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    Hellotitty [sign in to see picture]
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    Everytime i deepthroat my boyfriend my eyes and my nose runs!!

    Any suggestions on how to stop this

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    I don't have the answer and I don't have the same issues as you do but I'm adding my comment because I would love a tutorial on deep throating if anyone can help us! I've been trying for years, I'd really love to get it right!

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    I watched alot of porn =p and i practiced a hell of a lot! just annoying about my runny nose

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    I really have to say it...once it is out the way I can answer the question but the urge is too strong within me....

    Where do they run too? bahahahaha

    Ok I got it out my system, now to try and answer your question seriously lol. I am guessing either you are triggering your gag reflex which causes everyones eyes and nose to run, or its somewhat causing that same reaction without the gagging simply because there is an object in the back of your throat that doesnt feel natural to be there.

    I cannot deep throat. Not in the way ive seen it done in porn anyway. I can manage about 6 inches and thats about the limit but I guess thats not too bad, I just do not have the complete knack of relaxing my throat to be able to swallow 7, 8, 9 inches but I do know that thinking back to 5/10 years ago I couldnt manage 6 inches. This brings me to my point, a point ive seen a lot of women make and that definitely holds the key to the whole deep throat thing:

    It takes practise practise practise. I guess a good way to look at it is sword swallowing. I am going to hazard a guess that those performers have to start with small objects and slowly build up to the days when they can pretty much take a sword down their esophagus. Your gag reflex is there for a reason and the clue is in the name, its a reflex, something your body does without you making it happen, it does it without conscious thought. The problem is although it might save our life when we are choking on a peanut, it doesnt exactly help when it comes to BJs. The only way you can train your gag relfex to calm down is to keep prodding at it like a sleeping lion.

    What I discovered is that the more confident you are in controlling your gag reflex, the further you can push it and the less likely it is to kick in because you feel more relaxed, you are not waiting for that moment when your gunna be sick, your just relaxed. When all of your thoughts are zoned right in to your gag relex and how close his penis is getting to brushing it, it seems to heighten and make it worse. It really is just about practising over time. here are some tips that seemed to work for me:

    try different positions, a lot of people suggest laying down with your head off the bed and letting him enter you this way but I cant stand this one which suggests everyone is different. Its about finding whats best for you where your throat feels the most comfortable. You will know your best position when you find it because you will just feel more comfortable and notice he goes in slightly deeper.

    Be in control: If he holding your head and thrusting into you, the gag reflex is much more likely to kick in. Ask him to lay still so that you feel confident to push yourself to the edge of your limits without worrying he will "surprise" you at that moment with a thrust down your throat.

    Breathing: This is probably one of the best ways to help control your gag reflex, breathe through your nose and dont try to hold your breath.

    Keep trying: Let the head of his penis occasionally push the limit and do that extra bit deeper for just a split second, keeping it back there will probably cause gagging but a very quick moment will be less likely too and breathe in while it goes down. This is how I started and it kind of "trained" my gag reflex to calm down and not over react so eventually I could push the limit a little more each time. (Not just deeper, but rather, I could let him bob into the back of my throat much more often during the sessions)

    Try Lubes: Flavoured lubes can help in my opinion, it makes everything more slippy, sloppy and less likely to dry up and cause friction as he slides into your throat. Something slippery seems to make me gag less than something drier.

    Take your time, practise plenty with the bobbing the head of his cock that bit further than you normally could, if you feel the reflex starting to kick in, back off, let ithe sensation die away and then try again. I dont think I will ever be able to swallow a sword but I have more control over this reflex now than I used too.

    Something I havent tried but is an option are the desensitising blowjob throat sprays you can buy which numb your throat a bit and are supposed to help lesson the feelings back there.

    The more control, the less likely to experience the runny nose and eyes thing too x

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    Avrielle_Aniko wrote:

    Wow Fluff! Great advice there!

    Miss fluff is full of advice, every one of her posts is like an essay haha :)

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    It took me about 3 months of hanging my head off the side of the bed to learn to be able to swallow by OH's penis. Take it slow, breath in, hold it, swallow, breath out through you nose, take out, do the same process again, you can do it faster the more your practice. Its now taken me another 3 months to be able to do the same thing without my head hanging off the side of the bed, but in various positions and some days i'm able to full on deepthroat for about 5mins non stop. my nose ran and eyes watered for the first 4 weeks of head hanging off the bed and no head hanging off the bed. Thats my method of how i was able to do it, my OH is also nearly 9 inches. I hope this helps someone out :D

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    I've been trying to do this for my oh for a while now ,and like everyone says practice ,I'm getting better at it and controlling my gag reflex ,oh well just have to keep practicing ;-) x

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    I think the porn industry has a lot to answer for as deep throating for most people is bound to cause gagging. I assume it's like sticking fingers down your throat.

    The majority of men I would suggest really don't care. Once their penis is in their partner's mouth they'll be happy!

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    running eyes and nose are a turn on (for me anyway)

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    I have used the deepthroat numbing spray,bought it off here a few weeks ago lol.We don't live together so it's hard to practise on his c*** all the time,i guess a hair brush will be ok =p

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    i kinda like the gagging feeling personally

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    Avrielle_Aniko wrote:

    Wow Fluff! Great advice there!

    Yeh sorry about that. Once I pop I just don't stop lol. I know I go on a bit....ok more than a bit :D

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    Fluffbags wrote:

    Avrielle_Aniko wrote:

    Wow Fluff! Great advice there!

    Yeh sorry about that. Once I pop I just don't stop lol. I know I go on a bit....ok more than a bit :D

    I promise I'm not 'coming on' to anyone..... but do any other lads in the Forum get turned on by the women giving 'how to do it' advice? Livvie, Fluffbags..... for pete's sake !!

    I think it's not just the description. It's also the way it's expressed. It's like some exquisite female doctor talking in a matter-of-fact way about sex. Sort of formal, impersonal and serious. It sends shivers down my back and up my......

    Maybe I'm just pervy. Sorry everybody....

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    Fluffbags wrote:

    I really have to say it...once it is out the way I can answer the question but the urge is too strong within me....

    Where do they run too? bahahahaha

    Ok I got it out my system, now to try and answer your question seriously lol. I am guessing either you are triggering your gag reflex which causes everyones eyes and nose to run, or its somewhat causing that same reaction without the gagging simply because there is an object in the back of your throat that doesnt feel natural to be there.

    I cannot deep throat. Not in the way ive seen it done in porn anyway. I can manage about 6 inches and thats about the limit but I guess thats not too bad, I just do not have the complete knack of relaxing my throat to be able to swallow 7, 8, 9 inches but I do know that thinking back to 5/10 years ago I couldnt manage 6 inches. This brings me to my point, a point ive seen a lot of women make and that definitely holds the key to the whole deep throat thing:

    It takes practise practise practise. I guess a good way to look at it is sword swallowing. I am going to hazard a guess that those performers have to start with small objects and slowly build up to the days when they can pretty much take a sword down their esophagus. Your gag reflex is there for a reason and the clue is in the name, its a reflex, something your body does without you making it happen, it does it without conscious thought. The problem is although it might save our life when we are choking on a peanut, it doesnt exactly help when it comes to BJs. The only way you can train your gag relfex to calm down is to keep prodding at it like a sleeping lion.

    What I discovered is that the more confident you are in controlling your gag reflex, the further you can push it and the less likely it is to kick in because you feel more relaxed, you are not waiting for that moment when your gunna be sick, your just relaxed. When all of your thoughts are zoned right in to your gag relex and how close his penis is getting to brushing it, it seems to heighten and make it worse. It really is just about practising over time. here are some tips that seemed to work for me:

    try different positions, a lot of people suggest laying down with your head off the bed and letting him enter you this way but I cant stand this one which suggests everyone is different. Its about finding whats best for you where your throat feels the most comfortable. You will know your best position when you find it because you will just feel more comfortable and notice he goes in slightly deeper.

    Be in control: If he holding your head and thrusting into you, the gag reflex is much more likely to kick in. Ask him to lay still so that you feel confident to push yourself to the edge of your limits without worrying he will "surprise" you at that moment with a thrust down your throat.

    Breathing: This is probably one of the best ways to help control your gag reflex, breathe through your nose and dont try to hold your breath.

    Keep trying: Let the head of his penis occasionally push the limit and do that extra bit deeper for just a split second, keeping it back there will probably cause gagging but a very quick moment will be less likely too and breathe in while it goes down. This is how I started and it kind of "trained" my gag reflex to calm down and not over react so eventually I could push the limit a little more each time. (Not just deeper, but rather, I could let him bob into the back of my throat much more often during the sessions)

    Try Lubes: Flavoured lubes can help in my opinion, it makes everything more slippy, sloppy and less likely to dry up and cause friction as he slides into your throat. Something slippery seems to make me gag less than something drier.

    Take your time, practise plenty with the bobbing the head of his cock that bit further than you normally could, if you feel the reflex starting to kick in, back off, let ithe sensation die away and then try again. I dont think I will ever be able to swallow a sword but I have more control over this reflex now than I used too.

    Something I havent tried but is an option are the desensitising blowjob throat sprays you can buy which numb your throat a bit and are supposed to help lesson the feelings back there.

    The more control, the less likely to experience the runny nose and eyes thing too x

    This has actually really helped me too haha i have only given one blow job and it wasnt a very good experience,gag reflexes are awful,mine are working too fast so i hope to calm them down

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    this used to be on the forum tips

    Posted on: January 15, 2012 12:01 | Posted by: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/bloggers/julie-peasgood/

    Deep throating refers to taking the entire erect penis into the mouth and entrance of the throat. You don't need to be a porn star to do it, but be warned - it is a skill and it does take some practice. And make sure you deep throat a partner you’re really comfortable with - someone you trust, who is also patient, as it’s you, the giver, who sets the pace, not him...

    The first thing to do is to educate your gag reflex to move out of its comfort zone. This isn’t easy - it takes time, your eyes will water and at first, you may feel like being sick. Still interested? Then start practising with your finger. Gently begin to ease just your fingertip down your throat until your gag reflex reacts. When it does, remove it, take a few deep breaths and try again. It may help to stimulate your P6 acupressure point at the same time. ‘Where’s that?’ I hear you ask. To locate it, place the first three fingers of your hand together, about two thumb widths down, on the inside of your opposite wrist - then press or massage that point whilst you try to semi-swallow a fingertip of the hand you’re massaging. (Not as complicated as it sounds - and some people find it really helps.)

    When you feel ready to try the real thing, start activating your saliva flow. It’s essential to always keep your mouth moist and well lubricated. You can help matters by keeping a glass of water nearby, but the best way to get your saliva glands working overtime is to take his penis into your mouth, and swallow it as far as you feel able. When you’re convinced you’re going to be sick all over him, hold him at the entrance to your throat for half a minute, then get some air, wipe your eyes, and repeat this all again - by which time your saliva should have kicked into action. You can also use an additional lubricant to keep your mouth moist. Most lubes are fine for oral use, though obviously a http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex/lubricants/flavoured-lubes/ is preferable.

    Choose your position carefully. For optimal entry and depth, your mouth and throat should be in alignment, but make sure you control the angle of his penis, and the depth of penetration, by holding it. You may find that ‘over-the edge’ works well - this is where you lie on your back with your head hanging back over the edge of the bed, and your man stands in front of you at mouth level. If that doesn’t suit you, a conventional blow-job position, eg him sitting or standing, and you crouching or kneeling, will do fine. Experiment and go with whatever works best for you.

    As you take his penis into your mouth, try sliding your tongue out and over the bottom lip - this will help flatten the back of the tongue, enabling deeper penetration. A yawning motion will also open the back of your throat. You’re bound to feel resistance at the back of your throat, but go as s-l-o-w-l-y as you need to, getting him to press down on your P6 acupressure point if you find it helps - gradually your throat should acclimatise to the feeling of being full up If you’re able to swallow around his penis, that will let him into your throat even more. And for those who don’t like the taste of semen, deep throat may be just up your street - if you time it right, his penis will bypass your taste buds…

    Stop the moment it all gets too much, though - the very fact that you’ve tried is enough to command huge respect. And don’t sweat if you find that deep throat just isn’t for you. Try lubing up one of your hands instead, and just take him as far into your mouth as you can manage. As you do so, place your lubed hand firmly around the base of his penis. Whilst sucking and licking him, let your hand rise and fall in line with your mouth, and that should do the trick

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    I gag sometimes even with like 2 inchs :( Im rubbish at it and once ive gagged couple of times i really can't stop. Maybe i need more practice lol

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    Baby_Lu wrote:

    I gag sometimes even with like 2 inchs :( Im rubbish at it and once ive gagged couple of times i really can't stop. Maybe i need more practice lol

    ive only done this once and i was gagging alot it was awful,just need to practice i think

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    Just throwing it out there, but the most sensitive part of the penis is the head.

    The point is to Tongue the tip, not try and replicate lady parts.

    IMHO

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    Wow brilliant advice! I am actually going to practice... with a courgette! :-D

    I know KebertXela, but everyone needs a hobby, right? :)

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