• spanking advice

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    Rampent wifey [sign in to see picture]
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    My husband has been spanking for about a year. My husband is definately an alpha male and I am very much HIS wife.
    I have to tell my husband if I break one of our agreed rules and he then decides on the punishment.
    Usually spanking is carried out and then I please my husband before he then accepts my apology. He then pleases me and we have the most amazing sex. We both find this very erotic and I would go as far as to say has helped us to be much more open in our relationship.
    I love my husband taking charge as he does but so far spanking has always been carried out by hand. We have been looking recently at other ways and have seen various paddles and whips. My husband doesn't want to hurt me too much. Just enough so I know when I have been a naughty wife
    What we want to know is what other people use and suggest. There is only one review on the paddle, so it doesn't give us much to go off. Thanks for your help and for reading

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    FrozenAngel [sign in to see picture]
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    My OH and I always used hands for spanking, we recently got a riding crop (The Fifty shades one), it was amazing!

    As with all flogs, whips, crops ect it's just a case of how much power is put into it and just the item itself, they can all be as 'gentle' or as 'hard' as you want them to be.

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    S&S [sign in to see picture]
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    We like using a good riding crop. It makes a very sexy sound just before it hits you. It can leave marks but they're not too bad but it also feels amazing just rubbing it gently over skin.

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    dh [sign in to see picture]
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    The best thing for the job depends on how and where you like to be spanked. Paddles are great for spanking on the backside, but not really for anywhere else. Whereas a crop whip can also be good for pussy spanking, as can floggers (which feel great when you tickle with the tassles in between each flogging)

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    Rampent wifey [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks for that. I do like the idea of floggers? Are they the ones with tassles. I imagone they can be quite sensual over the skin

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    BDSM [sign in to see picture]
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    We started with a paddle that was soft on one side.

    Then we got a flogger and you are right, it is very sensual as it is dragged across your body.

    Our favourite is our riding crop. A gentle sting, but lovely.

    None of them are expensive and it is nice to have a variety.

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    KinkyFuckery [sign in to see picture]
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    Rampent wifey here is a selection of floggers that LH offer have a nose at the reviews on the floggers to give you an idea of what sensations they can give you .

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=22699

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=19605

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26523

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26080

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15707

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    BDSM [sign in to see picture]
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    It's a rubber flogger that we have. It's surprisingly gentle and feels lovely against my skin

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    chunkyg [sign in to see picture]
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    Work your way through an array of implements. Slippers / wooden backed hairbrush or a takes can be good starting points! If you can find one a wooden ruler can focus the mind. Ultimately there is a difference between funishment and punishment! Ultimately you may or may not work your way up to canes but if you do...............do it gradually :-)

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