• Labiaplasty or pussy lip reduction

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    I understand the pressure that women feel to look like porn stars or celebs. If your OH is into watching alot of porn it can make you abit paranoid. But the way i see it, its no different to the differences in willies. Some women have big lips, low lips hardly any. some men bend/ curve and then we have the obvious size and girth. We are all made a certain way and neither men or women should be made to feel insecure or "not good enough" by their partner. And don't put too much pressure on yourselves to look a certain way. Love yourselves guys and girls. LilMissMardyBum your post was so brave and inspiring.

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    LilMissMardyBum wrote:

    i was the victim of a nasty assault ,it left me damaged down there, and for me if i could have the scars taken away ,and the damage sorted,i would for the emortional reason but not because i want a designer vagina or for it to look good, at the end of the day whoever you are with should love every part of you no matter what, i was so cut up after my assault that my partner would not look at me the same or even come near me but he does not care about the damage i have been left with im still me and i just cant get my head around this why people feel they need to change to fit a certain box

    AlaineB wrote:

    I used to be very 'fleshy' down there... so much so my ex pretty much made me have labiaplasty

    TBH I used hate down there as I seem to have nothing at all. and I can feel little scars, I am now with a better OH and he doesn't mind, I still play and have sex but if I could go back and not have it, I would... I have no come to terms as it were with how I am down there now.

    **Also I had it done on the NHS as my ex made me VERY depressed over it.... =/

    Both very brave ladies well done to you both. You both deserve to be happy, I wish you both all the best

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    Gentle giant wrote:

    LilMissMardyBum wrote:

    i was the victim of a nasty assault ,it left me damaged down there, and for me if i could have the scars taken away ,and the damage sorted,i would for the emortional reason but not because i want a designer vagina or for it to look good, at the end of the day whoever you are with should love every part of you no matter what, i was so cut up after my assault that my partner would not look at me the same or even come near me but he does not care about the damage i have been left with im still me and i just cant get my head around this why people feel they need to change to fit a certain box

    AlaineB wrote:

    I used to be very 'fleshy' down there... so much so my ex pretty much made me have labiaplasty

    TBH I used hate down there as I seem to have nothing at all. and I can feel little scars, I am now with a better OH and he doesn't mind, I still play and have sex but if I could go back and not have it, I would... I have no come to terms as it were with how I am down there now.

    **Also I had it done on the NHS as my ex made me VERY depressed over it.... =/

    Both very brave ladies well done to you both. You both deserve to be happy, I wish you both all the best

    Thank you Gentle Giant :0 )

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    I actually spoke to a woman yesterday a freind of a friend who had a terrible accident as a young girl. Strange this came up. She fell out of a tree and slid down a long branch of a Wild rose bush, it did terrible damage to all of her private parts. She has had 4 ops over the years and whilst she endured great pain. She has nothing but gratitude to her plastic sergeons for giving her confidence. She cannot emagine why any one would want that op. if you are natural other than badly deformed.

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    A full pair of lips are a joy to behold, both visually and during oral sex.....

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    This thread reminds me of a great quote I saw once:

    "I wonder if there has ever been a culture in which women have been considered beautiful without having to alter, disguise, stretch, cripple, shave, paint or surgically deform their bodies in some way."

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    Unless there is a medical reason for doing it never ever get it done. Like all operations it can and does go wrong and effectively it is mutilation of your body.

    Most guys and girls thankfully go for the person not your sodding labia and if thats what they want dump them!!!

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    Agreed.

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    Fluffbags wrote:

    While I know that this procedure has given some women their confidence back (and therefore was the right choice for them) I think generally, the fact that this procedure even exists is just another example of how women are made to feel "imperfect" in their bodies.

    It could have a lot to do with what men and women see in porn, and that becoming "the norm"

    I remember chatting with a male friend once, who told me he ended it with a lass because her vagina looked like (And I quote.) "A badly wrapped kebab"

    What the actual fuck? Thing is, he is not the first guy I have heard similar from.

    Every vagina and labia is different (Just like every penis is) from the size of the clitoris, to the inner lips, the outter lips and the colour and it sickens me to think any woman is shamed or made to feel abnormal if she doesn't have the "perfect" vagina seen in porn.

    I also think it is getting ridiculous and that porn is setting examples many women cannot compete with. From pubic hair becoming a fetish or considered unhygienic or not nice to look at, to the shape and size of her lips, to wondering why they (or their girlfriends) cannot have a screaming orgasm within 10 seconds of penetration.

    As with any plastic surgery, I feel it is done to give confidence to the person, so they feel attractive. In one sense, I think people should have that choice. It is their right to do what makes them happy, but in another sense I think it is just disgusting that they have had their confidence ripped that low in the first place, by media, partners, friends, or themselves, to believe they need to change something that is beautiful just as it bloody well is, because as far as I can tell, beauty is unique to each and every person. Beauty is in the imperfect. The imperfect is perfect because it is imperfect. If we all became clones of what is considered "The perfect" thing...how boring would that be.

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    LilMissMardyBum wrote:

    Gentle giant wrote:

    LilMissMardyBum wrote:

    i was the victim of a nasty assault ,it left me damaged down there, and for me if i could have the scars taken away ,and the damage sorted,i would for the emortional reason but not because i want a designer vagina or for it to look good, at the end of the day whoever you are with should love every part of you no matter what, i was so cut up after my assault that my partner would not look at me the same or even come near me but he does not care about the damage i have been left with im still me and i just cant get my head around this why people feel they need to change to fit a certain box

    AlaineB wrote:

    I used to be very 'fleshy' down there... so much so my ex pretty much made me have labiaplasty

    TBH I used hate down there as I seem to have nothing at all. and I can feel little scars, I am now with a better OH and he doesn't mind, I still play and have sex but if I could go back and not have it, I would... I have no come to terms as it were with how I am down there now.

    **Also I had it done on the NHS as my ex made me VERY depressed over it.... =/

    Both very brave ladies well done to you both. You both deserve to be happy, I wish you both all the best

    Thank you Gentle Giant :0 )

    Gentle giant wrote:

    I actually spoke to a woman yesterday a freind of a friend who had a terrible accident as a young girl. Strange this came up. She fell out of a tree and slid down a long branch of a Wild rose bush, it did terrible damage to all of her private parts. She has had 4 ops over the years and whilst she endured great pain. She has nothing but gratitude to her plastic sergeons for giving her confidence. She cannot emagine why any one would want that op. if you are natural other than badly deformed.

    Agree with GG, very brave ladies indeed. Best wishes to you both xx

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    During pillow talk the other night my wife told me that when we're finished having kids she would like surgery on her bits. I asked what she meant and she said she would like her 'flappy bits' cut off as she doesn't like them. I made sure she knew just how much I love her pussy lips and I'm hoping it makes a difference. I have a bit of a fetish for larger labia and her 'flappy bits' turn me on a lot

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    DH well done you, keep reassuring her. It is very strange thing this. How some of us men really love these bigger vulva's yet no matter how much we tell our ladies we love them they still want them tidied up. My OH has one lip bigger than the other and a repaired tare underneath. She got these giving birth to our two children and I love her even more for this. Her personal thoughts are its not pretty but she has never thought it was, however she knows I love it and her. This is all she needs to know.

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    My wife also has one noticeably bigger than the other, which I think is probably what bothers her most, but I love them as they are (even more so after we use our Doc Johnson pussy pump, which she loves) and will now make sure I take every opportunity to tell her so

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    Just thought I'd resurrect this old thread. I was doing some googling today and I came across some websites that just restored my faith in humanity, my body, and being NORMAL.

    Have a look at some of these websites. Or just google love labia!

    http://lovelargelabia.tumblr.com/

    http://www.sexylabia.com/

    http://tumview.com/lovelargelabia

    http://largelabiaproject.org/

    Some of them are a bit OTT. But they made me laugh and feel a whole lot better about myself! We need to love ourselves girlies! xxx

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    I'm not sure if labiaplasty was ever something that I considered (mostly because I don't think I knew it was a thing when I was younger?) but I don't really like my labia and vulva in general. I distinctly remember doing the whole mirror-between-legs thing, and being horrified by what I saw and thinking that I wasn't normal down there.

    The main problem I have is that my labia majora are really small and my labia minora are really big— too big, so they protrude quite noticeably - so much so that they cause a bulge in my underwear, which I find horrendously embarrassing; it even causes a slight bulge in jeans, for goodness' sake! :( In fact, I stopped wearing kinda form fitting jogging bottoms when exercising because I was worried about it being obvious to people.

    The first time my boyfriend performed oral on me, he afterwards spent some time just looking at my vulva and idly playing around with it. That, too, was kinda embarrassing. orz

    I don't know. I try not to hate on myself for something that I know is perfectly natural, but I just find it hard to love that part of my body.

    The thing is, I don't have these problems with other women - I *love* the variety and uniqueness of vulvas, and think they're beautiful. I just can't think that way about my own labia. :/

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    Great share dotdashdot!

    awesome.

    I used to pull my labia minora when I was too young to understand really what was going on down there, left me with a flap 3 times the lenght of the other.
    I have been toying with the idea of having something done with them past 10 y, but never taken the full step.
    it's just too much skin, and sometimes it will curl up and making it a bit harder for my OH to penetrate at early stages of intercourse.

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    Candied Citrus wrote:

    I'm not sure if labiaplasty was ever something that I considered (mostly because I don't think I knew it was a thing when I was younger?) but I don't really like my labia and vulva in general. I distinctly remember doing the whole mirror-between-legs thing, and being horrified by what I saw and thinking that I wasn't normal down there.

    The main problem I have is that my labia majora are really small and my labia minora are really big— too big, so they protrude quite noticeably - so much so that they cause a bulge in my underwear, which I find horrendously embarrassing; it even causes a slight bulge in jeans, for goodness' sake! :( In fact, I stopped wearing kinda form fitting jogging bottoms when exercising because I was worried about it being obvious to people.

    The first time my boyfriend performed oral on me, he afterwards spent some time just looking at my vulva and idly playing around with it. That, too, was kinda embarrassing. orz

    I don't know. I try not to hate on myself for something that I know is perfectly natural, but I just find it hard to love that part of my body.

    The thing is, I don't have these problems with other women - I *love* the variety and uniqueness of vulvas, and think they're beautiful. I just can't think that way about my own labia. :/

    I am sorry for a little lack of confidence as the description of your clothing and how it protrudes would sound amazing to most guys.

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    Candied Citrus wrote:

    I'm not sure if labiaplasty was ever something that I considered (mostly because I don't think I knew it was a thing when I was younger?) but I don't really like my labia and vulva in general. I distinctly remember doing the whole mirror-between-legs thing, and being horrified by what I saw and thinking that I wasn't normal down there.

    The main problem I have is that my labia majora are really small and my labia minora are really big— too big, so they protrude quite noticeably - so much so that they cause a bulge in my underwear, which I find horrendously embarrassing; it even causes a slight bulge in jeans, for goodness' sake! :( In fact, I stopped wearing kinda form fitting jogging bottoms when exercising because I was worried about it being obvious to people.

    The first time my boyfriend performed oral on me, he afterwards spent some time just looking at my vulva and idly playing around with it. That, too, was kinda embarrassing. orz

    I don't know. I try not to hate on myself for something that I know is perfectly natural, but I just find it hard to love that part of my body.

    The thing is, I don't have these problems with other women - I *love* the variety and uniqueness of vulvas, and think they're beautiful. I just can't think that way about my own labia. :/

    I could have written this post myself! The way you feel is exactly how I feel too. The mirror between the legs thing was a little terrifying when I first did it! I hate the bulge it causes in underwear, I rarely find underwear that's flattering down there! I seriously doubt that you can see it through jogging bottoms though...

    I can look at websites that try to boost vagina pride and confidence, I can see a million other women with large labia but it just does not change the way I feel about my own. It effects me some days more than others. But this weekend I caught sight of mine in the mirror when I was getting out of the shower and I didn't want to have sex with my boyfriend all weekend!

    I'd love to be able to strut around naked in front of him. But I just CAN'T! The fact that a guy played around with yours though sounds like a really good thing! He was obviously intruiged, fascinated and wanted to learn more about them. I wouldn't see it as something to be ashamed of. I wish my boyfriend would do that to me! x

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    Ms.Bradley wrote:

    Great share dotdashdot!

    awesome.

    I used to pull my labia minora when I was too young to understand really what was going on down there, left me with a flap 3 times the lenght of the other.
    I have been toying with the idea of having something done with them past 10 y, but never taken the full step.
    it's just too much skin, and sometimes it will curl up and making it a bit harder for my OH to penetrate at early stages of intercourse.

    Do you think that "pulling" that area when you're younger makes a difference or is it just how your body was meant to be, regardless of what you did to it?

    I remember playing around down there quite a lot when I was younger, too young to realise what I was doing and it's always worried me that that's what caused mine to be bigger!

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    dotdashdot wrote:

    Ms.Bradley wrote:

    Great share dotdashdot!

    awesome.

    I used to pull my labia minora when I was too young to understand really what was going on down there, left me with a flap 3 times the lenght of the other.
    I have been toying with the idea of having something done with them past 10 y, but never taken the full step.
    it's just too much skin, and sometimes it will curl up and making it a bit harder for my OH to penetrate at early stages of intercourse.

    Do you think that "pulling" that area when you're younger makes a difference or is it just how your body was meant to be, regardless of what you did to it?

    I remember playing around down there quite a lot when I was younger, too young to realise what I was doing and it's always worried me that that's what caused mine to be bigger!

    Hi ._. I don't think that playing with your self as youngsters will deform you in any way. Most blokes would end up with very deformed penises if this was the case. I think that it is only young naive men that think that ladies vulva's are symmetrical and all tucked in neat and tidy.

    As I have posted before there are many men that desire and prefer a large vulva. So strut your stuff an be confident.

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