• Are we all Bi Curious?

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    Brownin85 [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm definietly bi-curious. As much as I like having sex with a man, the idea of being with another woman turns me on.

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    swingcouple [sign in to see picture]
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    Rose is bi and encouraged me to experiment... and I wish I'd done it years ago! However I spent years in the RAF, where any MM sex was grounds for court-martial and dismissal with disgrace. Hope things have changed in the forces these days as looking back , it seems ridiculous to try and legally control human sexuality.

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    Ilovemyman [sign in to see picture]
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    Everyone is different, i am curious but my husband is totally straight. If i wasn't married i think i would be bi.

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    lookslikefun [sign in to see picture]
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    "I think the easiest way around it all is to say, if someone is sexy I'll fancy them. Male or female :)"

    Good point...had my GF here for the weekend, had great sex and a wonderful time. Was visited during our stay by an old mate from years ago and we both remarked that he'd be a good lay. Never touched him in all the time I've known him, but I still wonder what it'd be like to pound into him or feel his fist inside me, just as I'd like to see my OH take him with a strap-on or blow him till he shook like a leaf.

    Curious? You bet.

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    I have been curious about the same sex for a long time, I find women beautiful and sexy but I consider myself to be straight. It's a fantasy and maybe one day I'll get to experience it for real but if I don't then it's not the end of the world :)

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    scotman [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks dotdashdot it how I feel . Thats why I posted this thread. wanted to know we felt about our sexuality

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    CrimsonVixen [sign in to see picture]
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    I think its true that we are all curious about what feels good and makes us excited, i started off thinking i was bicurious and then it turned out i am actually bi and find men and women equally as exciting both in a relationship and sexual way :) xxx

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    Nope. I like boobs, bums and legs that lead to a warm wet opening. Like a jigsaw that's how things work. Don't have any sort of inkling in dabbling with the same sex. Wouldn't want stubble rash. Each to their own but remember for our species to survive it has to be m/f all the way.

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    I am (mostly) straight, but find women to be sexually attractive (I love breasts!), and have had sex with several in the past. As a matter of fact, for a while I fancied I might be a lesbian. However, I don't think I could fall in love with a woman, and even from a purely sexual point of view, I find more satisfaction in being with men.

    On the other hand my partner tells me he has never felt anything for other men. How many people are actually bi-curious? I have no idea, but the vast majority of my friends claims they have absolutely no interest. I have no reason to disbelieve them.

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    In some ways it seems it's more socially acceptable for females to be bi curious than men. I however very much enjoy watching women playing to orgasm.

    I guess we are just all different. As someone else said I desire sex with women but wouldn't want to be a lesbian.

    Sorry if that isn't very eloquently put.

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    mrs average [sign in to see picture]
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    We're all different, I agree that as humans we are all inquisitive and have curious minds, not nessecarily sexually curious though.

    I can apprectate the fine figure of a man or woman I think all of us can detect if someone is beautiful and attractive or not.

    Persoanally I'm married and straight but if there's some woman on TV or something and my OH comments on how hot she is and if I agree I'll say so, In the same way my OH is comfortable with metioning if a guy looks buff. I think we all know the difference beteen a hottie and a minger and don't see any problem with saying it.

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    Billie_R [sign in to see picture]
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    I agree. I have only ever had loving feelings for males, but I find lesbian porn very erotic, and know most women feel the same.

    Womens bodies are just much nicer to look at than mens

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    Ork wrote:

    I think sexuality is going to hit the polar opposite of what it was, in terms of the way it's viewed by society, where as before it was wrong to be anything other than straight, I think it's soon going to be considered wrong to be straight. My friend I know is 100% straight, he's happy with that and couldn't care less about other people.

    But i'm seeing it possible that soon we will see people forcing the "you can't be 100%" arguement on everyone, the problem being that generally people who are comfortable being straight can't argue against it, to do so generally has them labelled as homophobic.... in all honesty, humanity as a race is pretty daft in that sense.

    As far as the whole spectrum thing goes, though most people only see the main 3, you also have pansexuals and many other's to factor in. But yeah, I would say a lot of people are curious, but not everyone, to say everyone is curious would be wrong, maybe even the majority, but not everyone, also assuming by everyone one you mean straight people.

    This is almost touching on the topic in the thread :-

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/615097-bisexual-or-just-want-to-have-an-excuse/

    in as much as there seems to be a tendency to see being bi as somehow fundamentally different to, say, fancying both blonds and brunettes although it could be argued that both are equally acceptable statements about the range of ones potential sexual partners.

    So, can we seriously foresee a situation where declaring oneself straight is seen as equivalent to declaring homophobia? Is it only acceptable to declare a preference for brunettes simply because we have not yet evolved the concept of blondophobia?

    Personally I would hope we never return to a situation where there is a politically correct sexual orientation be that straight, bi, gay or brunettophilic.

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    ZombieCpl wrote:

    Personally I feel that just like autism, people sit on a spectrum. There is no simple you are and you're not, but differing degrees of bi (this is only my opinion!)

    I personally would be more than happy to sleep with a woman, get sexual satisfaction from a member of the same sex but am not sure if I could ever love one like a partner, more like a friend.

    the spectrum in my mind would go a bit like this:

    Straight——curious——bisexual——curious——gay

    And I would class myself more as curious on the straight end.

    but then of course there is probably loads more things to consider!

    Having read this post, I was reminded of one I read a long time back. After much searching I found it.

    Pretty much nails my thoughts on the matter.

    Artel wrote:

    I have always believed that we are all bi to one extent or another.

    Some may 10% gay, 90% straight, some 99% gay and 1% straight etc.

    I suspect our own views and those of others have a great deal to do with nurture rather than nature and cultural/social norms have a very significant impact on how each of us perceives ourselves. Looking back through history, what it regarded as "normal" sexual behaviour has changed many times. With perhaps the ancient Romans being the best known example of a culture where sexuality was less clearly defined. It mattered less whether it was a male or female sexual partner a man had, as long as he was giving rather than receiving (so to speak).

    One of things that has always struck me as amusing is that the vast majority of pornography aimed at "straight" men has, as an essential element, a fit guy with a large cock, having an orgasm. Suggest to the viewer that he may be aroused by this and many would freak.

    So I'm sticking with my view of a sliding scale as far as sexuality is concened.

    It is, after all, a sexual preference.

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    Gyrator53 [sign in to see picture]
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    The sliding scale continuum argument really doesn't answer the original question. There may well be people who fit all the points on the scale but the answer to whether or not we are ALL bi-curious is if you believe no-one occupies the extremes of that scale - the points at 100% straight and 100% gay ends of that continuum.

    I think it is very dangerous to start tinkering with the freedom for people to declare there sexuality as they feel it to be. This has been a mechanism of control used over hundreds of years to get people to conform to sexual stereotypes. We must guard against it at all times.

    So, if just one person declares themselves 100% straight or 100% gay then I suggest the motion falls because no-one else has the right to say that they aren't.

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    Gyrator53 wrote:

    The sliding scale continuum argument really doesn't answer the original question. There may well be people who fit all the points on the scale but the answer to whether or not we are ALL bi-curious is if you believe no-one occupies the extremes of that scale - the points at 100% straight and 100% gay ends of that continuum.

    I think it is very dangerous to start tinkering with the freedom for people to declare there sexuality as they feel it to be. This has been a mechanism of control used over hundreds of years to get people to conform to sexual stereotypes. We must guard against it at all times.

    So, if just one person declares themselves 100% straight or 100% gay then I suggest the motion falls because no-one else has the right to say that they aren't.

    Fair enough - I think it would be fair to label everyone bi-curious on the basis of what's been said here, but I think it's fair to say a lot more people are open to sexual exploration than standard labels such as 'straight,' 'gay' or 'bi' allow for. Of course people have the right to declare they are 100% straight, so yes the topic fails in that respect. But the conversation it opens with regards to sexual preferences is a fascinating one that is happening more and more in recent times, it seems to me.

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    I doubt there are very many people who are at the 100% extremes. I always thought I was totally straight until put into a situation with another guy as part of a couple, then I found out that I'm most certainly bi.

    Having said that, I can't see myself starting any type of relationship with a guy. The idea of kissing a bloke just doesn't do anything for me at all, infact it's a major turn-off.

    I think there are 2 different types of sexuality. Emotional and sexual. I'm sexually bi in as much as I'm happy with a guy (when in a couple) or TS as part of a sex act, but I'm emotionally straight as I can't ever see myself wanting a loving relationship with a man.

    Never say never though!

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    Gyrator53 [sign in to see picture]
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    Ork wrote

    I don't think a non bisexual person can really understand it, but I do find it a bit dumb that it would be compared to hair color... or anything for that matter

    I think what the OP of that thread was driving at was to do with how people act towards others. I think he was simply making the point that ones preferences, sexual or otherwise, don't change you responsibilities in the way you interact with others. Another example might be that declaring oneself 100% straight would not excuse homophobia.

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    scotman [sign in to see picture]
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    From the replies I've see since I posted this thank you all and as many have posted we are a curious race and good luck to all never mind if you agreed or disagreed . I hope this thread can continue as long everyone wants to contribute love to you all ;-) xx

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    MrsJemmaT [sign in to see picture]
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    I am straight and happily married but it doesnt mean i dont have the occassional curious thought.

    i woukd love to have a one off experience with a girl just to see what its like....

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