• New rules....

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    19mattlynn52 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hello all at lovehoney,, my partner and i are at a stage in our relasionship that we talk openly about each others needs and not's, i am a cancer suvivor and most of my close family estranged me, but as i prooved them all wrong and that i could beat the monster ,anyway, Pauline is a qualified nurse in her mid 50's, she almost took me on from day 1,

    Mykidney cancer was well formed when we firstfound it, the operation was radical and very severe, i was almost cut in half, in the prosses the scalple cut unintentionaly through some of the nerves to my penis and testicles, they would eventualy reconect themselves, but as i was saying about Pauline, she helped me through the worst, and it was inevitable we fell in love, my sex life was zero for almost 6 yeas, but with the help of the organisations like Lovehoney we got equipment to aid to penitrave sex, and every time we order more experimental toys and aids, the feelings to my privates got better and better, so it's up and on and push forward, people with sex problems must talk into these forums and find the solutin for there perticular handycap,. Matt and Pauline.

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    Longsword [sign in to see picture]
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    and questions, and for being so patient over the weekend waiting for a reply :)

    Lovehoney - Jess wrote:

    Hey everyone,

    Thanks for your comments

    I understand that a rule like this does come with 'grey areas' and of course conversation detail is contextual. As I said in my previous post, I will bare in mind subject content and whether or not the amount of detail is necessary and adding to the conversation at hand.

    I think we can all appreciate times when detail is required in order to fully advise / ask a question and get the information you need, in comparison to times when adding extra detail is unnecessary and doesn't help in passing on any information or make the conversation any clearer, more informative or helpful. It's a really tough rule to enforce as I'm effectively asking everyone to use their common sense, and that in itself is subjective!

    Perhaps I should change the wording to "Unnecessary expletives"? What does everyone think?

    To confirm, by expletive I'm referring to the following definition:

    - "A word or phrase that does not contribute any meaning but is added only to fill out a sentence or a metrical line."

    It's not so much a case of 'too much detail' if the detail is required, I'm referring more to when the person posting chooses to use harsh / expletive language to describe something when it really wasn't required and the information passed on would have been equally as useful without it. For the sake of offering an example, I will break my own rule!

    NO- "I rammed my asshole with my new anal dong last night - I can still feel myself throbbing and gaping as I write this. I smothered myself, the toy and my whole house in lube and squeezed it in, feeling my a-hole stretch over the tip. I can't wait to use it again and watch myself cum over and over again. Next time I'm going to frantically frig myself off at the same time to see how much I can cum...."

    YES- "I tried out my new anal dildo last night - it was amazing!! I made sure I used plenty of water-based lube and was impressed by how stretched it made me feel. Certain positions were better than others and I personally found inserting in a squatted position easiest. The orgasms were fantastic and I think it could be my new favourite toy! When I come to use it next time I think I'll try using it alongside my bullet for clit stim as well."

    These two paragraphs basically say the same thing, but the choice of language is completely different - going back to the age old saying "It's not what you say, but the way you say it".

    As for the Erotic Fiction section of the forum does hold some of the biggest 'grey areas' of the site, as there is always room for artistic expression in this area. This, in my opinion, is where descriptive language is necessary and does add to the story / atmosphere / fantasy. In this section I'm only really interested in making sure the stories are 'Lovehoney friendly' eg: discussing sex acts after the age of 18, nothing involving animals, kids, etc.

    This has always been the 'unwritten rule' of the forums so those of you who are already well established forum users have nothing to worry about, and to be honest you shouldn't feel any change. The reason I've been forced to put this rule into writing now is due to the number of new members who think this is a hook up / dirty talk site (and I suspect many are getting off on their own posts) and I need to put a stop to it to protect the happy, helpful and open atmosphere we have here. This rule is definitely not in place to impinge on any of the wonderful community members and information we currently offer and I really don't want anyone feeling they can't speak freely on the forums.

    On a side note, I can honestly say that all of you who have commented on this thread have never said or done anything which I feel breaks this rule (or any of the others for that matter) so for you guys, just carry on doing what you're doing!

    Lovehoney - Jess wrote:

    Hey everyone,

    Thanks for your comments and questions, and for being so patient over the weekend waiting for a reply :)

    I understand that a rule like this does come with 'grey areas' and of course conversation detail is contextual. As I said in my previous post, I will bare in mind subject content and whether or not the amount of detail is necessary and adding to the conversation at hand.

    I think we can all appreciate times when detail is required in order to fully advise / ask a question and get the information you need, in comparison to times when adding extra detail is unnecessary and doesn't help in passing on any information or make the conversation any clearer, more informative or helpful. It's a really tough rule to enforce as I'm effectively asking everyone to use their common sense, and that in itself is subjective!

    Perhaps I should change the wording to "Unnecessary expletives"? What does everyone think?

    To confirm, by expletive I'm referring to the following definition:

    - "A word or phrase that does not contribute any meaning but is added only to fill out a sentence or a metrical line."

    It's not so much a case of 'too much detail' if the detail is required, I'm referring more to when the person posting chooses to use harsh / expletive language to describe something when it really wasn't required and the information passed on would have been equally as useful without it. For the sake of offering an example, I will break my own rule!

    NO- "I rammed my asshole with my new anal dong last night - I can still feel myself throbbing and gaping as I write this. I smothered myself, the toy and my whole house in lube and squeezed it in, feeling my a-hole stretch over the tip. I can't wait to use it again and watch myself cum over and over again. Next time I'm going to frantically frig myself off at the same time to see how much I can cum...."

    YES- "I tried out my new anal dildo last night - it was amazing!! I made sure I used plenty of water-based lube and was impressed by how stretched it made me feel. Certain positions were better than others and I personally found inserting in a squatted position easiest. The orgasms were fantastic and I think it could be my new favourite toy! When I come to use it next time I think I'll try using it alongside my bullet for clit stim as well."

    These two paragraphs basically say the same thing, but the choice of language is completely different - going back to the age old saying "It's not what you say, but the way you say it".

    As for the Erotic Fiction section of the forum does hold some of the biggest 'grey areas' of the site, as there is always room for artistic expression in this area. This, in my opinion, is where descriptive language is necessary and does add to the story / atmosphere / fantasy. In this section I'm only really interested in making sure the stories are 'Lovehoney friendly' eg: discussing sex acts after the age of 18, nothing involving animals, kids, etc.

    This has always been the 'unwritten rule' of the forums so those of you who are already well established forum users have nothing to worry about, and to be honest you shouldn't feel any change. The reason I've been forced to put this rule into writing now is due to the number of new members who think this is a hook up / dirty talk site (and I suspect many are getting off on their own posts) and I need to put a stop to it to protect the happy, helpful and open atmosphere we have here. This rule is definitely not in place to impinge on any of the wonderful community members and information we currently offer and I really don't want anyone feeling they can't speak freely on the forums.

    On a side note, I can honestly say that all of you who have commented on this thread have never said or done anything which I feel breaks this rule (or any of the others for that matter) so for you guys, just carry on doing what you're doing!

    So Ladies & Gents you must post and talk as if you reside at Downton Abbey LOL

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    Kinky&Curvy [sign in to see picture]
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    Hey lovehoney

    just got a message about two threads been closed because I put links to another sex toy site just wanna say sorry about that :/, I never really read fully into the rules just the bullet points so it won't happen again :)

    Either way lovehoney is THE best sex toy site ever so theres nothin to worry about haha :D xxx

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    19mattlynn52 wrote:

    Hello all at lovehoney,, my partner and i are at a stage in our relasionship that we talk openly about each others needs and not's, i am a cancer suvivor and most of my close family estranged me, but as i prooved them all wrong and that i could beat the monster ,anyway, Pauline is a qualified nurse in her mid 50's, she almost took me on from day 1,

    Mykidney cancer was well formed when we firstfound it, the operation was radical and very severe, i was almost cut in half, in the prosses the scalple cut unintentionaly through some of the nerves to my penis and testicles, they would eventualy reconect themselves, but as i was saying about Pauline, she helped me through the worst, and it was inevitable we fell in love, my sex life was zero for almost 6 yeas, but with the help of the organisations like Lovehoney we got equipment to aid to penitrave sex, and every time we order more experimental toys and aids, the feelings to my privates got better and better, so it's up and on and push forward, people with sex problems must talk into these forums and find the solutin for there perticular handycap,. Matt and Pauline.

    Hi Matt and Pauline,

    Thank you for taking the time to post - it's so wonderful to hear testimonials like this. I hope you continue to keep enjoying yourselves!

    Alice :-)

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    Just wondering whether we can talk about Coco de mer and bluebella on the forum?

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    Good question Vanilla_Kink! *BUMP*

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    HappilyExperimenting wrote:

    Good question Vanilla_Kink! *BUMP*

    Whooooops!! Not sure how this got missed!

    Yes - talking about Bluebella and Coco de Mer here is totally fine :) 

    Sorry for the tardy reply! 

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    Lovehoney - Jess Wilde wrote:

    Hey everyone,

    Thanks for your comments and questions, and for being so patient over the weekend waiting for a reply :)

    I understand that a rule like this does come with 'grey areas' and of course conversation detail is contextual. As I said in my previous post, I will bare in mind subject content and whether or not the amount of detail is necessary and adding to the conversation at hand.

    I think we can all appreciate times when detail is required in order to fully advise / ask a question and get the information you need, in comparison to times when adding extra detail is unnecessary and doesn't help in passing on any information or make the conversation any clearer, more informative or helpful. It's a really tough rule to enforce as I'm effectively asking everyone to use their common sense, and that in itself is subjective!

    Perhaps I should change the wording to "Unnecessary expletives"? What does everyone think?

    To confirm, by expletive I'm referring to the following definition:

    - "A word or phrase that does not contribute any meaning but is added only to fill out a sentence or a metrical line."

    It's not so much a case of 'too much detail' if the detail is required, I'm referring more to when the person posting chooses to use harsh / expletive language to describe something when it really wasn't required and the information passed on would have been equally as useful without it. For the sake of offering an example, I will break my own rule!

    NO- "I rammed my asshole with my new anal dong last night - I can still feel myself throbbing and gaping as I write this. I smothered myself, the toy and my whole house in lube and squeezed it in, feeling my a-hole stretch over the tip. I can't wait to use it again and watch myself cum over and over again. Next time I'm going to frantically frig myself off at the same time to see how much I can cum...."

    YES- "I tried out my new anal dildo last night - it was amazing!! I made sure I used plenty of water-based lube and was impressed by how stretched it made me feel. Certain positions were better than others and I personally found inserting in a squatted position easiest. The orgasms were fantastic and I think it could be my new favourite toy! When I come to use it next time I think I'll try using it alongside my bullet for clit stim as well."

    These two paragraphs basically say the same thing, but the choice of language is completely different - going back to the age old saying "It's not what you say, but the way you say it".

    As for the Erotic Fiction section of the forum does hold some of the biggest 'grey areas' of the site, as there is always room for artistic expression in this area. This, in my opinion, is where descriptive language is necessary and does add to the story / atmosphere / fantasy. In this section I'm only really interested in making sure the stories are 'Lovehoney friendly' eg: discussing sex acts after the age of 18, nothing involving animals, kids, etc.

    This has always been the 'unwritten rule' of the forums so those of you who are already well established forum users have nothing to worry about, and to be honest you shouldn't feel any change. The reason I've been forced to put this rule into writing now is due to the number of new members who think this is a hook up / dirty talk site (and I suspect many are getting off on their own posts) and I need to put a stop to it to protect the happy, helpful and open atmosphere we have here. This rule is definitely not in place to impinge on any of the wonderful community members and information we currently offer and I really don't want anyone feeling they can't speak freely on the forums.

    On a side note, I can honestly say that all of you who have commented on this thread have never said or done anything which I feel breaks this rule (or any of the others for that matter) so for you guys, just carry on doing what you're doing!

    Thanks Jess for finding it. Is it wrong that everytime I read the "smothered my whole house in lube" part I keep laughing at how ridiculous it is? :)
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    Thanks for *bumping* this post!

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    Thanks also for bumping this Thread. It was the example illustrated by Jess was the one I was referring to in the Fantsay Closing Thread .

    Perhaps it could be tagged for a while until things settle down again ?

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    mysteron wrote:

    Thanks also for bumping this Thread. It was the example illustrated by Jess was the one I was referring to in the Fantsay Closing Thread .

    Perhaps it could be tagged for a while until things settle down again ?

    +1 💟xx
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    For the moderators:

    Is there a way to contact any of you with questions specifically addressing forum issues?

    For example, I included a picture in a reply to a thread and it was deleted, even though I did not see anything violating the pictures standards.

    Since I do not know what was wrong with it, I do not want to repeat the offense.

    I can't seem to find any message system for the forum.

    How would I go about finding out about the picture?

    amber

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    amber_angel wrote:

    For the moderators:

    Is there a way to contact any of you with questions specifically addressing forum issues?

    For example, I included a picture in a reply to a thread and it was deleted, even though I did not see anything violating the pictures standards.

    Since I do not know what was wrong with it, I do not want to repeat the offense.

    I can't seem to find any message system for the forum.

    How would I go about finding out about the picture?

    amber

    A away to do that would be to send an E Mail to customer services in the usual manner but put it for the attention of Leanne .She will respond to you directly and very reliable for doing so.

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    Thanks for the info.

    amber

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    Sorry Jess but I just spat out my tea laughing when I read your NO paragraph. "Smothered my whole house in lube".

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    sugarboobies2232 wrote:

    Sorry Jess but I just spat out my tea laughing when I read your NO paragraph. "Smothered my whole house in lube".

    Sugarboobies

    Must say I went back and read it twice, didnt quite spit out my tea, but it did bring a smile to my face.

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    Amber, I think only moderators are allowed to post pictures in the forum. That might be the reason it got deleted even though it was nothing inappropriate. I might be wrong though :)

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    Kanu Suckmeov wrote:

    sugarboobies2232 wrote:

    Sorry Jess but I just spat out my tea laughing when I read your NO paragraph. "Smothered my whole house in lube".

    Sugarboobies

    Must say I went back and read it twice, didnt quite spit out my tea, but it did bring a smile to my face.

    😜 I like to be dramatic to make a point! 

    As for getting in touch with us amber_angel, as the others have said. A message to customer care FAO Leanne is usually the way to go. 

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