• No feeling during sex

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    izbomb [sign in to see picture]
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    I have a friends with benefits situation with one of my good mates. If he fingers me I can feel it but when it comes to penetration it doesn't feel like there's anything inside me, I have no feeling inside at all. He's definitely not too small. It doesn't feel good for me and I'm not getting anything out of it. Help!

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    Sugar_High [sign in to see picture]
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    perhaps have a go at those ben wah balls? I'm not saying you're 'big' its more a case of up the muscle ante! if you can clench around him more maybe you'll feel it more? I get it sometimes if i'm far too aroused. Wheras some say 'the wetter the better' i find it loses sensations for me!

    Also try rocking a little more, so that his body is pressed more against your clit, as the amount of sensations will make you more aware of whats going on and you'll notice things a lot more than if its just basic, in out, in out...

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    izbomb [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm definitely not too big, I'm too tight...

    I'll give that a try though. Thanks

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    izbomb [sign in to see picture]
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    Do you think it's more a problem with me or a case of him not knowing what he's doing?

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    sophy19 [sign in to see picture]
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    it could be you...because in my experience i can always fill a man inside me..its odd for you not to have this feeling but then again it could just be your muscles....get some balls? might help tighten ur muscles there:) good luck anyway!

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    Milky [sign in to see picture]
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    I'd suggest a vibrating cock ring - they can really help!

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    Milky [sign in to see picture]
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    Or trying positions where you're on top more? That gives a bit more control so you can maybe get a bit more feeling?

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    Do you tend to stick to one position or have you tried a few?

    depending how your bodies are compatiable with each other and the way his cock points (up, out, bent to one side etc) you will need to experiement to find the best positions.

    I also believe if you are to tight (although that seems an oxymoron) the best way to deal with that is to streach and do kegal exersices, because the point of kegal exercises aren't to make you tighter they are to give you more control over the muscles that allow you to tighten and relax.

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    izbomb [sign in to see picture]
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    We tend to stick to one position so we will try others :)

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    Pixieking [sign in to see picture]
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    Could we ask what that position is? might give an idea of what might work.

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    izbomb [sign in to see picture]
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    well. I'm usually leaning back on his desk and he's stood up in front....

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    anna-rampant [sign in to see picture]
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    Are you using condoms?

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    lilac_vix [sign in to see picture]
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    try it from behind, and try putting one leg up, either knee on the desk or foot on a stool, try him on the floor and you on top. try legs down, vs legs round his waist. It can sometimes make a big difference where your hips are in relation to each other.

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    have you only just started having sex? (sorry if im way off haha)

    when i just started having sex it took me aaaaages to get used to the feeling and start feeling it properly.

    the first time i made noises i was bent over the cooker making macaroni cheese! ha ha

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    izbomb [sign in to see picture]
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    Yes we use condoms

    yes he is the first guy I've had sex with, I was wondering if that might be the reason

    will try those positions, thanks lilac_vix

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    izbomb [sign in to see picture]
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    Just ofund this article which seems to sum up my situation perfectly

    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2234993/Rowan-Pellings-sex-advice-column-My-new-man-compares-ex-bed.html

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    MrsKitty [sign in to see picture]
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    as hella said alot of poeple has this
    i dont feel much through sex i always need my clit touched to feel have a look at getting the magic wand i got it and love it easy for him to hold against you as your having sex dont start stressing because you cant feel him inside if you are worried get checked out by your doctor

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    fistinglover69 [sign in to see picture]
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    izbomb wrote:

    Just ofund this article which seems to sum up my situation perfectly

    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2234993/Rowan-Pellings-sex-advice-column-My-new-man-compares-ex-bed.html

    i definitely think the feelings will improve once you get used to sex and find out whats nice for you. majority of people are disappointed with the sensations when they start having sex. i was very much! to the point id also say i felt nothing

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    izbomb [sign in to see picture]
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    ok, thanks everyone for their help. Feel a lot better about it all now :)

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    anna-rampant [sign in to see picture]
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    I thought it might be the condoms at first but like some others have said it took me awhile to feel anything! Also I find hip on top with your legs over his shoulders is a really good position

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