• REMOVING a sexual fetish!?

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    jee [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi all!

    I've mentioned on this forum before that I really get off on the thought of my other half having sex with another guy (especially a black guy with a larger cock!).

    However, the idea of it doesn't turn her on (in fact it turns her off) and so I feel guilty when I can't help bringing it up in the middle of sex. At the height of ecstasy I can't help mentioning it in hope she'll play along and role play the fantasy with me, but after sex I feel really bad.

    So does anyone know if there's a way to "ween" yourself off a fetish? I really don't want to upset her by bringing it up all the time.

    Thanks!

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    dotdashdot [sign in to see picture]
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    Don't watch porn with the fetish in. Try to stop yourself mentioning it during sex, it's probably really off putting for her! It will die down gradually!

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    morefun [sign in to see picture]
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    Is there another fantasy one of you has which would be less of a turn off for the other? Even better if its one that will turn both of you on and you can both get something out of it.

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    Georgina71 [sign in to see picture]
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    I don't know if you can remove it, but you can certainly stop mentioning it to your partner. If she does not like it, just keep for yourself, for heaven's sake! On some occasions, while having sex with a partner I would close my eyes and imagine being with someone else; but imagine what would have happened if I had mentioned it.

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    flash1 [sign in to see picture]
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    I completelt agree with Ork, this is a fantasy more than anything else, and as all fantasies unless the OH is 100% for it, just keep it that way!!!

    Dont mention it and dont try to have it played out.

    It will more than likely end in disaster!!

    Might be worth seeing what the OH would like to play out if you are both in to light play.

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    jee [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks for the advice everyone! I'll just have to have will power and not mention it! Hopefully I'll just forget about it one day! :P

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    Gyrator53 [sign in to see picture]
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    Think laterally - explore if she has any secret kinks that she would like to try. You never know there could be something else you both would be happy doing that is way hotter than your current obsession but you just haven't thought of it yet.

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    lilac_vix [sign in to see picture]
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    Haha, (sorry I know it's not funny) Maybe you should try some classic conditioning techniques- ie applying a negative stimuli when you do it and rewarding yourself when you don't.

    Talk it over with her. Explain you feel it's become an unhealthly repetitive thought. Parhaps she will help you and give you a sharp slap everytime you do it, or stop sex/ masturbation immediately and not allow yourself to 'finish off' everytime you mention/ think about it during the act.

    The reward is obviously you get to cum...

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