• Stage one successful, on to stage two.

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    KebertXela [sign in to see picture]
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    So, the other half is blazing through the fifty shades books.

    As Mortons Deamon, I see this as an interesting opportunity, I supply her with books normalise areas I want to explore, she accepts them, but, is there a way of knowing whats in a book without having to suffer through reading it?

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    You really need to read 50 shades to understand the whole picture.

    Its not just kink, There is a lot about breaking through barriers in a relationship on both sides.

    You need to take on the emotional side as well to understand.

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    I read your question like this:

    "Is there a way I can ply my lady with naughty books and get her in the mood to act out my super kinky fantasies without learning/putting in any effort myself" The reason I read it this way is because you say she is reading the book but then go on to mention that you gave her the books to normalise her to your sexual desires which she is now slowly accepting a bit more and getting kinky and you like it and want more but are wondering how you can take it a step further without having to make the effort of reading them. Even your Title sounds like this is now your secret mission rather than a two way thing lol

    The answer is nope anyway. Well, it may work short term, while she is still all horny and awakened to this new and exciting lifestyle and then when she realises you have little interest (Because you don't even want to read the books, I am assuming this also means you wont wanna read up about it in even more depth.) she will probably stop wanting to play.

    Put simply, if your woman does start getting interested in a more kinky lifestyle, she will have way more confidence playing with a guy who is interested in the scene, interested in taking her slowly and gently into unknown territory, knows what he is doing, has read up on things she is interested in too like knot tying or safe words, and has the confidence to pull it off. Women can sense your true feelings on stuff like this and it will dawn on her pretty quick that maybe your interest lies in what you can get out of this situation.

    So, read the book. That would be my suggestion. I found the book to be...erm well not the best erotica I have read but if you want something, you gotta give something in return or you will end up getting your something taken away. :D Your eyes may bleed and your brain may melt lol. Alternatively, if you really do not want to read the book, at least go online and read some guides/posts/websites about whatever kinky stuff she suggests trying, how you can make it amazing for the both of you (not just your desires but hers too) etc etc. You are right though, it is an opportunity. Trust me, if you show an actual interest in her new found kinks rather than a passing one just to get your end away, it will pay off big time!

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    I totally agree with everything fluffbags has said. But to give you both something which is really good to read is kinked sober as 50 shades of pooh, really is pooh, my OH hates reading 'porn' and he really ejoyed kinked sober. Give it ago. You need to put more effort into this if you want her to play out your sexual fantacies.

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    FSOG is like a guide on how to find a boyfriend who will eventualy murder you....

    If your partner ever says "I want your world to begin and end with me", RUN!!!

    Its great that its gotten people more engaged with their sex lives, but quality literature it is not (and I'm reading TruBlood at the moment)

    Fluffs

    You make it sound all seedy....

    If I suggested anything off our usual beaten path, she would say no, If she reads it in a book and suggests it, she'll give it a fair try. Thats just her nature, she follows the receipe, shes refused to eat tea before because I added onions (or possibly garlic). If I found another receipe that used the extra ingredient, suddenly it taste nice.

    I'm looking to maximise the hit rate on things I want to try, rather than how great it is when your partner pees on you. I'm not a fan of D/S either, which will probably present a problem in the next few months.

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    KebertXela wrote:

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    FSOG is like a guide on how to find a boyfriend who will eventualy murder you....

    If your partner ever says "I want your world to begin and end with me", RUN!!!

    Its great that its gotten people more engaged with their sex lives, but quality literature it is not (and I'm reading TruBlood at the moment)

    Fluffs

    You make it sound all seedy....

    If I suggested anything off our usual beaten path, she would say no, If she reads it in a book and suggests it, she'll give it a fair try. Thats just her nature, she follows the receipe, shes refused to eat tea before because I added onions (or possibly garlic). If I found another receipe that used the extra ingredient, suddenly it taste nice.

    I'm looking to maximise the hit rate on things I want to try, rather than how great it is when your partner pees on you. I'm not a fan of D/S either, which will probably present a problem in the next few months.

    Have you even read the book??? :/

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    KebertXela wrote:

    So, the other half is blazing through the fifty shades books.

    As Mortons Deamon, I see this as an interesting opportunity, I supply her with books normalise areas I want to explore, she accepts them, but, is there a way of knowing whats in a book without having to suffer through reading it?

    I think the only way to find out whats in a book is to read it, if you cant be bothered to why should she? After all its your kinks you are interested in.

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    Amberance read it so I didnt have to....

    Gunther

    if you cant be bothered to why should she?

    Because *she* wants to?

    I got her FSOG "as a joke present", because I knew all her friends had read it and she really wanted to, but wouldnt buy them herself. I see no reason not to nudge the next books she reads into something she will enjoy and I will be happier with, and I would like to do that without reading every book LH sell...

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    Instead of giving her books to read as a hint ( Thats how I see it ) Why not try talking with her about your likes and dislikes???

    If my oh kept giving me books as a hint as to what she wants but didnt sit and talk with me, Ild feel rather pissed off!

    I may be wrong but it seems like this is a quick and easy approach for you/??

    And it has nothing to do with him wanting to murder her, I have no idea where that came from lol.

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    Ok, background.

    My other halfs friends all read FSOG months and months and possibly years ago.

    She mocked them, in what I know as a "I want to read this but dont want to admit it" way.

    So, I aquired the trilogy.

    She ignored them for a few weeks / months (I have very poor concept of time)

    She started reading them, and has gone through the first in about a week, and a big chunk (half, just checked) of the second since monday (even forgoing washing her hair for a few more pages)

    Its more two birds with one stone, I'm good boyfriend buying her naughty books she likes, and if that comes back to me in imitation, well, why not ensure its something I want to try anyway?

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    "Why not ensure it's something I want to try anyway"

    Nothing wrong with this. I think the reaction I had to the post, and maybe other peoples reaction too, is not based around this but the way you are wording it, I pulled out these snippets:

    Mortons demon, interesting opportunity, supply her with books to normalise areas I want to explore, maxinmise the hit rate, why not ensure its something I want to try?, stage one complete, onto stage two....

    I guess I have this image of you sat at your pc rubbing your hands together and whispering in an evil voice...soon....soooooon you shall me mineeeee muaaahahahahaha! :D Joking aside it comes across as selfish thinking, or not considering her wants, needs or desires I guess. Which leads to this:

    Its not the best way of thinking. It seems a little selfish (WHich is fine but....) I think all we are trying to say is, you can have what you desire but to have that, you need to make sure she also gets exactly what she desires so your question should really be this one:

    "My partner is reading the FSOG trilogy and wants to try new things, this is all exciting for me too and I wanna try new things but I don't want to read the books and have little interest in BDSM so how should I approach this so we both get what we want."

    To answer that question: Give and take and compromise and communication. Tell her what you want, ask her what she wants, rule out anything either of you do not wish to try and then experiment, fairly, making sure you both give and both get. The more energy and enthusiasm you put into her desires, the more she will put into yours, unless she is selfish in which case...no idea what to say lol x

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    Going with Sylvia Day, and she wants me to read FSOG now

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