• How to bring up the idea of anal play with my man

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    BilboBaggins [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi, this is something that my OH! and I are starting to explore! The topic was brought up when we were talking about our fantasies; she was curious about watching porn, so we had a look at that together, and We're both curious about anal; so we started just getting comfortable with each others bums! that would have been a no go area for both of us before, take steps little by little, just rubbing round the ouside with lube on your finger, we both found the the easiest position is to lie down with your OH! on all fours facing the other way.

    We then continued to insert pinkie fingers, (very slowly) but it felt great, and m OH! tossed me off at the same time which felt amazing! I recomend that!!!

    As a man, the prospect of things in my bumhole was daunting, made me nervous, as it did my OH! so anal is something we can be equal at.

    It took some persuasion before I considered it "not gay"; I'd be doing it with my OH! and it's just another area to explore.

    We've ordered a couple of butt plugs from LH (£15 for 2) which will arrive tomorrow (much to our excitment)

    My advice would be communitcation, talk to him, it's a very open and vunerable position, which girls would be used to because of sex, open legs and everything, but tell him to relax, keep talking, ask him how it feels. I certainly felt open and vunerable, but that'll build trust as well.

    If anyone has any tips or advice please tell me too!

    Thanks.

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    BilboBaggins wrote:

    Hi, this is something that my OH! and I are starting to explore! The topic was brought up when we were talking about our fantasies; she was curious about watching porn, so we had a look at that together, and We're both curious about anal; so we started just getting comfortable with each others bums! that would have been a no go area for both of us before, take steps little by little, just rubbing round the ouside with lube on your finger, we both found the the easiest position is to lie down with your OH! on all fours facing the other way.

    We then continued to insert pinkie fingers, (very slowly) but it felt great, and m OH! tossed me off at the same time which felt amazing! I recomend that!!!

    As a man, the prospect of things in my bumhole was daunting, made me nervous, as it did my OH! so anal is something we can be equal at.

    It took some persuasion before I considered it "not gay"; I'd be doing it with my OH! and it's just another area to explore.

    We've ordered a couple of butt plugs from LH (£15 for 2) which will arrive tomorrow (much to our excitment)

    My advice would be communitcation, talk to him, it's a very open and vunerable position, which girls would be used to because of sex, open legs and everything, but tell him to relax, keep talking, ask him how it feels. I certainly felt open and vunerable, but that'll build trust as well.

    If anyone has any tips or advice please tell me too!

    Thanks.

    HI BB, how were the,butt plugs. Miss Tig and I will follow this thread . Happy to give advice. Just relax and enjoy. Lube lube and more lube

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    BilboBaggins wrote:


    As a man, the prospect of things in my bumhole was daunting, made me nervous, as it did my OH! so anal is something we can be equal at.

    i agree with this. When we tried our first prostate massage we both felt like virgins. Very nervous but excited.

    I hope you enjoyed your butt plugs?

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    Brought to the front for Mitzy Millar.

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    Thanx for sharing your query with us. I agree with some guys opinion to watch porn movies or sec related stories that will help you to boost your Sex satisfaction level.

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    I am put off by the thought of a finger up there, as much as my partner would liike it and I know he would!

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    Hi pgt have you thought about wearing a glove? Also why not get a prostate massager so you don't have to put a finger in. Likehttp://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=4463.

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    Well, as young man who has adored this act for many years, I guess the best advice would be to watch some porn where the woman is initiating this act on the man or you could during a fooling around session sorta talk to him about it seductively but you need to be firm as if you are in charge and thats how it is. I love the feeling of my woman dominating me and taking control of me and I can tell you there is no better way to control me. The best way esp when your first initiating this is to have him on his back and if hes comfortable being in such a vulnerable position legs open actually you could hold them open maybe in a gently yet authoritative way. And ladies if you are not into this and he is it will make him feel bad and weird and not enjoy it. I can tell you ive orgasmed from this alone its much longer and the duration between each shot is more delayed. Its rewarding for her to see it happen and having a sexy dialogue throughout the ordeal is absolutely key! Another plus is being able to see my woman undressed in front of me looking like a goddess! Hope this helps!

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    Oh, you can use toys if you want, but her finger works soooo much better and its much more intimate and she can feel so many things going on inside me esp during orgasm :) thats rewarding in itself. What a wonderful act!

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    Gently start playing around his hole, without inserting a finger. It is erotic. Then after a few times gently insert a lubricated finger. Just be careful to make sure you don't have long fingernails...

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    I love anul play, finger toys or my hubby up there full on but my hubby was the same just wouldn't let me near his until one evening we got down to it and I had him in my mouth then started licking his balls then worked my way round with my tonge and ghat was the start of it now we can use a double ended dildo whilst having full frontal sex what would they do without us women

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    I love anul play, finger toys or my hubby up there full on but my hubby was the same just wouldn't let me near his until one evening we got down to it and I had him in my mouth then started licking his balls then worked my way round with my tonge to his anus and gently licked and that was the start of it now we can use a double ended dildo whilst having full frontal sex what would they do without us women

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    For me it was actually my boyfriend who brought up anal play for the both of us... He's very open minded when it comes to our sex life! Start with your mouth, when you're sucking his dick move down to his ass hole and just roll your tongue over and over... Believe me he will soon change his mind about anal play!

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