I write (as yet unpublished) novels and love sex so I'm working on an erotic novel.
Thing is I've been with my wife for over 20 years now and I don't want to base everything on our sex life. Partly because it may be boring and if (or when) it gets published I don't want people thinking they know what goes on! Also we have kids so our love life tends to be quite organised and not romantic or spontaneous.
Anyway I could do with inspiration to mix things up a bit in the novel. I'm not aiming for a niche so fairly vanilla sex, but really how people initiate, what they actually do, how long it lasts - don't feel you have to be accurate or differentiate between fantasy and reality.
Oh, and I'll do what I always do when writing and take a bit from here and a bit from there so no-one will be recognisable.