• Labiaplasty or pussy lip reduction

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    dotdashdot [sign in to see picture]
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    I feel very self concious about how mine look which I know is utterly ridiculous. I don't think my boyfriend has really seen my ladies parts properly and we've been together over a year. I wouldn't walk around the house completely naked because of it.

    I think porn has a lot to answer for and there's that idea that ladies parts should be all neat and tucked away. But the idea of labiaplasty makes me feel physically sick. In a world where young girls are mutilated to change the appearance of their genitals I can't believe that some would volunteer to have it done.

    In my profession, I see a lot of ladies bits. And NONE of them look the same. They are all completely individual. So why on earth are we so hung up about it?! It's very silly. And I know that I, for one, definitely need to get over it!

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    Like others have said, porn can be fun, enjoyable & even helpful for some.

    However it is a shame that it often makes people feel inadequate or ugly. Not everyone has the porno body. Not all women have the flat stomach, enormous pert boobs & a perfectly waxed designer pussy. Like wise not all guys have bulging muscles, six pack stomach & huge like a donkey (except ME of course - NOT!!!).

    I would never chastise someone for wanting to modify their body, but I think it's sad when they feel that they have too to conform to what socially make out as the norm.

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    dotdashdot wrote:

    I feel very self concious about how mine look which I know is utterly ridiculous. I don't think my boyfriend has really seen my ladies parts properly and we've been together over a year. I wouldn't walk around the house completely naked because of it.

    I think porn has a lot to answer for and there's that idea that ladies parts should be all neat and tucked away. But the idea of labiaplasty makes me feel physically sick. In a world where young girls are mutilated to change the appearance of their genitals I can't believe that some would volunteer to have it done.

    In my profession, I see a lot of ladies bits. And NONE of them look the same. They are all completely individual. So why on earth are we so hung up about it?! It's very silly. And I know that I, for one, definitely need to get over it!

    Just want to reasure that your thoughts are right. Be strong because you are right and Mr right will love you and yours

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    SexyBumBully wrote:

    I am rather self conscious about my labia and a labiaplasty is something I've been considering (a lot, recently to be honest). The only reason I haven't booked one is because I don't have a spare £2, 500!

    I've been off sex for quite some time now (good job I'm not seeing anyone!) and my physical appearance is probably one of the reasons. I used to be really proud of my body and nothing about it has changed, I just seem to have become really self conscious.

    It's got nothing to do with porn though. Those women are completely fake, what's attractive about that?

    Dont some one will love them and you, You will find them & then you will need the £2.5k to go on a nice holiday instead

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    why the hell would anyone want to ave unnecessary surgery on your lady bits! Womens labia are all different shapes and sizes...... that's normal!

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    Gentle giant wrote:

    SexyBumBully wrote:

    I am rather self conscious about my labia and a labiaplasty is something I've been considering (a lot, recently to be honest). The only reason I haven't booked one is because I don't have a spare £2, 500!

    I've been off sex for quite some time now (good job I'm not seeing anyone!) and my physical appearance is probably one of the reasons. I used to be really proud of my body and nothing about it has changed, I just seem to have become really self conscious.

    It's got nothing to do with porn though. Those women are completely fake, what's attractive about that?

    Dont some one will love them and you, You will find them & then you will need the £2.5k to go on a nice holiday instead

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    on my previous post, I was trying to reply on that comment! I just wanted to say to sexybumbully that you shouldn't be self conscious about your labia. in my line of work I see a lot of lady bits and they are all different shapes and sizes...and are meant to be! love your labia! lol, I do and they look nothing like the ones you see in the porn flicks - thank goodness!

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    An update on my lack of sensation! I had a very thorough wax done, more than I usually do (a treat for the hubby.) I don't deal well with pain normally; right now I am sore, hot and swollen and sensitive everywhere including the bits that are the topic of this conversation.

    Hurrah. I can't wait for the heat to go away, hope the sensitivity is here to stay.

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    naughty stacey wrote:

    An update on my lack of sensation! I had a very thorough wax done, more than I usually do (a treat for the hubby.) I don't deal well with pain normally; right now I am sore, hot and swollen and sensitive everywhere including the bits that are the topic of this conversation.

    Hurrah. I can't wait for the heat to go away, hope the sensitivity is here to stay.

    good luck enjoy and keep us posted

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    My OH is - and always has been - hugely self conscious about this subject, I personally wouldn't change a thing about her though. She has recently been sent a set of kegel balls to test which is never a bad thing - not that she needs any improvement - but beyond that I personally think she is perfect.

    I haven't had a huge number of sexual partners but ranging from a virgin to a mother of two I can honestly say that I have never come across a vagina that I didn't like or would want to change in any way.

    Everyone is different and that's the most wonderful thing, I'm just lucky that my current - and hopefully last - partner also happens to be my favourite :-)

    Having said that there are a ton of things I'd change about my body if I could so I definitely understand the insecurity she and others feel.

    As far as I'm concerned ladies, you're all beautiful. Just my little opinion.

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    Honestly the idea makes me shudder and tingle (not the good kind). I'd also be amazed if this left absolutely no scarring. I've had the needles and stitching thing twice now in that area and got high as a kite because hand on heart, the repair hurt more than any part of labour. Cannot imagine how worried a woman has to be to get over the mental block of knives etc there O_O
    I'm lucky in that hubby still thinks it's amazing (just as well as he could take a run and jump before I'd get unnecessary surgery there!)

    I'm guessing MOST guys and gals are not analysing aesthetics at this stage and are closer to 'yes! I'm gonna get some!'

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    id never consider it , even after labour and i have scarring down there from the episiotomy and an extra few INCHES woth of tear including tearing 3 laters of anal muscles , im still ok with my ladygarden and how its ' landscaped ' im quite happy with it , all the inside bits are on the inside and tucked in under the outer bits . though i would never consider it personally , i wouldnt look down on anyone who chose to have it , people have enough hang ups about sex as it is and if someone chooses to do it , let them .

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    Rowan wrote:

    Honestly the idea makes me shudder and tingle (not the good kind). I'd also be amazed if this left absolutely no scarring. I've had the needles and stitching thing twice now in that area and got high as a kite because hand on heart, the repair hurt more than any part of labour. Cannot imagine how worried a woman has to be to get over the mental block of knives etc there O_O
    I'm lucky in that hubby still thinks it's amazing (just as well as he could take a run and jump before I'd get unnecessary surgery there!)

    I'm guessing MOST guys and gals are not analysing aesthetics at this stage and are closer to 'yes! I'm gonna get some!'

    My OH went through this,it took me a year to reasure her she was the same person and for me nothing had changed. I still wanted her.

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    i dont like the way it looks down there but i deffinatly wouldnt spend money on getting it done, i think if you find someone special they should love you for how you look, if someone does like it they arnt worth your time in the first place. I wouldnt change for no man x

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    Delboy1991 wrote:

    i dont like the way it looks down there but i deffinatly wouldnt spend money on getting it done, i think if you find someone special they should love you for how you look, if someone does like it they arnt worth your time in the first place. I wouldnt change for no man x

    agreed

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    But isnt plastic surgery plastic surgery regardless of what you're having done.

    I'd have it done, in fact only a few years ago I begged my mom to pay for it (ok maybe more than a few, I was about 16). In reality there's actually nothing 'wrong' it's just not what I want to look like..

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    @holz

    Read back this thread :-)

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    Holz105 wrote:

    But isnt plastic surgery plastic surgery regardless of what you're having done.

    I'd have it done, in fact only a few years ago I begged my mom to pay for it (ok maybe more than a few, I was about 16). In reality there's actually nothing 'wrong' it's just not what I want to look like..

    Holz Thats fine too. Just so long as you dont feel pressured into looking perfect for some one else. If you really cant stand the way you look and you need it we all understand. We would all love to feel totally body happy but some just cant.But get some advice and counciling first.

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    I used to be very 'fleshy' down there... so much so my ex pretty much made me have labiaplasty

    TBH I used hate down there as I seem to have nothing at all. and I can feel little scars, I am now with a better OH and he doesn't mind, I still play and have sex but if I could go back and not have it, I would... I have no come to terms as it were with how I am down there now.

    **Also I had it done on the NHS as my ex made me VERY depressed over it.... =/

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    i was the victim of a nasty assault ,it left me damaged down there, and for me if i could have the scars taken away ,and the damage sorted,i would for the emortional reason but not because i want a designer vagina or for it to look good, at the end of the day whoever you are with should love every part of you no matter what, i was so cut up after my assault that my partner would not look at me the same or even come near me but he does not care about the damage i have been left with im still me and i just cant get my head around this why people feel they need to change to fit a certain box

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