• Are we all Bi Curious?

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    Guernseygirl123 [sign in to see picture]
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    I have always considered myself straight and never even look at a woman and think that shes atteactive, but just recently i have been getting turned on at the thought of a woman going down on me.... I think i just need to get it over and done with so i can sort this curiosity out...

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    Minkish Minx [sign in to see picture]
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    I used to think that I was straight, but now I think I'm definitely bi curious. My gay friend once said that he thinks everyone is a little bi deep down inside, which I thought was interesting. He made a distinction between physical and emotional attraction; for eg, for himself, he's physically unattracted to women but has been attracted to females on a purely emotional level. I was a little sceptical since we were all tipsy and this happened in between nonsenical talk but I think there's some truth in it.

    Personally, I've somehow always been more turned on by the ladies when watching porn. Maybe it's because the men tend to not be the focus (or sometimes they're just not that physically attractive). Before the recent couple of years, I've only ever had crushes on men. However, I had this huge crush on my dance instructor in recent years and she's actually really feminine. I've actually never been seriously attracted to anyone else since I got together with my fiance so I was pretty guilty and stopped going for her classes for a time. It's a purely physical attraction though. In all my life, my attraction to ladies has been purely physical.

    Maybe my friend really was on to something. Huh.

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    Luv bunny [sign in to see picture]
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    Before I joined Lovehoney, I would say I wasn't interest in women whatsoever. In fact even with my OH I was maybe slightly asexual, in than I just wasn't into sex very much. Maybe there were other things going on though, like stress and confidence issues, looking back.

    in any case in past couple of years , I've gotten interested in erotic fiction and girl on girl porn (enjoy other porn as well ).

    I remember one evening at a racecourse, whilst having dinner in the restaurant before the concert we'd gone to see, I was eyeing up another woman thinking she looked pretty attractive, and imagining myself 'with her'. Can't remember if I told my hubby, but he's not into the idea of a threesome whether it be FFM or MMF, as he doesn't like to share me

    Guess I'm flattered in that respect, and well, I can always fantasise, lol. That's why I enjoy my books so much haha.

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    The Lady Ligeia [sign in to see picture]
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    I had a very repressed upbringing and for a long time considered myself straight simply because I had been brainwashed into thinking it was the only acceptable form of sexual activity. However, the older I got and the further away from my messed up childhood I got, I found myself involunterily being attracted to women. I have unfortunately not yet had the opportunity to be with a woman. However, I consider myself bisexual and, in the event I am ready for a relationship again, would be just as open to being with a woman as I would to being with a man.

    I watched the movie Room in Rome the other night, and all I could think was "I want that!!!"

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    Lovinthetoys [sign in to see picture]
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    i think everyone has had thoughts about Bi, somewhere along the line.

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    Lovinthetoys wrote: i think everyone has had thoughts about Bi, somewhere along the line.

    Nope, not everyone. As I better explain here: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/1263080-100percent-straight/

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    Lovinthetoys [sign in to see picture]
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    ok fair enough, each to their own

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    DeepBlueKisses [sign in to see picture]
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    Everybody falls somewhere on a spectrum. You can be curious and take the time to experience same sex relationships, and make a final decision. It's all about what works for you and what you find comfortable.

    I haven't been with a woman (or man) before, but I know I find them sexually attractive. I call myself bi with a preference for men, because while I'm figuring out my sexuality it makes it easier for myself having something to call me.

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    Ruby Red Slippers [sign in to see picture]
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    I subscribe to that idea about there being a 'scale' 1 = completely gay, 10 = completely straight and lots of people fall somewhere in the middle. Not convinced that everyone is simply straight, gay or bi.

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    charliemichelle [sign in to see picture]
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    have to agree

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    WillC [sign in to see picture]
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    I can appreciate what women see in a good looking man,and life is short,so yes maybe we are all to varying degrees.

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    SvenTS [sign in to see picture]
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    I think everyone needs to examine it but some folks are solid on the one end of the Kinsey scale or the other. Really I wish I was bi - the same as I wish I was switch in terms of BDSM - I'd much rather have all options available to me. But what you like is what you like - nothing wrong with that no matter what it is as long as they're consenting.

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    charliemichelle [sign in to see picture]
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    have to 100% agree

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    Ruby Red Slippers [sign in to see picture]
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    SvenTS wrote:

    I think everyone needs to examine it but some folks are solid on the one end of the Kinsey scale or the other.

    That's the one! Couldn't remember the name of it.

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    chloe [sign in to see picture]
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    The OH would love for me to be bi but it doesn't really appeal to me. I can appreciate a pretty woman, but it's men that do it for me.

    OH has admitted though that he quite likes the thought of masturbating another guy. But only the thought of it, he's fair sure he wouldn't be able to actually do it

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    Subdom27 [sign in to see picture]
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    I think labels are very restrictive. We are all sexual people, and we enjoy what we enjoy, so why pigeon-hole ourselves?

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    Shadow Collector [sign in to see picture]
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    Eh, we all fall somewhere on the Kinsey Scale. That's enough information for me.

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    Clockwork_Oasis [sign in to see picture]
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    I grew up in a religious family, and was so definitely sure I was straight (as all people obviously are) that I never even considered my options. I married my best friend, and we were going to start a family, have a picket fence, rocking chairs on the porch and all that jazz. We were married for 5 years. During which time I was "bi cuirous" and laughed about it, because "everyone is a little bi-curious" and that's just life.

    Then I kissed a girl and liked it. Or, to be fair, she kissed me.

    Life is different now.

    I do think, though, that there were clear and obvious signs all along that I was oh-so-very gay. And perhaps, had I allowed myself to think through those "bi-curious" tendencies I would have been younger than 27 when I had my revelation ;-)

    I always was "bi-curious" and had a strong attraction to girls. Now that I am in a same-sex relationship, and actually happy, it is very rare I feel any sort of attraction towards a man. Almost never. But not never. Because, you know, we're all a little bi-curious ;-)

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    Ampeli [sign in to see picture]
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    Mrs A is now passively bi and no question that I am curious to try oral on another guy. That is the full extent of my curiousity, but nonetheless the imagined sesnsation of having an erect penis in my mouth is a fantasy I can't deny and quite open about with the OH. No, I don't think anyone is 100% straight

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    charliemichelle [sign in to see picture]
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    100% agree with you

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