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    JayBee_x [sign in to see picture]
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    Stupid question but i have to ask....

    Are guys bothered what your vagina looks like?

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    Lady Ness [sign in to see picture]
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    I tend to find I am more attracted to a guys penis, when I'm actually attracted to their personality.

    Once there was this one guy, who I didn't really click with, and basically all we had were moments of sexual lust. But when it came down to it, I wasn't really into his penis. It wasn't really unattractive, or very attractive, it was basically a normal looking cock. But I think I wasn't attracted to it because I wasn't really attracted to the person.

    Generally, if a guy likes you he'll probably love your vulva. There are cases when this isn't always true, but they are often far more complex.

    In regards to is guys are bothered by how a vagina looks... some do use these to take a good look inside http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=1764

    But many aren't concerned at all, about the internal workings of sex organs.

    Books I'd look into would be the following:

    http://nymphomaniacness.com/101-vagina/

    and

    http://www.amazon.co.uk/Femalia-Joani-Blank/dp/0867197587/ref=pd_sim_b_2

    It should give you a good idea about the different shapes, and sizes, women have =)

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    Old - But not THAT old! [sign in to see picture]
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    Well, as you would expect at my age, I've seen a few different looking vaginas in my life, but from my point of view it didn't bother me how it looked. I was more concerened with what I could do with it

    As Avrielle_Aniko says, pubic hair is a different matter. I know that some guys do have a preference for certain styles. It is nice to see it au natural - there's something about being able to see exactly what you're getting, but on the other hand a carefully trimmed variety is just as sexy. The only preference that I have in that direction is that it should not be an out-of-control bush - loose pubic hairs in the mouth are a bit of a turn-off.

    And, of course, personal hygiene in that area is a must.

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    KebertXela [sign in to see picture]
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    I dont recall spending that much time making a detailed investigation of one.....

    Far too excited about being allowed to play with one to get out my sketchbook.

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    sexynurse09 [sign in to see picture]
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    I wouldn't worry. As long as things are clean there shouldn't be a problem. Whoever your with will be too busy enjoying himself to be bothered about the appearance of your vagina.
    To echo the others, pubic hair is different. Everyone has different preferences. Have it whatever way you want it, if you want to know what he thinks, just ask him. I did :).

    And if a guy is really bothered about how your vagina looks, that's his issue, not yours. If he likes you he'll be happy with what you've got.

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    For me personally no hair or just very neatly trimmed. I like to see my OH's lips.

    KC

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    snapper [sign in to see picture]
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    sorry but this thread just makes me think of the lotto saying

    ( you have to be in it to win it ) and im not sure its relivant !

    if your oh is that obessed with looks do you realy want that kind of pressure in a relationship ?

    things change over time !

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    You know, this is quite an interesting topic as it's something I'd literally NEVER thought about through my teens. Of course, I would worry about other things like the size of my boobs etc but the thought about what my vagina looked like as an issue.

    It wasn't until I became more active on a few of the alternative modelling websites and forums that I realised that this is a concern for people. For someone as open minded and inquisitive as me, it seems odd that I hadn't really thought about this before... after all, I'd spent years through school hearing boys talk about the size/shape of their penises so I guess it would make sense that the opposite sex would be concerned with their own genitalia. But I really didn't realise there could be such a big difference in lady's bits; then I started photographing alt porn for online websites and realised how different everyone is!

    From a guys perspective I'm pretty sure as long as you're healthy and hygienic, it doesn't matter that much on the aethetics! (unless they have a particular "taste" for a certain look in that area eg: piercings/hair etc but then that becomes more of a fetish/niche taste in which case that would be something you would hopefully discuss together)

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    Probably not!
    If anyone was mature or cared about you they wouldn't mind, same with anything with your body.

    I don't think I realised growing up that they would be so different either. Until you hear about guys slagging off girls' vulvas (which I'm surprised no one has mentioned as they really do!) but they are obviously immature boys!
    I remember the first time I heard when a girl walked away from a group I was with and the one said about how she has a "kebaby fanny" and I was horrified haha! He's a chavvy little sod though.
    I've heard them say things about girls massive bushes and "4 inch clits" -giblets etc etc etc..
    Boys do talk about them, just try to stay with men you think respect you. We're all so different there's no point in getting upset as long as you look after yourself and your vulva area gives you pleasure! Corrective surgery can have conplications and can leave you desensitised so don't even think about it. Xx

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    I dont know if we are kidding ourselves here or if I just hung out with a particularily fussy group of men through the years but in my experience over the last 10 years, most guys "care" about what a vagina looks like. However they never care "enough" to be turned off or to not go through with the sex, and in my experience if they fall in love with the woman it doesnt matter nearly as much as it did when she was just a casual shag.

    I have noticed guys who have more casual relationships with women tend to be the most bitchy about how her vagina looked, whereas guys who are more settled down dont make so many comments (It does make you wonder if they secretly think the same things as the "casual" guys though) This is not about age or experience or commitment either, some of the men were in long term relationships and had just got out and had started casual relationships, some were well into their 30's some in early 20's some were immature some seemed reasonably mature to me. I have experienced guys cracking jokes about vagina looks for years, and not just vaginas!

    I have heard things like "Erghh it looked like a badly wrapped kebab with all the meat hanging out" I have heard guys cracking up laughing over the fact a woman shaved her vagina but forgot to shave around her anus so this was hilariously funny, I have heard jokes about spaniels ears boobs and giant nipples, trowelled on makeup, weird sex noises, smelly vaginas, giant bushes of pubes, or if she shaves, rashy spotty scratchy lips, bad kissers... the list is endless and from plenty of different men (if it was just one, I could write it off as him being an idiot but nope.)

    However I am going to put it down to human nature. Women do this too and I have heard just as many jokes or insults from the "fairer" sex lol (Small penis, bendy penis, hairy backs, knob cheese, wrinkly balls, heard it all) I think the reason it happens is usually because of a few reasons. Firstly the guy or woman involved in the slating doesnt have any ties or feelings for the person so they dont empathise or feel like it is mean because well, they barely know the person so "who cares" Another reason might be that the person they slept with hurt them in some way (Turned them down, didnt call back, whatever) so they get a little bitter and like to get "revenge" my slating the person publically. For other people its an immature way of getting a little status boost within their group of friends. Looking like a stud by saying "Yeh I shagged her, erghh she was crap, her vagina looked like..." then all their friends can have a giggle and a high five with the "stud" in the room.

    Its not just vaginas and its not just men but most people will have been involved in some critisising of another human being in their lifes, some do it all the time, others occasionally and some are completely innocent but if it isnt looks its status or personality or weight or how they raise their children, their cooking etc. hell we even critisise peoples typing or spelling or opinions on the internet and turn it personal. It is just the kind of species we are lol. You cant please everyone but someone will find you to be the sexiest person they ever laid eyes on.

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    maltedmilk [sign in to see picture]
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    Fluffbags wrote:

    I dont know if we are kidding ourselves here or if I just hung out with a particularily fussy group of men through the years but in my experience over the last 10 years, most guys "care" about what a vagina looks like. However they never care "enough" to be turned off or to not go through with the sex, and in my experience if they fall in love with the woman it doesnt matter nearly as much as it did when she was just a casual shag.

    I have noticed guys who have more casual relationships with women tend to be the most bitchy about how her vagina looked, whereas guys who are more settled down dont make so many comments (It does make you wonder if they secretly think the same things as the "casual" guys though) This is not about age or experience or commitment either, some of the men were in long term relationships and had just got out and had started casual relationships, some were well into their 30's some in early 20's some were immature some seemed reasonably mature to me. I have experienced guys cracking jokes about vagina looks for years, and not just vaginas!

    I have heard things like "Erghh it looked like a badly wrapped kebab with all the meat hanging out" I have heard guys cracking up laughing over the fact a woman shaved her vagina but forgot to shave around her anus so this was hilariously funny, I have heard jokes about spaniels ears boobs and giant nipples, trowelled on makeup, weird sex noises, smelly vaginas, giant bushes of pubes, or if she shaves, rashy spotty scratchy lips, bad kissers... the list is endless and from plenty of different men (if it was just one, I could write it off as him being an idiot but nope.)

    However I am going to put it down to human nature. Women do this too and I have heard just as many jokes or insults from the "fairer" sex lol (Small penis, bendy penis, hairy backs, knob cheese, wrinkly balls, heard it all) I think the reason it happens is usually because of a few reasons. Firstly the guy or woman involved in the slating doesnt have any ties or feelings for the person so they dont empathise or feel like it is mean because well, they barely know the person so "who cares" Another reason might be that the person they slept with hurt them in some way (Turned them down, didnt call back, whatever) so they get a little bitter and like to get "revenge" my slating the person publically. For other people its an immature way of getting a little status boost within their group of friends. Looking like a stud by saying "Yeh I shagged her, erghh she was crap, her vagina looked like..." then all their friends can have a giggle and a high five with the "stud" in the room.

    Its not just vaginas and its not just men but most people will have been involved in some critisising of another human being in their lifes, some do it all the time, others occasionally and some are completely innocent but if it isnt looks its status or personality or weight or how they raise their children, their cooking etc. hell we even critisise peoples typing or spelling or opinions on the internet and turn it personal. It is just the kind of species we are lol. You cant please everyone but someone will find you to be the sexiest person they ever laid eyes on.

    Thank you! Lol I felt a bit awkwardly mean being the only one but I don't like lying! Plus if Jaybee_x ever was slated or has been it may make her feel much worse and like it's only her! Xx
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    JayBee_x [sign in to see picture]
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    Thankyou for all your advice :)

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    I personally have a preference for larger labia; its not that I'm turned off by a vagina with smaller labia though. To me, any clean and healthy vagina is sexy, but i just have a bit of a fetish for larger, puffy lips. This is one of the reasons i am into pussy pumping.
    As for hair; again any is sexy but I much prefer it shaved

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    An interesting article I read the other day http://www.independent.co.uk/voices/comment/fgm-the-designer-vagina-isnt-the-same-as-female-genital-mutilation-but-it-is-comparable-8522466.html

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    A vagina isnt exactly something you really spend time looking at, like someone else said you play with it but you dont exactly study it. Dont get me wrong it should be clean and tidy and shaved or unshaved but either way not messy.

    If someone is put off by your vagina then they are clearly paying way to much attention and not enough to you and having a good time.

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