• How to over come swallowing my man. Help!

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    Sensual Sandy [sign in to see picture]
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    I need help here.

    I love my man dearly, but I have a terrible problem

    We are great together in the sack, on the table, in the shower, wherever we get that urge and he takes care of me ALL of the time.

    However, I have a terrible time trying to swallow his cum. I just can't do it, I know I sound like a Wuss, but it actually makes me want to throw up, making me avoid BJ's So therefore he is not getting the pleasure that he so deserves. We have been together for over 25 years, and he is very patient. He even jokes with me all the time about it, but I know deep down it huts him that I don't give him a fantastic BJ and swallow him too. I've had this problem with previous boyfriends too.

    I want to please him so much, Please please help!

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    Sensual Sandy [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks Saucy21

    That link you sent me has some great tips

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    Sensual Sandy [sign in to see picture]
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    Will have to look at his diet, we do drink a lot of strong coffee

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    mrs average [sign in to see picture]
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    I find it hard to do too, and still don't swallow. The only time I did this sucessfully was when I had a shot glass of baileys to hand to down it straight afterwards (a bit like an I'm a celebrity bush tucker trial lol).

    It worked a treat, it's more of a mental block for me though, brings back memries of tapioca pudding... yuck!

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    FoxyStoat [sign in to see picture]
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    My wife has this problem too. She just can't bring herself to take it in her mouth at all. She is a vegetarian too........could there be a connection there ? I need Sherlock.....

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    maltedmilk [sign in to see picture]
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    Can't you just get it done quick? Put him further back so you don't get it on so many tastebuds. Xx

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    Despina Rose [sign in to see picture]
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    You could always let him finish in a tissue or use a condom if you really don't like it.

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    Luscious Libby [sign in to see picture]
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    I swallowed once many years ago and it put me off for life!!

    I love giving my husband oral but swallowing is not for me, just cant stand the taste. I explained this to my husband and i did try swallowing with him when we first got together but i still really didnt like it so we agreed he can finish anywhere else he likes!!

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    BDSM [sign in to see picture]
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    can he not just cum elsewhere so you can both enjoy the bj without stressing about him cumming in your mouth?

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    Sensual Sandy [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks guys for all of your words... I guess its a big thing for him, makes me feel like I'm abnormal? But reading these posts, looks like I'm not the only one with a problem?

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    Sensual Sandy [sign in to see picture]
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    mrs average wrote:

    I find it hard to do too, and still don't swallow. The only time I did this sucessfully was when I had a shot glass of baileys to hand to down it straight afterwards (a bit like an I'm a celebrity bush tucker trial lol).

    It worked a treat, it's more of a mental block for me though, brings back memries of tapioca pudding... yuck!

    Well, considering I'm Irish, I think I will try the Baileys, thanks!

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    Sensual Sandy [sign in to see picture]
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    BDSM wrote:

    can he not just cum elsewhere so you can both enjoy the bj without stressing about him cumming in your mouth?

    Will try this and see what happens but yes, we should not be stress out as then there's no fun in it is there?

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    Sensual Sandy [sign in to see picture]
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    Luscious Libby wrote:

    I swallowed once many years ago and it put me off for life!!

    I love giving my husband oral but swallowing is not for me, just cant stand the taste. I explained this to my husband and i did try swallowing with him when we first got together but i still really didnt like it so we agreed he can finish anywhere else he likes!!

    Hey Luscious,

    I really think he believes everyone swallows? But seriuosly, I gag even thinking about it. Isn't that awful?

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    Sensual Sandy [sign in to see picture]
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    BDSM wrote:

    can he not just cum elsewhere so you can both enjoy the bj without stressing about him cumming in your mouth?

    I agree, but then I feel I'm a horrible wife/lover.......maybe I should have him join this forum so he can get great advice too. Thanks!

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    James and Michelle (mr and mrs) [sign in to see picture]
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    My OH also isn’t keen to swallow it. I (like many men) do like to have my cum swallowed but many women don’t like it, Michelle always says its very salty and not nice at all. She will swallow it sometimes (usually only when drunk lol) but not often. As others said, I read somewhere your diet can effect taste as can dehydration.

    Also as said you may consider giving head and pulling his penis out at the end and letting him cum on ur boobs, lips (closed mouth to avoid taste) or face

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    Janny [sign in to see picture]
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    I have been with women, some rather experienced, who would never ever swallow, but then some who would do happily. Look at porn, half of the girls in the money-shot seal their lips. It doesn't make the experience of a nice bj any lesser if you don't want to swallow. x

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    Imogen [sign in to see picture]
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    I can't stand swallowing, tried it once or twice and I don't think I could do it again. Just the thought makes me want to gag, and somehow I think it would spoil the moment if I were to retch and nearly throw up! It's not weird, just personal preference. Some love it, some hate it, nothing to be ashamed of :)

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    Lou22 [sign in to see picture]
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    As you can see you're definitely not alone this, i always want to swallow but still struggle sometimes.
    For me its not the taste, i have no problem holding it in my mouth but my gag reflex kicks in and it just won't go down.

    I think your idea of getting your partner on the site for tips for both of you is a good idea. I wonder sometimes if my problem is over thinking things which your bound to do if you can't take some of the pressure of so it may help for him to see that this is more common than he thinks and there might be ways round it.

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    Sensual Sandy wrote:

    mrs average wrote:

    I find it hard to do too, and still don't swallow. The only time I did this sucessfully was when I had a shot glass of baileys to hand to down it straight afterwards (a bit like an I'm a celebrity bush tucker trial lol).

    It worked a treat, it's more of a mental block for me though, brings back memries of tapioca pudding... yuck!

    Well, considering I'm Irish, I think I will try the Baileys, thanks!

    Lol! Gald I'm not the only one that struggles with this Sandy.

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    Lurkie McLurkerson [sign in to see picture]
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    You are definitely not alone!

    I would love to swallow my husband, but I find the whole combination of taste, texture and temperature just makes me want to throw up (and I have once, but fortunately it was just the cum that came back up again). I've managed to swallow maybe two or three times a long time ago, but it just made me feel so sick (making me feel sick thinking about it now, ick).

    Another couple of times I took it in the mouth and spat it out afterwards, but it just feels disgusting, and I feel bad trying to surruptitiously get rid of it afterwards. Now I just let him come on my boobs or wherever and he seems happy enough with that.

    So for goodness sake don't feel bad. If he gives you a hard time about it, collect it and then invite him to swallow it, see how he likes it. If he doesn't like it from a spoon, have him imagine how much worse it is when it's randomly shot at the back of your throat!

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