Fisting

Ok so a little while ago, completely by surprise we discovered that Mrs SXE likes things large. Since then we bought the toy joy extra thick jelly cock, a little prematurely perhaps as its only seen one outing currently and didn't really get past go!

When masturbating (or showing off) she's attempted to self-fist but doesn't seem to be able to get the position or the angle right to achieve it.

When she's asked me to try we always get to the point where my knuckles are just about there (the hard part) before we seem to be able to go no further. Unfortunately although the angle seems right when she's with me, my hands are like shovels.

Any tips or advice from the OA ladies for her or for us?

She seems pretty set on taking the Toy Joy at some point so advice is very welcome. Thanks.

(I even remembered to do a search before posting this time)

Can't speak for the girlies Sxe, but  Mrs T fists me from time to time. Hair free zone and well lubricated would appear to be the golden rules. Relaxation obviously comes into it, so consider trying to drown her in a warm bath first to relax the muscles.... she doesn't always manage it, so not an exact science !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

TB

I agree with Tallboy. Relax is all that you need and lube, lots of lube for fisting. The knuckles are a bit hard to go in but be carefull that if you push to much you might put your fist in but you also might tear her apart. You can achieve to fist her at once, you will probably need  acouple of sessions before but this is the nice part.

Again lube lube lube and relax..........don't forget that!!!!

good luck to you bot and have a good time...share the results if you like

grboy

sorry I don't quite get the last bit? lol I DO get the don't just ram it home approach!

Fisting. It can be done right or wrong, if it's done wrong, she will never want to do it again!

Fisting does not have to be literally about 'fisting ' as in, the whole fist and half your arm up there, so stop worrying about losing a braclet or watch lol!

Heres what to do:

Make sure your nails are trimmed with NO jagged edges.

Get some KY Jelly. There are other lubes out there, but KY is the best.

Apply KY to your hand. Apply KY to her vagina inside and around the entrance.

Do some usual foreplay with thouching and caressing and oral sex. (or which ever one she likes best).

Start by sliding one finger in and out, then progress to two, then three.

Then stop, hold it there!

Keep three fingers in and gently move in and out, rotate around, push in and out.

Now she needs to switch on a bullet vibe like the bang bang bullet or a mild to moderate mini vibe preferrably with a single speed and start to stroke her clitoris with it. This will make her relax and the pleasure will stop her tensing.

NOW go four a fourth finger, in and out, slowly, twist around again, while you are doing this your hand needs to be in a narrow shape (forefinger and little finger leaning in to touch middle fingers to make your hand narrow).

Press your thumb tight to your centre palm and then push in again, out, rotate, in and out, slowly and gently.

You are now in up to the knuckles.

Push gently again but if she feels pain, STOP PULL BACK A LITTLE AND GO AGAIN - GENTLY.

If you still feel resistance, thats as far as you can go. Wide hands will not fit inside sometimes! (That's why porn actors doing fisting scenes often have slender hands, have you noticed that?)

If this is as far as you can go, concentrate on the pressing gently against the entrance and twisting gently around, the stretching sensation alone shud be enough with the bullet in use as well, to give her a good orgasm.

Fisting does not have to mean taking the whole hand, many people (myself included)  get mind blowing pleasure from simply feeling a partners hand stretching down there. Which is still fisting even if the whole fist is not involved.

This should help you to achive the result you both want, so try this next time you have a go at it. And remember fisting is patience and skill and technique, but that's only 20% of it - the rest is TRUST so as long as you are both relaxed, gentle and careful, and go slowly, it should be good for you and mind blowing for her.

All the best and I hope this helps.

Source of my advice: An 18 month relationship with a former lover who used to fist me vaginally and anally. He never got past the knuckles either but it was amazing, because it was slow, careful and he did all the things I listed above.

Hope this helps a lot

 That is a very thorough guide, well written and easy to follow, thank you!  :)

One thing, I would like to add not only trimming fingernails, in my experience filing them too is a must.  :)

This is interesting. I'd guess that maybe the receptive person having an orgasm first would help with relaxation and, kind of, stretchableness?

would I be right in suggesting that its all about taking your time?  I've never done this before, and so that post was very informative cj1972... thanks

Ok then and here's one for the erotic literati among you- yep you know who l mean, my question is where the hell do your balls retreat to when you have a hand inserted up your ass !! and  l am not asking out of idle curiosity.

Lubyanka, your Blog seems to be going haywire at the moment, think we should appoint you British Ambassador to the west coast of the U.S.A. - only a thought, and would Dublin survive without you !! (rhetorical- but feel free to answer if so inclined!!)

TB

Youre welcome, fisting is an amazing experience for the woman and great for the person doing it too, as long as its done right

No no, best not to come first - otherwise everything will be too sensitive, once the person being fisted has come, take it out before the pleasure switches off, cos thats when you feel the discomfort!

Ah, ok. This thread is so educational!

tallboy247 wrote:

Ok then and here's one for the erotic literati among you- yep you know who l mean, my question is where the hell do your balls retreat to when you have a hand inserted up your ass !! and  l am not asking out of idle curiosity.

In my experience, testicles remain hanging outside the body during fisting.  Have your testicles retreated somewhere during anal play?

tallboy247 wrote:

Lubyanka, your Blog seems to be going haywire at the moment, think we should appoint you British Ambassador to the west coast of the U.S.A. - only a thought, and would Dublin survive without you !! 

1. Please define "haywire" in the context of my blog?
2. I'm not British.  People in Dublin usually aren't.
3. What does the west coast of the USA have to do with anything?
4. No.  :p

1. Yep they disappear somewhere, revert to undescended state l guess !!!

2. Yep you are right, bugger, sorry and l got an A in Geography, guess l have been overcome by the peace in the north of the emerald isle, thought of us all as one big... you know, yep l know you are a Celt and l am probably a mongrel!!!

3. Was on your blog, lots of hits from wet coast U.S.A. so many interested parties there!!

4. Ha ha !!!

Tallboy

 Hi sxe_couple. We have the extra thick jelly cock and it is definitely one you have to take your time over. We get started by Brandy warming herself up by riding me cowgirl style. when she's ready she will move up to straddle my face and I get to work on her clit. After a few minutes of this she's really turned on and will raise her hips so I can balance the jelly cock on my chest and she can lower herself down onto it. This gives me a great view and once she's taken it all I can continue to suck and lick her clit. She gets the most amazing all over body orgasm from this.

my gf has the extra thick jelly cock as well, which she really enjoys taking. We discovered almost accidentally that she enjoys being fisted, but would agree with everyone else that you need lots of lube and dont have to go any further than your knuckles to really stretch your partner!! I find it a huge tuen on to see how wild it drives her! you can always alternate between your hand and a suitably large toy - any other tips??

cj1972 wrote:

Fisting. It can be done right or wrong, if it's done wrong, she will never want to do it again!

Fisting does not have to be literally about 'fisting ' as in, the whole fist and half your arm up there, so stop worrying about losing a braclet or watch lol!

Heres what to do:

Make sure your nails are trimmed with NO jagged edges.

Get some KY Jelly. There are other lubes out there, but KY is the best.

Apply KY to your hand. Apply KY to her vagina inside and around the entrance.

Do some usual foreplay with thouching and caressing and oral sex. (or which ever one she likes best).

Start by sliding one finger in and out, then progress to two, then three.

Then stop, hold it there!

Keep three fingers in and gently move in and out, rotate around, push in and out.

Now she needs to switch on a bullet vibe like the bang bang bullet or a mild to moderate mini vibe preferrably with a single speed and start to stroke her clitoris with it. This will make her relax and the pleasure will stop her tensing.

NOW go four a fourth finger, in and out, slowly, twist around again, while you are doing this your hand needs to be in a narrow shape (forefinger and little finger leaning in to touch middle fingers to make your hand narrow).

Press your thumb tight to your centre palm and then push in again, out, rotate, in and out, slowly and gently.

You are now in up to the knuckles.

Push gently again but if she feels pain, STOP PULL BACK A LITTLE AND GO AGAIN - GENTLY.

If you still feel resistance, thats as far as you can go. Wide hands will not fit inside sometimes! (That's why porn actors doing fisting scenes often have slender hands, have you noticed that?)

If this is as far as you can go, concentrate on the pressing gently against the entrance and twisting gently around, the stretching sensation alone shud be enough with the bullet in use as well, to give her a good orgasm.

Fisting does not have to mean taking the whole hand, many people (myself included)  get mind blowing pleasure from simply feeling a partners hand stretching down there. Which is still fisting even if the whole fist is not involved.

This should help you to achive the result you both want, so try this next time you have a go at it. And remember fisting is patience and skill and technique, but that's only 20% of it - the rest is TRUST so as long as you are both relaxed, gentle and careful, and go slowly, it should be good for you and mind blowing for her.

All the best and I hope this helps.

Source of my advice: An 18 month relationship with a former lover who used to fist me vaginally and anally. He never got past the knuckles either but it was amazing, because it was slow, careful and he did all the things I listed above.

Hope this helps a lot

that has serious "done stuffs" to me btw lmao its got me so wound up i wanna try it NOW!!!

Did it once during a mind blowing one night stand.  She was on top with my elbow on the bed.  I was so shocked, was not expecting it to go in, I have big hands...    still probably the best night of my life..  her body went into convulsions..  then when I took it out I she had a full body orgasam...  def worth trying.. lots of baby oil...

Found this thread very interesting.  My OH has done it before and I loved it even though it was so long ago I can just about remember it.  My question is, if anyone would like to answer is what is a full body orgasm?  Oh and how would I go about getting one?

Getting all hot and bothered reading about this as my partner is away on business for 3 nights.  Oh well, there is always my rabbit!

very interesting topic x