• Advice on bum fun

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    baldbanger [sign in to see picture]
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    I enjoy my OH playing a inserting things into me ( toys fingers etc) but she is concerned about me becoming loose down there in years to come.

    We don't do it that often, every couple of months or so.

    Any advice?

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    jerrybean [sign in to see picture]
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    The anal sphincter is pretty resilient and will retract back to normal reasonably quickly after finger or normal size anal toy use. Provided you don't damage yourself or insert large objects for long period of time, then you should be fine.

    General rule - if it hurts, then stop/don't do it. Also remember lots of lube, followed by more lube, and if in doubt add more lube. Otherwise just enjoy !!!!

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    baldbanger [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks

    Anymore from any other members?

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    MissChar [sign in to see picture]
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    Mine is exactly the same. You won't stretch permanently unless you really really try!

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    Fluffbags [sign in to see picture]
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    The Anal muscles are designed to "open" or relax every single day :) (I dont need to explain why haha) Of course you won't end up loose down there from occasionally having bum fun, or even regularily having bum fun! (I cannot say for sure what would happen if you used HUGEEE toys for HUGEEE periods of time daily. Like, super over the top stretching constantly) but there are lots of people out here who enjoy regulat bum play, and none of us have any issues. It is a muscle (Actually a few muscles) after all. Unless you tear it open and do silly damage to yourself or throw yourself into daily hourly (Prob more) stretchings with uber huge toys purposely designed to stretch....

    You can rest assured fingers and toys won't leave you loose. As jerry said, take your time and if it hurts....stop.

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    naughtywildfun90 [sign in to see picture]
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    lube is your best friend! we found maximus, very good. you use such a small amount but it feels like youve used loads! also once again as jerry bean said, if it hurts stop.

    Also if you decide to start douching make sure the water you use is warm, too hot or too cold could do some damage xx

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    baldbanger [sign in to see picture]
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    I will make sure she reads this tomorrow, thanks everyone.

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    jerrybean [sign in to see picture]
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    No problem baldbanger - hope it helps put you & your OH mind at rest.

    My wife & I enjoy anal fun every so often for a long time now - nice twist to sex. Neither of us have had any problems.....

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    NellW [sign in to see picture]
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    Have just had my first anal omg it was fantastic, spent a couple of weeks with him using a cheeky finger then tonight the full monty. Fantastic can't wait for a repeat so don't worry just go with it

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    baldbanger [sign in to see picture]
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    I told her to let me be the judge but she was concerned for me.

    Thanks again guys :-)

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    Fluffbags [sign in to see picture]
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    If you need any info for starting your experiments, Lovehoney have these guides:

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/blog/2011/03/02/first-time-anal-sex-guide/

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/blog/2009/12/31/an-overview-of-anal-sex-toys/

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/blog/?q=anal

    Also I have a quide for anal beginners on my blog:

    http://grittywoman.co.uk/anal-guide/

    And here is a great forum thread on advice for anal beginners:

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-toys/362-anal-sex-for-beginners-any-advice/

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-toys/693538-male-anal-beginner-help/

    There are so many fantastic threads on anal sex, from toys, to feelings, to worries, the lot. If you type "beginner anal" into the search box at the top of the forum....voila.

    Hope some of this helps you out xx

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    jerrybean [sign in to see picture]
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    NellW wrote:

    Have just had my first anal omg it was fantastic, spent a couple of weeks with him using a cheeky finger then tonight the full monty. Fantastic can't wait for a repeat so don't worry just go with it

    It can be really nice !!!!

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    NellW [sign in to see picture]
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    More than nice!! Still buzzing

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    KinkyFuckery [sign in to see picture]
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    jerrybean wrote:

    NellW wrote:

    Have just had my first anal omg it was fantastic, spent a couple of weeks with him using a cheeky finger then tonight the full monty. Fantastic can't wait for a repeat so don't worry just go with it

    It can be really nice !!!!

    It is an amazing feeling

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