• Help me move on! Kind of...

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    Birdyboyuk [sign in to see picture]
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    Well, if some of you have read my prvious thread about 'Relationship Breakup', you will know my current situation.

    To help me with the situation, I need to get out and have a good time! Try and be myself.

    Unfortunately, I don't have very many close friends that are the outgoing type so I would like some recommendations on what I can do to get out and have fun!

    Not necessarily, sleep around, but meet new people, make new friends etc.

    I have looked at doing Salsa classes, as its something completely different, and local to me anbd could be a laugh!

    What else is there I can do? There is the obvious and go to the pub after work, but don't wanna be sitting there all on my lonesome waiting for someone to approach me (Which is doubtful!)

    I'm not really the outgoing type, but willing to do whatever it takes! :)

    Any advice greatly appreciated! :)

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    Ms HKM [sign in to see picture]
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    I can wholeheartedly recommend salsa!!! You will meet so many awesome people as friends and sometimes the chemistry between dancing can't be ignored...

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    Birdyboyuk [sign in to see picture]
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    Ms HKM wrote:

    I can wholeheartedly recommend salsa!!! You will meet so many awesome people as friends and sometimes the chemistry between dancing can't be ignored...

    That sounds great! :)

    I may deffo look at doing that then! I guess once the wife can see that I'm havign a good time, perhaps she'll want me back?? who knows...

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    Birdyboyuk [sign in to see picture]
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    Well, over 2 years has passed...I did indeed take up Salsa and still doing it!

    Unfortunately, no love, however, have met the most amazing people and now have an awesome group of friends!

    I absolutely love the dancing, and have even taken part in some public performances!!

    Anyone else taken the plunge and taken up a new hobby?

    Any other salsa dancers here??

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    Birdyboyuk [sign in to see picture]
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    Go to some classes just for a taster...once you have the basics, you'll be hooked!

    Its such great fun, and you can have a laugh!

    No-one judges you and its a great confident booster. It has certainly helped me with my confidence!

    Going to social salsa events, I'll just get up and ask someone to dance....back in the day, I'd be that person sitting at the table with my pint!

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    Just Jenson [sign in to see picture]
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    This is a great thread to read! After a split with my long term gf a few months ago I havent really gone out and about as yet - mostly due to my studies and exams which I am in the middle of. I am mainl focusing my energy on this but have gone back to playing volleyball now and again with my old club.

    I know my ex has been social with our group of mutual friends, which is not an issue, but since I havent been so social with them (mostly because we are all spread around the country and usuaully just meet on the weekends over the Summer) I often wonder how the dynamics of the group will be when I do start getting back into that social scene.

    anyway Salsa is an awesome way to get socialising again and often something I have though about taking up as I love dancing and love watching dancers perform. I wouldnt bother going down the pub route - definitely better to joina club as you then have a common interest with everyone immediately

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    Birdyboyuk [sign in to see picture]
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    I have also learnt to ride a motorbike...still on L plates at mo, but plans to do full bike tests, then a new avenue to meet new people by joining bike clubs, going to meets etc...

    I also did a little travelling - Only Belgium & Canada so far, but did stay in hostels...again, great way to meet new people!

    I guess better to have my mid-life crisis now than later! lol

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    I've met some great friends going on ride outs and the bike clubs. Still in contact with lots of them even though we have moved countries twice.

    Mr Badger.

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    Birdyboyuk wrote:

    I have also learnt to ride a motorbike...still on L plates at mo, but plans to do full bike tests, then a new avenue to meet new people by joining bike clubs, going to meets etc...

    I also did a little travelling - Only Belgium & Canada so far, but did stay in hostels...again, great way to meet new people!

    I guess better to have my mid-life crisis now than later! lol

    If you still haven't found d that someone...try pof now.you have the confidence and a new hobby..time to go fishing😊 PS...I landed mine from there so it must work...did take a year though😄 But he's a keeper
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    D.j [sign in to see picture]
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    Its a bit harder to meet new people my wife of 46 years died very suddenly last dec i am english but live in spain my wife spoke spainish i am now trying to learn at 68 all our friends are married they are very supportive but at times i am very lonely what is pof?

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    Fun Louise [sign in to see picture]
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    Have you thought about entering a race for life? It's a great cause raising money for cancer research and its a ladies only event. Everyone is really friendly you don't need to be fit, you don't need to run but you could widen your group of friends and meet some more outgoing people.

    i hear that this year there are obstacle versions and working together might be a good way to make friends.

    Does you local pub do a quiz or have a pool team? It would give you a social setting to be there without being alone and still make you approachable.

    As sassy summers is approaching have you thought about a local "festival"? I don't know where you live but around here we have a small festival of local bands a few stalls and a big pic nic relaxed atmosphere. It is only one or two days but everyone goes and it's free!

    My last suggestion sound shaft but smile, make an effort to speak to or at least smile at everyone you meet / pass in the street, a smile and a "morning" go along way, and if your happy you will feel more confident. Good luck with your quest.

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    This is a great thread! It's so nice to see someone being given advice, acting on it, and then seeing a big improvement in their life, and feeding it back to the forum.well donebirdyboy, and good suggestion from ms hkm.

    Oh, that's just lifted my Sunday morning to hear someone's life has just got that bit better!

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    Birdyboyuk [sign in to see picture]
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    Fun Louise wrote:

    Have you thought about entering a race for life? It's a great cause raising money for cancer research and its a ladies only event. Everyone is really friendly you don't need to be fit, you don't need to run but you could widen your group of friends and meet some more outgoing people.

    i hear that this year there are obstacle versions and working together might be a good way to make friends.

    Does you local pub do a quiz or have a pool team? It would give you a social setting to be there without being alone and still make you approachable.

    As sassy summers is approaching have you thought about a local "festival"? I don't know where you live but around here we have a small festival of local bands a few stalls and a big pic nic relaxed atmosphere. It is only one or two days but everyone goes and it's free!

    My last suggestion sound shaft but smile, make an effort to speak to or at least smile at everyone you meet / pass in the street, a smile and a "morning" go along way, and if your happy you will feel more confident. Good luck with your quest.

    Being a guy, race for life I wouldn't be able to do, however, I have actually taken part in a local run here in Milton Keynes. I took part in a 5km race (MK festival of running) and did it in 34:20.

    Me being, not the fittest person, don't excercise (apart from the dancing) I was very proud of my achievement! Group of us from Salsa classes all did this.

    I never got the running bug, but in a few weeks time, I am taking part in the MK Colour Run...that looks like a lot of fun, and again, a good way to meet some new people!

    Unfortunately, going to pub quizzes etc can be difficult as my daughter lives with me (she chose to live with me) so a lot of the time, I am at home with her. Babysitters are hardtto come by!

    It's great to read the comments on here. I have a more positive outlook on life, I guess being single isn't so bad afterall! lol :)

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    mrs.hiskett [sign in to see picture]
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    Theres laods you can do! Try looking up clubs at your local library i know mine does like yoga /crafts/. Also try looking up groupw with children i heard somewhere does singles with kids group (not sure if they do that now saying it) excerises classes. If your not pub person look into workmans clubs as thry hold social events for kids even tho pub srtting but they fab

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