• Could I be infected?

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    Cockpuss [sign in to see picture]
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    I have never had sex before. And finally in a positoin to try it. I asked the guy to use a condom and I felt a surge of warmth at the other end. when he penetrated. would you feel this through a condom? Can cum overflow a condom enough to wet the top of a duvet? There seemed a lot out here. the thing is one or two have fingered around my inner wall and then dipped and fittted the penis and then sorting out a condom. When I have been clean fresh all my life could I be infected?

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    maltedmilk [sign in to see picture]
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    What exactly are you asking?
    If you think the condom may have split you are potentially at risk of catching any infections/diseases the person might have. Have you noticed any symptoms or are you just panicking?
    I am in a happy relationship so don't use condoms now and can't really remember the sensations. The wet on the bed may well be from you. Are you not in a position to ask the guy if it split? How old are you if you don't mind me asking? Xx

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    there is always a possiblitity with anything if you really that worried about it then phone the sexual health clinic x i am sure your not although it could have burst or could have flowed out x but you should really always put your hand there to check as it is getting inserted whether your a man or a woman xxxx

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    Cockpuss [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm 49 years old. I've joined a Swingers website and my intention was to make sure even i supplied condoms too. I talk to a particular local gentleman who keeps an eye on where i am, advise me about meeting these people and if i'm not happy who i'm with. I thought i'd got it right from the start. He wishes he'd been the first to make me cum and then i'd have more idea.I did tell him the first day we met as he says he wishes he'd gone through it with me but he wasn't that well when we met It looks like they have still taken advantage even though i'd got the precausions. If i am what symptoms would i encounter? It could be any disease or infection if i am it looks like you wouldn't know which one is takeing effect it looks lilke they take different lengths of time to be apparent. Does it cost a lot of money to get an sti test.? or can somethign be done on the NHS. How reliable are these test Kits? I have left a message for the man who i did the deed with. I wasn't sweating how much fluid do i loose. We were lying the wrong way on the bed and then when it came to penetration he felt i should move round to lie my head on the pillow I don't recall whether he sorted it out. I didn't see anthing being removed when he withdrew..

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    fistinglover69 [sign in to see picture]
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    You wouldnt have an sti straight away. Probably a few days before you'd notice it. You may have a yeast infection and thats what the burning was? You dont need to have had sex to get one.

    Go to your doctor, tests are free (NHS). Results will be through in a couple of weeks. Your main priority though is emergency contraception as you could be pregnant if didnt use a condom. Because sperm is body temperature, you dont tend to feel it inside you

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    Okay. I think you should learn as much as you can about STI's/D's please? The NHS website is rather good for looking up medical problems.
    Hopefully there's nothing to worry about but I'd try to find out if he used a condom or if so if it split during. I think you should try to be much safer in future and make sure you set your boundaries assertively. Any man you sleep with should respect you enough to use a condom if you have requested that. In future could you put the condoms on him yourself? It might seem scary at first but as long as you have it on the right way and hold the 'teat' at the end to ensure there is no trapped air (which can cause it to split) you should get the grasp of rolling it down the penis quite easily, it's just based on confidence. Practice on a vibrator or banana first so you get the hang of it.

    For the mean time I would go to your local sexual health clinic and ask for the morning after pill (providing the sex was within two days -so make sure you go in the morning!!!) And ask to have a full vaginal examination. You may need to wait a few weeks though. I hope for all the best! Just keep a good eye on yourself! Xx

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    Cockpuss [sign in to see picture]
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    Is there no warm flush from a mans orgasm. I don't think i especially felt anything

    There's no concern about getting pregnant, For my time of life I am so thrilled about the Marina Coil If this had been available in my 20's. When was it first available? I'd have been happier to have sex. As it was most of my friends got pregnant on the Pill so I thought there's no way i'm risking it.

    Its a shame its a memory like this the session was out of this world. The attention to my vagina was like a synthesizor being played. So rythmic. It was like a routine of slightly different feelings. A mild period before something went through the whole body more powerful than I can do myself. All i've ever had is a short brush of a nipple or a quick stroke of my vigina things I don't really like.I need a LOT OF ARROUSING!! All i've experienced is "Wham bam thank you mam". Do a lot of men know what they're doing?

    If I never experience sex again I would be a very happy woman reflecting back on this. I hope most women get to experience something like it.

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    maltedmilk [sign in to see picture]
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    Oh sorry I forgot to say, however much 'fluid' you make is really down to your body. Every woman is different and sometimes you may be wetter than other times. It can depend on a lot of things. We often leak juices on the bed, but if you are lucky enough to orgasm, the wet patch might be a little wetter :)

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    Wow, glad you had so much fun! :D

    But yes, it's much more fun when it's safe! Xx

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    Hello,

    One thing about STDs. You should wait before getting tested. Some of them cannot be discovered by tests straight away. Unfortunately I do not remember how long you should wait for each to be saved that you will not get falsely negative results, but your local clinic should be able to provide this information to you. I know that eg for HIV its at least 2, but ideally 3 months after for the results to be safe.

    I hope everything will be ok. Good luck and glad you had fun!

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    How long should I wait to see a doctor? I think its now going to be after Christmas,. It Happened on Saturday 15th December 2012.

    Do you need to cover a Penis before sucking on it?

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    I would say that if you are not in a long term relationship or certain of the other person condoms when performing oral sex are a good idea. Both oral sex on men and women can transfer STIs so it might be a good idea to book an appointment with a nurse to have a chat about risks, condoms and other protection methods like latex dams for when a partner performs oral sex on yourself. A lot of sexually transmitted diseases can have no symptoms so if you have your concerns it is better safe than sorry. Its also worth remembering certain lubricants can weaken condoms so if possible stick to water based lubes.

    There is absolutely no need to be embarressed, nurses and Drs would much rather you go to them for advice than end up with something nasty after all!

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    What symptoms would I feel? All I feel is a bit sore of the clitoris.

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    I would say talk to doctor, some tests can be made earlier than others. Think some STDs can show on test relatively soon, but some like HIV or hepatitis B can be longer. Hepatitis is I think month to month and half or 2 until it shows up, HIV is 2 months at least to have reliable results, or that was it what they told me after last testing, after my long term relationship ended and I did just clean mind testing. But eg chlamydia can show after 2 or 3 weeks.

    So really ask your doctor when you can be tested for each STD.

    As for sore clitoris, I was sore after my sex too, and funnily my nipples were exteremely sensitive for about 2 weeks. So this does not necessarily mean there is STD involved, most would not show up this fast.

    it could be also possibly trush. I had infection of that recently after antibiotics and my clitoris and vaginal opening were exteremely sore to the point I had problems with eg wearing trousers and was in skirts all the time. It just hurted to the touch.

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    Go and see your GP and inform them that you have had a one night stand without a condom. Ask to be referred or for the location of your local G.U.M clinic (Genito Urinary Medicine)

    These people will test for all manners of nasties and would allow you to repeat this process in a couple of weeks and then months to be extra sure. I am not going to comment on the morality and practicalities of sleeping with one timers, however, I know that many of these GUM centres are about and can provide you with a FREE test and advice on next steps. Many of the centres are walk-in and require the patient to simply sign in / provide some basic details and then wait to be seen by a specialist.

    Don't feel ashamed as their are loads of people in your position and they do not judge.

    Wishing you the best of success and good health.

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    LauraP [sign in to see picture]
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    So many questions!

    Always use a condom and make sure you know how to use them safely. Its easy enough to practice putting them on a toy or the old school classic; a banana. Yes you should use a condom for oral with a new partner; especially a random. You can get flavoured condoms for the purpose.

    Gonorrhea is the main disease that can be transmitted orally, but it also can be transmitted anally and vaginally. It is also becoming more and more resistant to antibiotics so its worth looking up the symptoms so you know what to look for and avoid.

    The other big ones to look up are Herpes (viral and incurable) chlamydia and Syphilis which is making a huge comeback since almost being wiped out. Women often don't show symptoms til its late on so regular testing is incredibly important. Especially if you've indulged in risky behaviour.

    Condoms at GUM clinics are free so always grab a handful its what they're there for. NHS GUM clinics are often walk in only and totally free. Don't be embarrassed at one point or another all of us have been back down and legs akimbo on a table.

    If you've got any questions ask me. I'm a nurse and trust me I'm pretty bombproof. Theres nothing anyone can say that I've not seen or dealt with before.

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