• Are men worse at giving head?

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    Georgina71 [sign in to see picture]
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    I am mostly straight, but in the past I have had some short-lived relationships with women. Overall, even for sex I much prefer men; but I always found that they are much worse at one thing, namely cunnilingus. Fortunately my current lover, with whom I hope to be for the rest of my life, is an exception, and really knows how to do it; but he is the first one I find, all the others sucked, in varying degrees, at eating pussy. Admittedly, by experience is not so vast, the number of my male lovers is in the low double digits.

    I am curious about other women's experiences. Do you agree that it's very hard to find a man who really knows what he is doing? I am interested in women's opinions, I am sure that every men in this forum thinks that he gives the greatest head in the world (no offense intended ).

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    Wilbre [sign in to see picture]
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    True :-) (No offence taken)

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    Lou22 [sign in to see picture]
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    Well I've never slept with a women but got no complaints about my oh id quite happily let him do it all day, fortunately for me he enjoys doing it to. Think Orks right, i enjoy oral much more with my partner now because he tells me what he wants and likes so im more confident that he's enjoying it. If people are rubbish at it then they won't get better unless they're given a bit of instruction :)

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    GymJunki3 [sign in to see picture]
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    Georgina71--maybe it depends on who you're with, not necessarily whether they are male or female. Someone can have a good 'technique' but if there isn't that raw sexual chemistry between you, then it's less likely to be as good.

    Equally, with cunnilingus, I think it's also about making sure the woman is truly relaxed and comfortable so that she can 'let herself go'.

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    Georgina71 [sign in to see picture]
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    You guys are most likely right. In fact, I used to suck at giving head (pun unintended), until I had a long-term relationship with a man who gave me a lot of pointers (watching some porn helped too). Of course now I give fantastic blow-jobs . Unfortunately, he was not interested in reciprocating (in this, or in anything else)

    I have had other men who enjoyed doing it, but I was not assertive enough to let them know that what they were doing was not really satisfactory; I would rather pretend to have an orgasm (something I used to do a lot).

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    Georgina71 [sign in to see picture]
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    Posted by mistake.

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    Georgina71 [sign in to see picture]
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    Posted by mistake.

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    I think one of the big hurdles here is communication. I used to expect that the more we practice the more we are able to read minds. Recently I told my OH how to finger a bit differently and it made a huge difference for me. So now I plan to talk about the oral part and ask him in detail what he likes.

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    mickylicky wrote:

    I think one of the big hurdles here is communication. I used to expect that the more we practice the more we are able to read minds. Recently I told my OH how to finger a bit differently and it made a huge difference for me. So now I plan to talk about the oral part and ask him in detail what he likes.

    I fully agree, if you think that men are worse at giving head it can only be down to poor communication, if we are not doing it as well as we could we need to be gently guided in the right direction.

    I have not had many lovers in my life, but I would would imagine that not all of you ladies like exactly the same thing, so if we are not fully satisfying your needs please let us know, we might think we are mind readers....

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    I've only met one guy who was really good at giving head. The others just didn't really have a clue. I think communication is a big part of it.

    I've never been with a woman but I do think that they would be better at giving head as they know what they like! However, every woman likes different things!

    Oral isn't my favourite thing on the menu but I do wish my boyfriend was better at it! x

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    fistinglover69 [sign in to see picture]
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    well at my age (20) more boys have had experience at it than girls and so i find boys are better

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    I just let my OH tell me where she wants me and what she wants me to do...seems to be ok for her! I just can't get her to return the favour.

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    I've never been with a woman but I do think that they would be better at giving head as they know what they like! However, every woman likes different things!

    dotdot.....i'm sure guys n gals know what they like, but that actually doesnt necessarily translate into being able to replicate. My OH often says 'ive bo idea what you just did.....but wow'.........

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    it depends how much the guy gets out of it,

    i love watch my OH reactions to me giving her oral and i get a massive kick from it so i put alot of effort in

    personally i love giving oral sex to my OH and she loves me doing it.

    she has told me that i am te only person to make her orgasm through oral sex alone and since this she makes it a weekly thing for me to take her all the way with only my tounge.

    i have been told by previous partners th same thing.

    botom line i think is if u love giving oral really really love it then you will be good at it.

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    sexywelshlady [sign in to see picture]
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    Have never been with another woman so honestly cant say but OH is older than me and has been around the block a bit but he is awsome at oral, so I dont know anything different

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    linda2008 [sign in to see picture]
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    my hubby knows how to give me good head....but being swingers and i,m bi i do think women on women knows how to give it better,,with some of the guys i have met some have been terrible and dont know how to turn me on ..but i have had no complaints with the other women when they start to lick my pussy xx

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    I suppose this is a difficult question. Its not that they are bad at it, they could be amazing (to someone else). Hubby says i give an almost perfect blowjob but another man might not have that view, its just perfect for my man.

    I did think when a woman gave me cunnilingus, no man compared. Til i met my OH and hes the only person to ever make me squirt by doing only that! xx

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    GymJunki3 [sign in to see picture]
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    I guess you could ask a similar sort of question about masturbation or handjobs...

    Who does it best?

    a) Yourself!
    b) Someone of the opposite sex (female or male)
    c) Someone of the same sex (female or male)

    Like with the OP, there is the idea that a woman is better at masturbating another woman than a man as she instinctively knows what to do...

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