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    Romeo Papa [sign in to see picture]
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    I was just wondering if there is anyone out there who's partner isn't into something your into? If so what is it and how do you go about par taking with out them?

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    Mr. Loverman [sign in to see picture]
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    I love anal play and would love to give my OH anal pleasure but unfortunately my OH doesnt enjoy it, no choice but to do without.

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    Well, where do I start? There are lots of things I want to try, I'm starting to slowly introduce stuff, but of course there's going to be some things that don't float his boat. One thing I'd like to try is humiliation, but I know that's a no go.

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    Mr. Loverman wrote:

    I love anal play and would love to give my OH anal pleasure but unfortunately my OH doesnt enjoy it, no choice but to do without.

    Ditto

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    Romeo Papa [sign in to see picture]
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    Choclover what do you want to do to humiliate your oh?

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    I have a list of things I want to do try it at least once and see how we like it and if we do we do and if we dont at least we can say we have tired it

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    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    I have a list of things I want to do try it at least once and see how we like it and if we do we do and if we dont at least we can say we have tired it

    Damn good idea - that way you both know what each other wants!!!

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    Romeo Papa [sign in to see picture]
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    Kinky are you going to divulge what is on your list of things to try?

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    My list is also pretty long. We recently (dec) moved in together and have started to knock things off the "To do" list. I am very interested in sex. It consumes a large part of my thoughts. he is very open minded (Good job really lol) but when we met he was a lot more inexperienced that me.

    So for me I cant say there is anything my partner wont try, but one thing that does frustrate me sometimes is that he doesnt have the same "passion" for it that I do. So this means, especially with dominance and submission, he tends to follow the "stereotype" ways that he probably saw in porn than researching it himself and becoming his "own" person.....does this make sense? Another example is not testing things on himself like how hard is ok to hit with this paddle or how to tie this kinda knot and then he gets frustrated with himself when it falls apart lol.

    So that would be my thing...that I feel like it isnt a big of a passion for him so he doesnt really think too hard about ways to blow my mind like I do his? Its almost like he reverts to what he may have watched in porn throughout his life.

    However I have had this issue with exes too so I am pretty sure I am just a bloody nymphomaniac that expects or assumes men will have the same passion for all things sexual as I do. Some probably do but I guess I am a bit extreme.

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    ruffnek wrote:

    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    I have a list of things I want to do try it at least once and see how we like it and if we do we do and if we dont at least we can say we have tired it

    Damn good idea - that way you both know what each other wants!!!

    Yes 50/50 . I have things that I have never experienced at all and I want to do them with T & T has stuff he would like to do to me , we have a relationship where we are able to talk through things and build confidence as I am little worrier . Take things at our own pace and talk through it you need commincation , because I am very inexperience T is only the 2nd person I have ever slept with and I sort of know what I want and I definatly want to do them with him for sure . Be nice to experience things together for the 1st time but also rekindle stuff that both of us like together that we have done before .

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    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    ruffnek wrote:

    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    I have a list of things I want to do try it at least once and see how we like it and if we do we do and if we dont at least we can say we have tired it

    Damn good idea - that way you both know what each other wants!!!

    Yes 50/50 . I have things that I have never experienced at all and I want to do them with T & T has stuff he would like to do to me , we have a relationship where we are able to talk through things and build confidence as I am little worrier . Take things at our own pace and talk through it you need commincation , because I am very inexperience T is only the 2nd person I have ever slept with and I sort of know what I want and I definatly want to do them with him for sure . Be nice to experience things together for the 1st time but also rekindle stuff that both of us like together that we have done before .

    You have inspired me!!! I will make a list!!!

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    ruffnek wrote:

    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    ruffnek wrote:

    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    I have a list of things I want to do try it at least once and see how we like it and if we do we do and if we dont at least we can say we have tired it

    Damn good idea - that way you both know what each other wants!!!

    Yes 50/50 . I have things that I have never experienced at all and I want to do them with T & T has stuff he would like to do to me , we have a relationship where we are able to talk through things and build confidence as I am little worrier . Take things at our own pace and talk through it you need commincation , because I am very inexperience T is only the 2nd person I have ever slept with and I sort of know what I want and I definatly want to do them with him for sure . Be nice to experience things together for the 1st time but also rekindle stuff that both of us like together that we have done before .

    You have inspired me!!! I will make a list!!!

    I love our list we have a romantic list and a naughty list and I love when we tick it off for the 1st time but I love the fact that we will be doing it again

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    Romeo Papa [sign in to see picture]
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    Well I guess I should divulge my thoughts behind why I started the tread. I'm really keen to try anal play (both giving and receiving). We've discussed this and my oh doesn't want to do it.

    So I'm left to try it out when I'm going solo. I've only just started to explore so any hits and tips would be appreciated

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    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    ruffnek wrote:

    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    ruffnek wrote:

    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    I have a list of things I want to do try it at least once and see how we like it and if we do we do and if we dont at least we can say we have tired it

    Damn good idea - that way you both know what each other wants!!!

    Yes 50/50 . I have things that I have never experienced at all and I want to do them with T & T has stuff he would like to do to me , we have a relationship where we are able to talk through things and build confidence as I am little worrier . Take things at our own pace and talk through it you need commincation , because I am very inexperience T is only the 2nd person I have ever slept with and I sort of know what I want and I definatly want to do them with him for sure . Be nice to experience things together for the 1st time but also rekindle stuff that both of us like together that we have done before .

    You have inspired me!!! I will make a list!!!

    I love our list we have a romantic list and a naughty list and I love when we tick it off for the 1st time but I love the fact that we will be doing it again

    Aww see once you connect with someone and relax together like you guys do and feel safe to open up to experiment so much more you will worry less and less. Experience is a weird thing. Its good to have some experience yes but I think I am experienced and still trying new things now, after 15 years of being sexually active. but you know what. I think most people would rate experience lower on the list compared to confidence and top of the list I reckon most people would say "Enjoying it"

    Would you rather get a oral from someone whos done it for 10 years but sighs and turns it into some mechanical act to get you off asap so they can go to sleep or rather some guy/girl salivating at the mouth ready to tease and lick you like they havent eaten for a week? lol

    Maybe slight exaggeration but still....KFC I bet you are perfect girl and clearly T thinks so x

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    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    ruffnek wrote:

    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    ruffnek wrote:

    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    I have a list of things I want to do try it at least once and see how we like it and if we do we do and if we dont at least we can say we have tired it

    Damn good idea - that way you both know what each other wants!!!

    Yes 50/50 . I have things that I have never experienced at all and I want to do them with T & T has stuff he would like to do to me , we have a relationship where we are able to talk through things and build confidence as I am little worrier . Take things at our own pace and talk through it you need commincation , because I am very inexperience T is only the 2nd person I have ever slept with and I sort of know what I want and I definatly want to do them with him for sure . Be nice to experience things together for the 1st time but also rekindle stuff that both of us like together that we have done before .

    You have inspired me!!! I will make a list!!!

    I love our list we have a romantic list and a naughty list and I love when we tick it off for the 1st time but I love the fact that we will be doing it again

    It's a great idea, I made my list a few weeks ago, but still waiting for OH to do his :( Never thought of doing a romantic one though!

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    Fluffbags wrote:

    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    ruffnek wrote:

    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    ruffnek wrote:

    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    I have a list of things I want to do try it at least once and see how we like it and if we do we do and if we dont at least we can say we have tired it

    Damn good idea - that way you both know what each other wants!!!

    Yes 50/50 . I have things that I have never experienced at all and I want to do them with T & T has stuff he would like to do to me , we have a relationship where we are able to talk through things and build confidence as I am little worrier . Take things at our own pace and talk through it you need commincation , because I am very inexperience T is only the 2nd person I have ever slept with and I sort of know what I want and I definatly want to do them with him for sure . Be nice to experience things together for the 1st time but also rekindle stuff that both of us like together that we have done before .

    You have inspired me!!! I will make a list!!!

    I love our list we have a romantic list and a naughty list and I love when we tick it off for the 1st time but I love the fact that we will be doing it again

    Aww see once you connect with someone and relax together like you guys do and feel safe to open up to experiment so much more you will worry less and less. Experience is a weird thing. Its good to have some experience yes but I think I am experienced and still trying new things now, after 15 years of being sexually active. but you know what. I think most people would rate experience lower on the list compared to confidence and top of the list I reckon most people would say "Enjoying it"

    Would you rather get a oral from someone whos done it for 10 years but sighs and turns it into some mechanical act to get you off asap so they can go to sleep or rather some guy/girl salivating at the mouth ready to tease and lick you like they havent eaten for a week? lol

    Maybe slight exaggeration but still....KFC I bet you are perfect girl and clearly T thinks so x

    Thank you Fluffbags , I am like an eager beaver lol ! Oh did he well hes the perfect guy makes me very very happy loving being his girlfriend hes an amazing boyfriend .

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    choclover wrote:

    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    ruffnek wrote:

    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    ruffnek wrote:

    KinkyFuckery wrote:

    I have a list of things I want to do try it at least once and see how we like it and if we do we do and if we dont at least we can say we have tired it

    Damn good idea - that way you both know what each other wants!!!

    Yes 50/50 . I have things that I have never experienced at all and I want to do them with T & T has stuff he would like to do to me , we have a relationship where we are able to talk through things and build confidence as I am little worrier . Take things at our own pace and talk through it you need commincation , because I am very inexperience T is only the 2nd person I have ever slept with and I sort of know what I want and I definatly want to do them with him for sure . Be nice to experience things together for the 1st time but also rekindle stuff that both of us like together that we have done before .

    You have inspired me!!! I will make a list!!!

    I love our list we have a romantic list and a naughty list and I love when we tick it off for the 1st time but I love the fact that we will be doing it again

    It's a great idea, I made my list a few weeks ago, but still waiting for OH to do his :( Never thought of doing a romantic one though!

    We have electronially so we can both add to it as and also we can see what the other one has put on and we can tick it off together too I love it we came up to it together x

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    I think i'll have to start this naughty and romantic list!

    Bondage tape has been on my mind for a while, both been tied up the person doing the tying. Anybody else have that problem where you plan a scenario in your head, but then get slightly apprehensive as to how the oh will react?

    How convenient bondage tape is on 3 for £10 (also got the anal prober and love eggs he does know about) Might just have to tell him while he plays on the xbox ill go play with my new toys on his bed.

    I think recently there have been things i have wanted to try but worried what he might think. Luckily the last toy i suprised him with was the beginners butt plug and he really liked it. Put it under the bed and then gave him it when he was going down on me (doggy style)

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    My list is long but she is now becoming more open and much more kinky,We talk alot more which really does help.

    fetlife is a great help.

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