• Anybody changed either their partners or their own perception of 'Bum fun'?

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    FullaFlava [sign in to see picture]
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    By 'bum fun' I mean anal play, not necessarily actual sex or pegging but fingers toy rimming etc.

    I am nosey as to whether you either used to hate the idea of it as 'dirty' but had your perceptions changed by perhaps a persitant partner or by watcing it or seeing it in videos or pics. Were you the persitant partner who made your lover enjoy it, or has it gone the other way where you were open to the idea but it hurt too much? 15 years or possibly less ago so it was a complete taboo, now it seems to be almost mainstream.

    Myself as a guy who was in the Armed Forces for over 20 years any sort of anal play on me was 'gay' and I have come to enjoy rimming and fingering of my arse by lovers and also enjoy a rootle around if in the mood during solo masturbation.

    I have, successfully I think, convinced a long distance cyber lover to try it and she enjoys using ice cubes and her glass dildo up her bum.

    I'd be interested in any discussion even if anal is definitely not your bag.

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    BDSM [sign in to see picture]
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    We were married for 15 yrs, with a great sex life but with both of us completely against any notion of anal play, then one night, we just started to play and it got us both a bit curious. We talked and decided to explore a bit more. Since then, we haven't looked back and regularly enjoy anal sex.

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    repliquant [sign in to see picture]
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    FullaFlava wrote:

    By 'bum fun' I mean anal play, not necessarily actual sex or pegging but fingers toy rimming etc.

    I am nosey as to whether you either used to hate the idea of it as 'dirty' but had your perceptions changed by perhaps a persitant partner or by watcing it or seeing it in videos or pics. Were you the persitant partner who made your lover enjoy it, or has it gone the other way where you were open to the idea but it hurt too much? 15 years or possibly less ago so it was a complete taboo, now it seems to be almost mainstream.

    Myself as a guy who was in the Armed Forces for over 20 years any sort of anal play on me was 'gay' and I have come to enjoy rimming and fingering of my arse by lovers and also enjoy a rootle around if in the mood during solo masturbation.

    Before I first tried, my only associations were a single night with my ex-, a night that was not repeated as she was not interested -- and a decade later, a series of movies I found browsing the ladies-on-ladies genre. I thought that was superhot, and I definitely remembered her name, Belladonna that is. So that's the background, and I never had any negative connotations associated with it. Until I tried, it was just a kink other people indulged. So when I did start, a few weeks ago, I was all smiles when I found a couple of toys molded from the real limb of the aforementioned starlet. 'It's a long way to Tipperary', so to speak, but at long last, her hand found its home ;) As to other connotations, it's my own body, after all, and given that I have a partial disability, I don't have all that many avenues open to me. Whether it's this activity or another, it would be a shame to deny onself something for silly reasons ;) And as far as taboos are concerned, just having premarital sex may be taboo, or non-procreative sex for that matter -- just a few counties away from the epicenter of the sex industry in a certain big state. This is a funny world.

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    chrisee [sign in to see picture]
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    My longterm girlfriend was adamant that she would have no part in anal sex but I was very curious to try it. So, during one romp when she was worked up to a stage where she didn't care what was happening because it all felt so good, I had a tentative play with her bum which she enjoyed. We quickly moved from there to full anal sex and later on to pegging.

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    Lovehoney - Cazz [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi All,

    I have a new product that we have been sent from a supplier, the product is not live yet but I have 2 bottles of anal relaxant spray that are in need of reviews.

    If anyone is interested please let me know, I can post it out to you today.

    Thanks Cazz

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    luvved up cupple [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm sure we could give your lube a thorough going over (or should that be in?) Cazz please consider us

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    luvved up cupple [sign in to see picture]
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    In answer to the original question over the last 12 or so years we have got more adventurous in our bedroom (and other rooms!) routine where before she had no or little interest ahead of curiosity we have now found ourselves purchasing probes on here!

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    MrsMcX [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi Cazz, I have a large order that I've placed today, you could save on postage and pop one in my box? Worth a try! Haha.

    I've been looking into relaxants for my next order, it's something we have tried on occasion, and I only got the courage to try it after five years with OH. Lubricants work well, but it still can be uncomfortable since we don't do it quite often so a relaxant may be something to look into!

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    Old - But not THAT old! [sign in to see picture]
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    I don't think that I ever had the perception that anal play was "dirty" or that if you were a man that indulged then you must be gay, after all gay is something that you are, or are not, the sexual activities that you partake of cannot change how you are in that direction.

    But, having said that, I think I probably had the notion that it was not something "ordinary" people (if there is such a thing) did, you had to be a bit into BDSM or such like - strange notion I know.

    Anyway, I did once (many many years ago) have a short relationship with a lady that really loved recieving anal, and I did enjoy giving, so about 7 years ago after all sex with my wife had ceased I had to start finding some alternatives to a straight-forward hand job - after all that does get a bit boring after a while when it is the only kind of relief that you get. That was when I started to look at toys and eventually found the Lovehoney site, and I was amazed at what was available, in particular for anal play. Thinking that if my lover of all those years ago enjoyed the sensation, and men involed in gay relationships enjoyed it, and people on this forum said such good things about it, then there MUST be something in it. And I am so glad I started. I can't get enough of it now, and frequently wear my favourite butt-plug to work. Such a pity that I found it so late in life and that I don't have someone else to enjoy it with.

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    Postillionager [sign in to see picture]
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    Lovehoney - Cazz wrote:

    Hi All,

    I have a new product that we have been sent from a supplier, the product is not live yet but I have 2 bottles of anal relaxant spray that are in need of reviews.

    If anyone is interested please let me know, I can post it out to you today.

    Thanks Cazz

    Hi Cazz, probably too late now but we would be delighted to review a sample

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    bigstu [sign in to see picture]
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    It has taken me several years to get my OH to change her mind over anal play, to start with. It started with me slipping a lubed finger up her ass when taking her doggy, and pumping it at the same rate .

    Moved onto rimming me her, she is still a bit reluctant to do it, but worked up she will now.

    But funny enough, when I first proposed her pegging me, she was up for it. But it takes a great deal to get her to accept anal, the lst time we were away from home and used her vaseline lip stuff as the lub, it worked a treat.

    Now anal play is very much part of our sex life and I am happy, would be happier if I could ass fuck her more.

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    kittencub [sign in to see picture]
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    Enjoying first plugs, something. I never thought I'd do.

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    Purring-Pussy [sign in to see picture]
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    Still pretty new with Anal play, using beads, small plug and just recently the Beginners Anal Prober. Just something I feel its the right time to do. Never had any interest when I was younger, but since hitting my thirties, my sex life has become fantastic and I'm more open minded about things.

    The anal relaxant mentioned above sounds perfect. Tried poppers and enjoyed those, so looking forward to seeing the relaxant on sale as I would consider buying it and then hopefully I can explore some more!

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    saucey21 [sign in to see picture]
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    Purring-Pussy wrote:

    Never had any interest when I was younger, but since hitting my thirties, my sex life has become fantastic and I'm more open minded about things.

    I'm the same i'm nearly 35 and the last 2 yrs my sex life is fabulous better than ever. just need to keep working on hubby to be a bit more open minded. he's getting there slowly. i now want to try everything.

    i love anal but hubby is still a bit reluctant.

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    always-horny [sign in to see picture]
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    I love anal play with OH, he loves to be rimmed and having a finger in there. This is something he has just started to do in the last couple of years and now he cant get enough.

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    KittyStar [sign in to see picture]
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    Like a lot of people I had a really negative view of anal growing up, admittedly as the result of hearing too many horror stories. But in the last year or so i've done a complete 180 and now love it!

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    Bex_1234 [sign in to see picture]
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    I have never had anhy desire to try until very recently. I gave it a go several years ago as I knew it was something my husband really wanted to do. Anyway, he went in too quick and I donkey kicked him out of me. Then I bled when I pood and couldn't sit down for a week. Needless to say he dropped the subject after that...

    Recently however we've discussed it again. He has licked me back there a couple of times when he's gone down on me, and the last time he inserted a finger. I've just ordered beads & an anal lube so we'll work up to slowly trying again!

    I know he would like it reciprocated eventually, but we'll see!

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    KinkyFuckery [sign in to see picture]
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    I never tried anal until T fancied trying it but thought it was dirty but wanted to try it and with his help and tips and of course LH with some lovely toys I love it

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    LostInTheWoods11 [sign in to see picture]
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    Yes please :D

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    phil [sign in to see picture]
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    I first tried anal sex on my own after watching a porn video. suggested suject with first wife, the resulting argument defied belief. Move on quite a few years marry again what a difference I now have a wonderful bum sex life, but the new O,H. does not like it but she has given it a good try.

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