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    MissNaughty<3 [sign in to see picture]
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    I have always been intrigued by anal sex, always secretly loved the idea but never ever let a partner anywhere near my anus. Sex with my partner is the best i have ever had and i feel so relaxed with him. Recently we were fooling around and exploring and i let him insert the tip of his finger in my anus while fingering me. It felt so incredible! This feeling so much better than i was expecting, and me being so relaxed with my partner so i want to try anal sex.

    Problem is, i dont really understand properly how it works? How you get clean for it? Also i have heard horrow stories of people pooing durring or after... How would i got about doing it for the first time??

    Any advice and tips would be greatly appriciated!!! :D xxx

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    missdoggylover [sign in to see picture]
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    Relax lube start small and enjoy

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    scarab9 [sign in to see picture]
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    There's much more experienced people on here than me, but to give my own simple advice - don't build it up, don't worry about it. It's just a different type of fun to explore.

    It doesn't have to hurt if it's done carefully (I avoid saying "done right" because it doesn't take experience, just caring about your partner's experience)

    If you have a shower first and have had a poo fairly recently you'll be fine - no need to worry.

    Take it slow, build up on foreplay, then lots of lube, a finger, a toy, his cock....basically just take it slow and enjoy it. Use it as an additition rather than focussing too much on it as "we are having anal tonight".

    You'll probably find you enjoy it and it's no where near as scary as you expected

    have fun :-)

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    MissNaughty<3 [sign in to see picture]
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    i was thinking to try a beginners butt plug first??

    What about the shitting durring? is this true?? Do you have to do anything before you start? xxx

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    lilac_vix [sign in to see picture]
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    As scarab9 says, providing you start doing anal when you need to go there should be no problem. You know your own bowel habits. If you go every morning then you should be safe on an evening.

    You can douche or enema wash several hours before hand if you are worried. The only exceptions to this may be if you have something like IBS and are prone to loose stools or diarrhea because it is very difficult to get completely clean.

    If you are comfortable and trust each other then ot wouldn't be a problem, and he will need to accept if he wants to stick it up your bum he might he find a bit of poo in there. It would be highly unlikely that you would have a big poo. If there is a little bit of poo it's not the end of the world, just have some wipes handy and make sure you clean up before doing anything else!

    The usual rules for reducing chance of infection apply, like never go from anus to vagina. It;s good if you use condoms for being able to whip one off and put another one on if you want to swap between anus and vagina or mouth.

    In 'Zack and Miri make a porno' anal made her have a poo but in the story line she was constipated and unable to poo before hand and the sex loosened it up- which I believe would prob be the only circumstance in which it would happen.

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    MissNaughty<3 [sign in to see picture]
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    Thats really helpful, thank you so much for everyones help! Cleared up alot of questions i had

    Have any of you tried butt plugs?

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    curvyandtattooed [sign in to see picture]
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    lilac_vix wrote:

    In 'Zack and Miri make a porno' anal made her have a poo but in the story line she was constipated and unable to poo before hand and the sex loosened it up- which I believe would prob be the only circumstance in which it would happen.

    I absolutely LOVE that film!!!! It's brilliant haha :) Sorry, just had to say that lol :P xx

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    suze9 [sign in to see picture]
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    I just went with the flow of things, I held out for 11 years too, lots of lube and someone you are comfortable with who will take time and stop when you want them to helps. I have never felt any pain but I personally dont get much out of it but its enought for me to know that me OH does.

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    lilac_vix [sign in to see picture]
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    butt plugs are great :D (well any anal toy really)

    I have one of these http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=9038

    and one of these http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=13333

    and anal beads are good.

    I prefer stanless steel or glass as I find if I wear any of the plastic or rubbery ones over a longer period of time the irritate my skin. I like this lube as well http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=11373 which is great for me and I have np problems despite all my skin sensitivities to various things.

    TBH the best thing I've found for getting warmed up before anal is your partners fingers ;)

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    MissNaughty<3 [sign in to see picture]
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    Whats the difference between normal lube and anal lube?? Im definatley going to take the advice of not planning, just do what we do and if i get in the mood for him to play with my bum then we'll take it from there. We always have lube and condoms around anyway so will just go with the flow. I think im definatley going to try a butt plug first.

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    KinkyFuckery [sign in to see picture]
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    I have a butt plug and use maxiums for lube works fine x

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    Shy guy [sign in to see picture]
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    My OH and I have been playing around, anally so to speak..

    She liked a finger, but wasnt to sure about two!

    Yesturday I ontroduced her to anal beads for the first time (for us both) and she was shocked how many i managed to get up her.

    We also have a rabbit with an anal probe....she didnt take long with that!

    I want her to try anal sex, but that will take time!

    So go with what ever is comfortable and slowly build up!

    Shy guy!

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    MissNaughty<3 [sign in to see picture]
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    Having the tip of his finger was my first ever anal experience, but i really loved it. So will obviously work to a finger, then go from there! Thanks for the great advice, definatley calmed some of my fears

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    MissNaughty<3 wrote:

    Having the tip of his finger was my first ever anal experience, but i really loved it. So will obviously work to a finger, then go from there! Thanks for the great advice, definatley calmed some of my fears

    Hi I would agree with all the advice above, the only thing I would add is that is a good idea to spend some time on your own exploring yourself, find out what you enjoy and get used to that kind of penetration.

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