• Help?? Guys opinions too please?

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    JayBee_x [sign in to see picture]
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    Are guys actually bothered if youve never given a blowjob before?

    Ive done it once and it wasnt a very good experience so i still feel like i havent done it if you know what i mean,im worried that they will think your crap or your useless?

    One last thing

    Is there a wrong or right way or does it come natural?

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    Dilillili [sign in to see picture]
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    First question, not sure. We were both virgins, we were glad everything was with each other first.
    And most guys will just be happy they're getting a blowjob, they'll happily give you tips if it means it will happen again (best tip: don't be self conscious).
    The wrong way involves teeth and not touching *it* with your mouth. So technically there is, but if you can avoid those two (which for most people is automatic) then it's just up to experimentation to improve. Everything else is pretty natural.

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    JayBee_x [sign in to see picture]
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    dont be self conscious? easy said than done,i guess thats putting up a front ?

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    Seduced [sign in to see picture]
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    There is no rule book and no rule that says you have to give a blow job!

    If you do give it a go and they think like that, Then they're not worth your energy or time.

    Everything comes with time and practice :)

    There is no real right or wrong way JB, Many differend techniques out there.

    There were a few threads on this topic recently actually that could be of help, I'll go look for them.....

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    JayBee_x [sign in to see picture]
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    Seduced wrote:

    There is no rule book and no rule that says you have to give a blow job!

    If you do give it a go and they think like that, Then they're not worth your energy or time.

    Everything comes with time and practice :)

    There is no real right or wrong way JB, Many differend techniques out there.

    There were a few threads on this topic recently actually that could be of help, I'll go look for them.....

    i know i dont have to,its just something im worrying about and thankyou :)

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    Seduced [sign in to see picture]
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    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/634156-i-want-to-give-my-boyfriend-the-best-blow/

    There's one of many :)

    And you're welcome ;)

    Don't worry about it too much, Any decent guy will understand if its your first time and if you're new to it all.

    For me personally, Eye contact, Sloppy sounds, Hand holding, Maybe her playing with my balls at the same time?

    Those are the kind of things that do it for me.

    A few more I can think of, - Flick your tongue across the skin that attaches his forskin to his penis, Ive forgotten the name for it right now as Im tired.

    Oh yeh, And bobbing up and down will come natureally, But think about twirling your head around in a 'spiral' like motion as your going up and down. If that makes sense???

    Anyway, I hope any of that helps for now at least! :)

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    Dilillili [sign in to see picture]
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    On the subject, do guys like teasing before it gets full-on? Because my OH sometimes get disappointed by waiting instead of more aroused, but that may be sex, not bjs.

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    Seduced [sign in to see picture]
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    Depends what mood Im in and how long the teasing lasts. Sorry I cant be more specific lol.

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    Dilillili [sign in to see picture]
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    That's fine, so long as I know it's good every now and then!

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    JayBee_x [sign in to see picture]
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    Dilillili wrote:

    On the subject, do guys like teasing before it gets full-on? Because my OH sometimes get disappointed by waiting instead of more aroused, but that may be sex, not bjs.

    goodquestion...

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    JayBee_x [sign in to see picture]
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    Seduced wrote:

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/634156-i-want-to-give-my-boyfriend-the-best-blow/

    There's one of many :)

    And you're welcome ;)

    Don't worry about it too much, Any decent guy will understand if its your first time and if you're new to it all.

    For me personally, Eye contact, Sloppy sounds, Hand holding, Maybe her playing with my balls at the same time?

    Those are the kind of things that do it for me.

    A few more I can think of, - Flick your tongue across the skin that attaches his forskin to his penis, Ive forgotten the name for it right now as Im tired.

    Oh yeh, And bobbing up and down will come natureally, But think about twirling your head around in a 'spiral' like motion as your going up and down. If that makes sense???

    Anyway, I hope any of that helps for now at least! :)

    thankyou,helped alot :)

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    Seduced [sign in to see picture]
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    No Worries, Now Im off to bed before I fall asleep at my desk lol!

    Speak again soon :)

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    As long as you are prepared to put their penis in your mouth then most guys are kind of lenient ;)

    Seriously though, don't worry about it, you can't be an expert at anything without practice. It's something you will get better at together over time. If a guy is a dipstick about your inexperience then find a better one.

    Also don't forget that blow jobs can be a very visual experience - I find that eye-contact is the usually the best part.

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    I once dated a guy who hated blowjobs. Wouldnt let me even try. I was sad :(

    But anyway I guess that goes to show that, contrary to popular belief, not every guy will be bothered about blowjobs.

    As for coming naturally, no not really it takes practise and experience to get it right. (I say get it right but...) It will take a little while to overcome the initial apprehension. Things like worrying about hurting him or your teeth in the way or gagging or any other worry.

    Then it will take a little while to learn a technique and just like us women, not every guy always enjoys the same technique. (Although they seem a bit more lenient than us ladies and generally just enjoy the fact that it is in your mouth...generally) So thats a learning curve you share together.

    Just be honest with your guy and tell him you want to learn. I am hedging my bets that he will be very grateful to teach you. Ask him afterwards what felt good and what didnt etc.

    But my overall general advice is to relax, focus on the head of his penis, use your hand at the same time to give him added stimulation, dont be afraid to drool, it makes things easier on both of you if its nice and wet, dont suck too hard, just gently, otherwise you will end up with a massive jaw ache within a few minutes and unable to continue with the pace, plus it might be too intense for him. Go at your own speed and comfort level with regards to depth. Nothing will put you off a blowjob faster than a guy pushing your head down and making you gag. (Thats not polite boys ;) ) Eye contact is good but it doesnt half give you eye strain sometimes lol

    Oh and something about not neglecting the balls.....

    but the mostest importantest bit of advice I can give is "enjoy it" Men aint silly, they can usually tell if your giving a half hearted blowjob or a quick lick for 10 seconds in exchange for them going down on you or whatnot. I mean if you dont like it, say so. I think that is the biggest complaint I have heard from men regarding blowjobs, and can you imagine if the tables were turned? I dont think I could feel sexy. As for swallowing, again thats your choice and I think the general sense I pick up from men is that swallowing is of course the nicest, if not, let him come on his belly or something, but I think holding it in your mouth and legging it to the bathroom before making voilent spitting noises is considered the worst lol.

    Have fun x

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    Fluffy as always talks sense, enjoy it, always remember my ex watching Eastenders with one eye while doing it, haha I can laugh about it now but then it was the most un-erotic thing you could possibly think off.

    Also, you are not born with it. Think of it like learning to ride a bike. Yeah you fell off a few times, and it might have hurt and you thought you were crap - but you got there in the end!!

    At the end of the day us men are men, and if you take our bits in your mouth, we will not push you away. Oral sex is one of the most intimate sexual acts you can have. And one of the most beautiful. You will be ok x

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    There is no rule book and no rule that says you have to give a blow job!

    Indeed, my partner doesnt really like it, so I may have had 3 in the last 6 years

    I'm somewhat out of touch as it were, but areas to go for are the tip, and there is a "spine" that runs along to the underside. Dont try and replicate a "sex" motion, and hands should be involved.

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    Like Fluffbags said, not all guys like blowjobs. I would really have to be in the mood for one. Maybe I just had a bad experiance. Anyway I can't add any more to what has already been said. This is very good advice. I hope it goes well for you :)

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    Naked_butler [sign in to see picture]
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    As long as you prepared to do it the guy would think special that it you doing it. Watch porn for tips on sucking n licking. A guy should also happily give u pointrrs whilst you "practice" on him

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    Doesn't really matter about experience in that matter, each guy enjoys different things, so just because you gave someone else a good one doesn't mean the new guy would like the exact same stuff. My OH hadn't before me and there was no problems when we experience it first time.

    As I said, the right thing depends on the guy and what they enjoy!

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    Don't expect to be able to deepthoart straight away. Maybe don't even make it about getting him off. Sometimes when I first get with a guy when we're on the setee I'll lie with my head in his lap facing him- and just play with it. I'll stoke and lick and suck it in different ways whilst watching his face to see what he likes and what he doesn't. When he starts getting impatient I just on his cock haha

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