• How to reach prostate orgasm?

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    DannyLG19 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi,

    Hopefully I worded the title correctly.
    I have recently found out about milking your prostate. To me it sounds so fun and really want to try it. So I recently bought anal toys to get myself warmed up with it and I never thought I would but I love it.
    I have read everywhere that you will feel a little nut sized lump which is your prostate gland. Of what I know I haven't yet found it? I know it is around 2 inches inside and on the same side as your stomach. I don't know how hard to press as I don't want to press to hard as am nervous of causing any damage. This is why I bought this - http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=16665 (

    Lovehoney Booty Buddy Silicone Butt Plug) as on one of the reviews it said that someone reaching prostate orgasm. (Well atleast I hope I read it correctly). So that should be at my house tomorrow (Monday) and will try it, but how long would it take and how do you know that you are stimulating your prostate gland?

    Any tips/advice would be great!

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    repliquant [sign in to see picture]
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    I don't exactly have a 3D map of my ass, and I don't really know where it is. That doesn't trouble me, as I always know when things get hot. It's hard not to know. I found it by accident, and over time have learned which toys get me there, and which don't. Also, the range of toys that do has increased. Some tickle, some bang, some need a bit of help, and yet some are big enough to exert constant pressure.

    Two of those for example allow me to reach the backdoor la-la-land every single time I use them. One brings me to my knees, even though I have already been out for a walk with it inside, and could barely contain myself. The other is the orgasmatron — I get 'there' no matter what I do. I've become so spoiled by these two that I'd probably be very disappointed if for once they didn't deliver ;)

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    KinkyFuckery [sign in to see picture]
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    Its like a womans G stop you have to warm it up before you get the spot hit perfectly relax enjoy it and practise .Its about 2-3 inches in your anal canal

    LH have amazing toys have a nose here - http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/male-sex-toys/prostate-massagers/

    If your looking for a prostate massager look at the reviews see what the men think x

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    Fluffbags [sign in to see picture]
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    Tips and advice I can share with you from my limited experience:

    1) Being aroused is pretty much the key thing for my partner. To put it simply, if he JUST uses an anal toy, he feels very little pleasure from the experience. In some cases it is just uncomfortable. However, inserting a toy and then masturbating normally, (Or blowjobs/sex) until he is extremely aroused is the perfect time to then start playing with the butt toy because it starts to feel good at this point. In some instances, the butt toy will push him over into orgasm if he is close enough. Thats my first tip. Try experimenting at different stages of arousal to find out when it starts feeling amazing for you.

    2) The toy you have will provide quite a gentle stimulation. We have quite a few butt toys, including the Booty Buddy and the Booty Buddy has a very flexible neck. This, of course, means that you won't feel much pressure (Some prefer this, which is fine) but experiment with different toys, just stop if anything feels uncomfortable. I know it is a bit daunting at first but my partner gets more pleasure from more "rigid" toys. They just have more of a presence against the prostate.

    3) Experiment with different movements and find what works for you. Some men like thrusting in and out, others like to insert the toy and wiggle, or jiggle it, up against the prostate. Some like to insert the toy and just leave it there, feeling it press against the prostate during movement or muscle contractions. Others prefer vibrations....experiment experiment. :D

    You will know when you are hitting your prostate because it will feel different (In an arousing way) My partner describes it as feeling tingles spreading through his pubic region but again, if he is not aroused and just goes straight for butt play, he feels nothing particularly special at all. Prostate milking, from what I know (Which isn't a great deal) is not orgasmic. From what I understand, milking the prostate is simply pressing at the area very firmly, which kind of...squeezes the fluid out of the body. Doctors and nurses can do this trick very well. lol. I have never tried this on my partner but I have seen it used in Dom/sub scenes.

    I know that when my partner has his prostate stimulated, while at the same time having his penis stimulated, it results in more powerful orgasms and I know that he can orgasm from prostate stimulation but only if he is close enough already from penis stimulation.

    Okay, as you can see, I am no expert with this but hopefully you found something useful from my post. Good luck x

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    DannyLG19 [sign in to see picture]
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    Fluffbags wrote:

    Tips and advice I can share with you from my limited experience:

    1) Being aroused is pretty much the key thing for my partner. To put it simply, if he JUST uses an anal toy, he feels very little pleasure from the experience. In some cases it is just uncomfortable. However, inserting a toy and then masturbating normally, (Or blowjobs/sex) until he is extremely aroused is the perfect time to then start playing with the butt toy because it starts to feel good at this point. In some instances, the butt toy will push him over into orgasm if he is close enough. Thats my first tip. Try experimenting at different stages of arousal to find out when it starts feeling amazing for you.

    2) The toy you have will provide quite a gentle stimulation. We have quite a few butt toys, including the Booty Buddy and the Booty Buddy has a very flexible neck. This, of course, means that you won't feel much pressure (Some prefer this, which is fine) but experiment with different toys, just stop if anything feels uncomfortable. I know it is a bit daunting at first but my partner gets more pleasure from more "rigid" toys. They just have more of a presence against the prostate.

    3) Experiment with different movements and find what works for you. Some men like thrusting in and out, others like to insert the toy and wiggle, or jiggle it, up against the prostate. Some like to insert the toy and just leave it there, feeling it press against the prostate during movement or muscle contractions. Others prefer vibrations....experiment experiment. :D

    You will know when you are hitting your prostate because it will feel different (In an arousing way) My partner describes it as feeling tingles spreading through his pubic region but again, if he is not aroused and just goes straight for butt play, he feels nothing particularly special at all. Prostate milking, from what I know (Which isn't a great deal) is not orgasmic. From what I understand, milking the prostate is simply pressing at the area very firmly, which kind of...squeezes the fluid out of the body. Doctors and nurses can do this trick very well. lol. I have never tried this on my partner but I have seen it used in Dom/sub scenes.

    I know that when my partner has his prostate stimulated, while at the same time having his penis stimulated, it results in more powerful orgasms and I know that he can orgasm from prostate stimulation but only if he is close enough already from penis stimulation.

    Okay, as you can see, I am no expert with this but hopefully you found something useful from my post. Good luck x

    Thanks for all answers so far!

    @Fluffbags Wow! Very detailed thank you! I definitely have no problem with getting aroused. Heck, my penis arouses over anything that sometimes it's actually irritating! Even thinking about anal play, sex, orgasms gets me hard. I takes literally nothing to get me going! I will try with different movements etc.. and my Booty Buddy should arrive tomororw so I will try out tomorrow evening and hopefully get back to you on how it feels!

    Thank You!

    P.S. I didn't realise it wasn't an orgasm. I would still like to milk the prostate either way :P

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    Fluffbags [sign in to see picture]
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    Well it might well be an orgasm for all I know. Maybe I am just used to a different terminology or maybe milking the prostate is exactly the same as just playing with it until orgasm. As far as I am aware, pleasurable orgasm does not occur when doctors perform this procedure and I believe it is not comfortable which I guess is why I am assuming "milking" is different from sexual stimulation of the prostate. See, I am not exactly helpful but I found a Wiki page that gives some details:

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prostate_massage

    It doesn't really highlight a difference though. I am going to look into it more.

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    DannyLG19 [sign in to see picture]
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    Awesome thank for the info! :)

    P.S If you get loads of pre-cum is that a good sign you are stimulating it? Don't think I ever got that much pre-cum before.

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    Fluffbags [sign in to see picture]
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    Yes that is definitely a sign. The fluid is stored here and so massaging the area causes more fluid to leak, than normal. :D I think you may have found it. I do know that it took my partner a while to fully figure out where it was and how to stimulate it. Practise makes perfect!

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    DannyLG19 [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks for the replies :)

    I think I'm on the right track!

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    Last nigh it finally did happen, me and my husband achieved full hands free prostate orgasm. We have been chasing it for almost a year now, and had many things to learn and discover, The expirience was so powerful and amazing that we did decide to share keypoints for other couples to hold on on this long yourney. Me and Tim are both in our mid 30s, fit, not into bdsm or any tipe of domination, humiliation or any type of those things, but we doo like to experiment and chase kinky pleasure. As for prostate I doo use only my fingers(1 to 2), no toys, because I can feel it better. We use only doggy because of easy access and great sight that i get. I wont talk about basic stuff here like lube, gloves relaxing and so on...

    First things first, not everyone is made the same way, so we cant promise the things we did discover will work for other couples aswell. By saying that I also should mention that we doo love each other very much and can talk about every single detail about sex with open minds, for us this expirience first of all was an emotional one(we cant imagine how someone could have prostate orgasm without 100 procent trust and strong emotional bond both ways)..

    1)As from above, the first and most important keypoint is emotional bond and state of mind, we did struggle with this alot, because Tim needed to overcome his masculinity and bee the reciever, and the constant stress"Is this gonna bee okay? what to do now?" later turned out for us to bee devastating progresswise. We both needed to learn not to stress and just let everything happen and enjoy every second. Tim knows that i love his prostate and everything with it, and him knowing that makes everything alot easier. Also, you both must bee comfortable knowing that in every human beeing there is masculine and feminine side, and thats its completeley normal for hetero male sometimes to embrace and enjoy the feminine side aswell.

    2)Conditioning. As i mentioned above we are not in any kind of bdsm relationship, but for last month we both agreed "nono to any kind of penile stimulation, this did help alot, because pleasure zone slowly transfered to prostate, could even feel the changes with my fingers. Hardest part for Tim was to deal with constant hornyness, he did get sexual attention whenever he wanted, but it was "assonly". After first week his testies started to hurt, because he has been used to cum atleast 3 time s a week abd was horny all the time, we did discover that soft testie massage helped on this. The looks of testies have changed aswell, you could tell that they did hang more lower and seemed more looser, bigger, softer and fuller on touch. Things work out much better with high arrousal, and full testies equals high arrousal.

    3)What to focuss on? You both should forget about prostate orgasm and focuss ONLY on relaxing, sensations and pleasure, it took some time for our sessions that ended without ejaculation to feel normal. As a giver you should focuss on observing partners body reactions and reacting to them. As for Tim, when his cock loses erection and shrinks abit staying semi hard, thats when i doo know that hes prostate is ready for more intense stimulation (faster, not stronger, becaue if you push too hard pleasure goes away and you are 1 step back), if Tims knees start to clench, i know that his pleasure is high but he is for some reason holding it back. verbal encouragment and positive feedback here is the key. Say anything that gets the boat going - like "Give it to me. You are doing great. I can feel your prostate filling up, but you need to relax more", or any kinky stuff that turns your man on. If you are very open minded and kinky, you can even put on some porn in background and give it some wiggle from time to time.

    4)Time. Same as for woman, pleasure buildups take time. If you rush things, you will hit the wall pleasurewise, like Tim says, its one point that feels good and you cant get better. By time our sessions did last longer and in the end the pleasure Tim did get was much more intense. Sessions should last atleast 30 minutes, the longest session we had was 3 hours, with some brakes.

    5)Breath, never let your partner to hold breath, encaurage to breath deeep and long breaths, righ breath equals pleasure waves all over body, wich is required for anything to move further. Its ok to moan :)

    6) Opening up. Not only relaxing but inviting anal pleasure in mind aswell. Focus on emotional bond that you oth have, let it overcome you both and overtake your pleasure. During orgasm Tim was focussing only on giving his trust to me, brearhing and "not shaking too hard".;)

    As for giver it has been one if not the most intense and pleasurable expirience i have ever had in my sex life. The emotions wher overwhelming for both of us and the sight was amazing. The orgasm it self did last about 35 seconds, cock was semi hard, but quite small and i could feel the prostate pulses with my fingers, but semen did not spurt out, for first 15 seconds it was long slow stream of cum that ended with 8 more squirts and few emptyones after that aswell. Tim told that hes body just radiated with pleasure waves and at the point of no return the waves just all blended and it was nonstop bliss.

    So keep your hopes up, enjoy the process and good luck to you all. As for us, we are staying open minded and on my bd as a gift(my innitiative) Tim will present the sight where he is taken anally by another male for first time. So we are practicing for it so that Tim gets maximum pleasure out of it as a receaver aswell. Cant wait :)

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