• men who say no to anal play

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    Cat Lady [sign in to see picture]
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    Aqualaria wrote:

    Unfortuately, stereotypes are everywhere, and as far as men are concerned, lads mag are some of the worst promoters of these stereotypes, especially where sex and women are concerned.

    Sorry if I upset anyone with my observations about what my former employees were saying. Not what I believe at all.

    No problem - I realised that you weren't stating your own opinion.

    I don't know about the other ladies here but I personally have never even looked at a lads' magazine and have no idea what stuff they contain! So I am totally out of touch with how guys think in that respect!

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    Cat Lady wrote:

    Aqualaria wrote:

    Unfortuately, stereotypes are everywhere, and as far as men are concerned, lads mag are some of the worst promoters of these stereotypes, especially where sex and women are concerned.

    Sorry if I upset anyone with my observations about what my former employees were saying. Not what I believe at all.

    No problem - I realised that you weren't stating your own opinion.

    I don't know about the other ladies here but I personally have never even looked at a lads' magazine and have no idea what stuff they contain! So I am totally out of touch with how guys think in that respect!

    ive read through loads .. its just made me realise what type of guy i want and dont want . i DONT want the type that reads that shite and takes it for a gospel on how to live . i DO want the type who even if they do read it - do so for giggles rather than a lifestyle bible as its chav city !

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    Could it just be as plain and simple as percieving to be clean enough down there ? I doubt it`s got anything to do with guys maybe thinking they have gay tendencies.

    I`d be happy to do the "sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander" thing if g/f got back into ass-play which she got curious about after seeing reference to it in a message I frequently swapped with an American ex who was really into it, (ahhh fond memories lol).

    She/we enjoyed months of her rolling onto her tummy which was a simple sign she wanted ass play during foreplay, getting comfortable whilst I played with her clit and eased either well lubed fingers or thumb into her ass which she admitted gave her better orgasms than she`d ever enjoyed before.

    Health and hygeine do play a big part. Some posters are concerned about whether to do anal cleanses, douches before anything anal but I think to some extent thats a bit of a passion killer and not spontaneous enough.

    It should be as simple as give and take and/or whether if it`s the girl who`s more into it than the guy is actually that bothered that her guy might not have ass play on him as something on his bucket list.

    69 Done well has both male and female ass areas to hand so to speak, if a guy is having fun and engaging himself with his girlfriends pussy and ass then how on earth, given he`s very likely to be enjoying a blow job would he mind her giving him a bit of ass teasing whilst theyre locked together ?

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    Kasey [sign in to see picture]
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    old thread, but i thought i would add my 2p.

    i'm fine with my partner to playing around my bum, but I really don't want much to do with his, and he is fine with that.

    personal preference is the way of the day over here, and I figure if we are both happy, there doesn't need to be perfect equality in who does what to who.

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    Ron Burgundy [sign in to see picture]
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    I think most straight guys would be put off by the thought of being penetrated. I can't ever see myself wanting to try but if some guys get enjoyment from it then good luck to them. Not every gay man likes it in the ass either (my very gay brother says so) but male anal penetration is associated with homosexuality so maybe that's just too big a mental hurdle for most straight guys to overcome.

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    Impossible to tell if most guys would be put off by the thought of being penetrated. I suspect that most guys on here would give it a try, but that doesn't reflect the rest of the population and they would never talk about it, so we just don't know.

    In my mind it's no different to anal sex with a woman. It's not natural in tems of procreation either way, but we both enjoy it, so both do it.

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    I'#d say try it, why not, if you try it and dont like it then no harm, if you try it and enjoy it then it's something new to explore. It's like feeding a toddler who says they don't like something i.e a new veg or something else when they've never tried it before!!! (going through this stage with my wee bhoy lol)

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    It started to come to people's attention from about 1998 when 'Bend over Boyfriend' was released (in 1999 Channel 5 ran a thing about it in one program which was the trigger that got us into it) so its had about 15 years to gain momentum. With it popping up in "Shameless" and even in the popular press (re. Madonna for example) There can't be too many people who don't know about it and therefore, at least to themselves, have contemplated it.

    I looked at the reviews of about a dozen strapon kits, double ended dildos and harnesses here on LH. There were a total of close on 300 reviews and a rough estimate suggested over 75% of these were written by people who were using them for pegging. It's hard to do a Fermi calculation on this but whatever estimates you make about the number of sales per review and the number of sales by other outlets you have to come to the conclusion that a hell of a lot of straight guys are taking it where the sun don't shine and enjoying it - me included 8-)=

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    Mr Gooner [sign in to see picture]
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    Simple no from me. I have no interest in anything being stuck up my rear.

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    I know of some gay men who declare themselves to be "top only", meaning that they'll engage in anal sex but won't be the receptive partner, and personally I find that quite irksome. Normally I'm all about respecting someone's boundaries, and indeed there are many gay men who have no interest in anal sex in any form (I was one of them for the first 5 years that I was sexually active), and I have absolutely no problem with that, but I just find it supremely selfish if a guy is going to expect you to do something for him, but will then categorically refuse to reciprocate.

    If you have a preference for being the top, and would prefer to do that 90% of the time, then fine, but you should be at least open to bottoming for your partner now and again. Having something inserted anally really isn't that bad, indeed it's actually quite pleasurable which is why so many men do actually enjoy having it done to them. I don't think there's a good reason for anyone to rule it out completely when they've involved in the other side of it. If you actually think it's that terrible then why are you so eager to put someone else through it? I just think that sometimes relationships are about doing something for another person which might not always be exactly what you want, but still you show that willingness.

    I can see the reservations that some straight men have, and I think it's largely down to it being it being unconventional sex. Years ago sex was just simple penis-in-vagina business, then oral sex became pretty commonplace, and these days a man giving a woman anal sex is considered a perfectly normal part of porn, which is why so many young guys just expect women to be eager to do it. Pegging and male anal play is still rather niche in the straight world, and some men just aren't eager to do something "weird", they just want to have "normal" sex, even though what they consider to be normal has clearly been changing for generations. Some men are a little more adventurous and are down for trying anything. Some men possibly do falsely associate it with being gay, and worry that it may hurt because of how their partner has reacted when they did it to them, or maybe just not trust their partner enough to try it, but I think these things are secondary.

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    Kinky&Curvy [sign in to see picture]
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    My OH has always liked the idea of anal for me but it's not my thing so it's not something i'd do for him either, however I have on occasion put one of my toys near him to see how he likes it coz hes a pain in my arse most of the time with how horny he is (not literally :P) and he always jumps so I dunno whether he'd like it... however I like my men to be 'manly' and so the idea of stickin somethin in my OH's rear is not a turn on for me ... at all. (Even if he does have the cutest butt on earth :D )

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    I my self have only just discovered the joy of anal play, well on my self any way. I started by slimming a finger up my bum while masturbating and then I recently brought my prostate massager from here.

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    Jonnywong [sign in to see picture]
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    They shouldn't knock it till they've tried it. I've played with my arse for years, I've got off on having all sorts up there, only had one partner who played with my arse though. She loved it, I was given the choice if you want to fuck me in the arse I have to fuck you in the arse with a strap on, so i let her do it, and I loved it, it brought a whole new dimension to bedroom fun. Would love to do it again sometime soon.

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    desperate for my husband to fuck me up the arse. he did before we were married but has gone off the idea noe :-(

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    Citygirl2810 wrote:

    desperate for my husband to fuck me up the arse. he did before we were married but has gone off the idea noe :-(

    Thats such a shame. try some vibrating butt plugs whilst he has you doggy my OH likes this it feels good for both of us. good luck

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    Citygirl2810 [sign in to see picture]
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    good idea gentle giant. he has become more conservative over the years just as i want to get much more adventurous

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    jeffngloria [sign in to see picture]
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    I've got to admit a bit of pegging play is on my bucket list and I know the missus would be up for it just not got around to it YET, if it feels half as good as a butt plug though bring it on x

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    Me and my friends have a saying " if you don't push back it's not gay " - so working on that premise all is well !!!!

    Jokes aside, I personally have no worries with it, unfortunatelyour to hit the magic p spot u are gonna have to take the back door

    Does always surprise me how many men want to stick it up oh ass and dismiss there own, only thing I can say is I think these guys are just going along with the crowd, what they have been conditioned too, personally I pride myself on making up my own mind with my own experiences.

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    rubysoho wrote:

    ive noticed on a couple of threads that there are several of the LH boys who are adamant they will never , not , no , NEVER let anything go up their rear ends ..

    now . im a nosey so and so , so if you wouldnt mind ,, care to explain why ? please thank you

    Iam def. not gay, not even curious. I enjoy this very much, but Iam not sure many people know why a finger in a mans bottom can be so good. Prostate, just within reach of a finger it is an area just like a womans G spot. It is a gland that is where part of the ejaculation fluid comes from. Seminal fluid is the vessel for sperm to travel in, they are mixed after the prostate. You can with practice tickle and rub it and it is possible to get this fluild( pre cum) to come out. For me this used with a nice long session of edging can give you a huge orgasm. Not just intense but a massive volume of come.

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    I have a prostate massager which I have used twice. The thought of something going up me never interested me before but since joining LH I wanted to try it, with hopes of the OH pegging me at a later date (she's not 100% on the idea but she'll come round when she's ready). I'm struggling to get to that spot but will keep trying, just having it there vibrating is a nice feeling but I'd love to be able to orgasm from it.

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