination, role play etc etc.

    We havent spoken in depth about it, it was more like I'd like to try new things like taking charge for instance.

    I was thinking of emailing him or texting him erotic stories of things want to to do him, to communicate better sexually

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    that sounds like a fab idea, maybe also include suggestions of things you would like him to do to you. then there is a lovely shopping list to choose from :-)

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    LOL NEVER going to happen with my oh!!! But saying that I like him to take control of me & our sex life anyway, I can be very lazy!! hehe That is all part of the apeal for me, I like it when he completely dominates me and bosses me around. I have nearly always been the dominating one in the bed previously so this is such a new experience for me and I am loving it. We play at S&M and have bought few toys from lh to help and we have so much fun and laugh so much which is just what I want & need. Sorry can't help on this as I am very happy with my current set up in the bed room!! Maybe he will let me use our flogger on him!!!!! LOL hhhmmmm No don't think that will happen any day soon, he enjoys inflicting pain on me too much!!! (hey Indi - I think taking the running start from the corner of the room is going just a bit ott!!! lol) cheeky master!!!

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    Citygirl2810 wrote:

    that sounds like a fab idea, maybe also include suggestions of things you would like him to do to you. then there is a lovely shopping list to choose from :-)

    Thats exactly what I plan to do. Reading porn does pay off!

    I'm also thinking of buying a cock ring

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    miss B - I send erotic pics / stories to wife via email with different thoughts on what we can do etc.

    many a sex night / weekend originated from doing this as she finds it easier to say what she really wants to do.

    also great fun x

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    Just read this now so heres my input.....

    A few years back,BC(before children!!!!l) myself and my now wife i would let her take the lead as i do like a strong woman in control.

    She would start by getting dressed for it,normally nice bra/undies,knee high boots with a heel and elbow length leather gloves.She would have a few pairs of cuffs,duck tape and a crop.

    She would cuff/tape me to the bed and warm up by a little whipping with the crop,nothing harsh but just slightly more than playful.this was normally followed by sex but id still be tied to the bed.

    She would always cum before me so she would then stop and with her hands tease my throbbing cock bringing me to the brink but then stopping shy.shes very good at guessing when to stop.she would tease me several times before eventually making me cum and it was amazing when she did .Defo reccomend.

    Unfortunatley...2 kids down the line this practise for me is over.best form of contraception ever imo.its a quick tumble once a week if im lucky these days

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