• Ladies - how do you get your man in the mood? Men - what gets you there?

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    Amelie [sign in to see picture]
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    Evening all! I'm in a newish but fairly serious relationship and have yet to suss what I can do to/for my partner to get him in the mood. So, with that in mind I'd love to hear some suggestions of things that work for you all!

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    MandiVonSweiss [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm in a similar situation to you! If anything, each man is different, and of course the case is different strokes for different folks. My man gets turned on by a multitude of things, it can vary from what I wear (in or out of the bedroom in some cases! Damn those pencil skirts haha :-) ) giving him a full body massagewith both of us naked can be incredibly erotic, and one thing I've found helpful is actually going onto adult shops, looking at things together and conjuring up ideas to try out when you get home, same with looking on LoveHoney, just having a look at the lingerie and strap ons get both of us going!

    But yeah, Just work it from all angles and I'm sure you'll find something that gets him trembling at the knees!

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    BDSM [sign in to see picture]
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    Clothes, suggestions, text messages, flirting, cook a meal, join him in the shower, out some porn on,

    anything from subtle to blatant

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    Amelie [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm looking for more subtle things I think, as I'm his first sexual partner so he's not 100% sexually confident as yet. With my ex I could just rub up against him whilst spooning or trail my fingers across his thighs if I wanted to get him in the mood, but neither of these work for new man!

    I think I'm looking for things you can do that will make him think it was his idea all along :P

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    spiceitup [sign in to see picture]
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    I would imagine you need to try a few different things. A few my wife has not done but would like to happen.

    1 wear a short skirt (which she has not got lol, so short dress would work)and act seductively and then do something unusual for her. Drop something in front of him and bend over in front of him displaying everything.

    2 let him catch you in mid flow master-bating, as soon as you know he is there whisper his name as if you don't know he is there .My top fantasy btw.but probably too soon for him.

    3 something I do like when cuddling, a slow tease (is she going touch me or not I love the anticipation)..

    I find my wife insatiable, I usually get an erection as soon as she puts her arm around me and vice versa.different strokes for different folks...

    One you could try is download a DVD and after 20 minutes in it just cuts to
    porn.maybe complicated to do if your not good with computers.

    4 when fully clothed start out caressing your neck and slowly move down to a breast lingering there getting your nipple hard (thin jumper would work or T-shirt with no bra on, so he can see what your doing.but make it look like your not doing it.maybe other hand rubbing your inner thigh moving upward. Maybe a little moan or gasp here and there.

    It would help others to help you with suggestions if they knew what has worked and what has not for you so far.even how long in is the relationship, how long sexually and ages.

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    KinkyFuckery [sign in to see picture]
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    How about straddling him while he's on the sofa and just be nice and tender kissing touching teasing, then grabbing his hand and pulling him in to the bedroom ?

    When your in the start of a new relationship its all about learning what each oither like , try not to stress or hung up . Each person is different and if your his 1st partner he's probably trying to find what he finds bits about himself . Enjoy teasing and having fun together you will soon learn what gets him going, with you ex I bet you know exactley what got him going from the first moment you meant him .

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    Lou22 [sign in to see picture]
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    Bit of cuddling on the sofas always nice. Can quite innocently give him a quick kiss, see if he turns it in to more. Often catch my oh peeking down my top when we're on the sofa together lol :)

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    Amelie [sign in to see picture]
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    Thus far I've tried a variety of things, from the subtle - massages and light touches to the not so subtle...

    The thing is if he isn't in the mood to begin with there seems to be little I can do, and the things which really turn him on are things which he does to me i.e. biting my neck, carressing, going down on me etc. which leaves me feeling pretty powerless when it comes to sex.

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    chunkyg [sign in to see picture]
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    For me the following really work and are often used together;

    1. Whispering to me that she has been naughty or do I think she's been naughty and how am I going to deal with her :-)

    2. Dressing in vintage lingerie......in particular stockings, suspender belt or girdle and more :-)

    3. Text messages / emails to each other

    4. Going out for lunch and telling me she has the ben wa balls in

    5. She is also highly trained at massage!

    and much much more :-)

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    rose hip [sign in to see picture]
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    Amelie wrote:

    The thing is if he isn't in the mood to begin with there seems to be little I can do, and the things which really turn him on are things which he does to me i.e. biting my neck, carressing, going down on me etc. which leaves me feeling pretty powerless when it comes to sex.

    Maybe a conversation with him is more what you need?

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    KebertXela [sign in to see picture]
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    Not in the mood = not in the mood.

    If I've had a hellish day, there isnt a special stroke that gets me in the mood.

    How do you initiate sex is a different matter all together

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    miss x [sign in to see picture]
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    im now single:( but wen i was with my bf i used to rub his chest hair and lick his nipples then i stroke his cock and kiss all the way down to his cock then i take it my mouth and it comes to life like a rocket how i miss that now :(.

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    Amelie wrote:

    Thus far I've tried a variety of things, from the subtle - massages and light touches to the not so subtle...

    The thing is if he isn't in the mood to begin with there seems to be little I can do, and the things which really turn him on are things which he does to me i.e. biting my neck, carressing, going down on me etc. which leaves me feeling pretty powerless when it comes to sex.

    I think your BF might have a problem, Amelie. Judging by your photo, he should be all over you, and you should be here, asking us how to slow him down.

    I can see your dilemma.... you want to be able to initiate things..... sometimes at least. Trying to think of things that girlfriends did to me to turn me on. Coming towelled from the bath, smelling gorgeous. Or smelling of musk talc..... sort of genital hint to it.... very on-turning. Try telling him you've got a stiff neck and would he massage it gently. Ask him if he can see a bruise on your upper thigh and lift you skirt. Give him a couple of glasses of wine, then snuggle up to him on the sofa.

    Frankly, if none of this works, bin the bugger.

    I'm free.

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    chilled_out [sign in to see picture]
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    @MissX.... bluidy hell, if that doesn't work then they must be dead!!

    A partner years ago worked out how to raise my interest (!) no matter how tired I was.... in bed she would simply straddle my face... not sit on me... just touch my mouth lightly with her pussy. 30seconds.... a minute at most... I'm not going to resist that - it's impossible! I always said it was chemical warfare...and it always worked. Great memories!

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    rubysoho [sign in to see picture]
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    i tend to find just reaching out and stroking their cock works well .. or if theyre already naked .. just taking him into my mouth without saying a word ..

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    lilac_vix [sign in to see picture]
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    Not everyone has a high sex drive. I do but if I'm stressed nothing gets me in the mood, except maybe if I have some fun I can forget I'm stressed and then my sex drive comes back.

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