• Why I love Anal play

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    Just Jenson [sign in to see picture]
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    This wa a topic on fetlife which I started respondong to and whilst doing so found myself getting very into the whole subject... thought I'd post my views on here too

    Many reasons...

    appreciation of the preparation involved when receiving/giving - adjusting diet days before/supporting partner with adjustment if they are receiving

    preparation on the day - giving or taking douche for clean out and sharing the whole intimate time with partner

    appreciating the opportunity - because as you will know, no matter how well prepared, sometimes anal will just not be on the cards when planned for varying reasons.

    Taboo factor - though anal seems to be more and more common place and main stream in this world, in the vanilla world it still holds a taboo factor.

    The power/trust exchange - to completely submit yourself or take someone else in such a way that they completely trust you (or you trust them) to be safe with you and not cause injury.

    Anal, unlike vaginal sex, needs care, preparation and trust.

    The intimacy/foreplay prior to playing - the massaging to relax your partner, the fact that they or you may be totally exposed and vulnerable to them by being face down ass up as they massage you.

    The sensation of entering someone/being entered into by another - whether it be there fingers, tongue, cock or toy.

    The look of an ass hole gaping after it's been penetrated.

    The satisfaction knowing that all the above can;t be done with just anyone.

    That's why I value anal sex more highly than any other form of penetrative sex.

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    Great post Jenson, I can see you have spent some time reflecting on this, thanks for sharing it with us.

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    the reasons why I love it:

    • it feels really naughty
    • it feels good
    • you kind of feel nervous at first which makes it more exciting
    • the dominance factor
    • and many many more :P
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    Just Jenson [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks you Postillionager - yes I suppose I have spent some time reflecting this - though at the time of writing it just seemed to flow out.

    I introduced my ex to anal play and initially she really enjoyed all aspects of it. Though as time went on, and we grew a little distant, she one day told me she doesnt want to play anally at all anymore with no explanation. Daft as it seems, but this was quite a blow to me as sexually it is something which I connect with and her and I connected very well with it too.

    It was then that I questioned as to why I was so devastated over losing anal play and realised it is more than just a bit of fumbling and messing around.

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    A woman once wrote "if you let a guy cum in your bum he will never want to cum anywhere else" dunno if its true

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    gunther wrote:

    A woman once wrote "if you let a guy cum in your bum he will never want to cum anywhere else" dunno if its true

    Seemed to be true for an ex of mine. I agreed to anal, every sex sesh after that had him pestering, talking dirty about anal, and generally just aiming for my ass each time. I have had some amazing anal sex, but I also have a vagina, so I was not impressed.

    I enjoy anal because it gives me stronger, quicker, longer lasting orgasms and it's not something I feel able to do with every partner so it's a show of trust for me, in a sexual respect way anyway.

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    I have never done anal before cause I have heard some horrifying stories and I think Im a little scared

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    squirtin_blk.bbw wrote:

    I have never done anal before cause I have heard some horrifying stories and I think Im a little scared

    I used to hear all kinds of horror stories a few years ago, I'm the only one of my close friendship group to of tried, and I discuss all things sexual with a range of people and no-one I know seems to of ever had any horrors or embarrassing things actually happen :/ Seems to be all urban myth spread by people who have never tried and likely won't as they scare themselves with the stories :(

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    Hoebag wrote:

    squirtin_blk.bbw wrote:

    I have never done anal before cause I have heard some horrifying stories and I think Im a little scared

    I used to hear all kinds of horror stories a few years ago, I'm the only one of my close friendship group to of tried, and I discuss all things sexual with a range of people and no-one I know seems to of ever had any horrors or embarrassing things actually happen :/ Seems to be all urban myth spread by people who have never tried and likely won't as they scare themselves with the stories :(

    Couldnt agree more. I indulged fairly frequently with my current and previous partners - at mine and thier urging, and it has all been fabulous!

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    Northern lights wrote:

    Hoebag wrote:

    squirtin_blk.bbw wrote:

    I have never done anal before cause I have heard some horrifying stories and I think Im a little scared

    I used to hear all kinds of horror stories a few years ago, I'm the only one of my close friendship group to of tried, and I discuss all things sexual with a range of people and no-one I know seems to of ever had any horrors or embarrassing things actually happen :/ Seems to be all urban myth spread by people who have never tried and likely won't as they scare themselves with the stories :(

    Couldnt agree more. I indulged fairly frequently with my current and previous partners - at mine and thier urging, and it has all been fabulous!

    I agree, there are loads of silly urban myths surrounding this subject. As long as people are sensible, caring and follow the plethora of good advice on these forums, it should be perfectly safe. The person receiving penetration should be in control, so the penetrator never forces anything or causes any pain. It should be a relaxing, sensual, tender and trusting experience for both partners.

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    Hoebag wrote:

    gunther wrote:

    A woman once wrote "if you let a guy cum in your bum he will never want to cum anywhere else" dunno if its true

    Seemed to be true for an ex of mine. I agreed to anal, every sex sesh after that had him pestering, talking dirty about anal, and generally just aiming for my ass each time. I have had some amazing anal sex, but I also have a vagina, so I was not impressed.

    I had the same kind of experience with an ex aswell. As much as I like anal having him go on did get annoying after a while.

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    Is this why my fella takes so long with the vagina sex? He has given anal in the past. Maybe he enjoys anal more than vagina. But i know he likes my vagina though lol. He has asked for anal with me but as i am not ready for that yet (but still cant wait) he said he will wait x

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    I wish I could meet a woman who likes anal play !

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