• Bi-sexual or Bi-curious? HELP!

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    xPleasureSeekerx [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi all :)

    My boyfriend told me yesterday he thinks I'm bisexual. He was saying it joking but I answered seriously and said maybe I was... He took it well and didn't seem shocked. I have often expressed my opinions on other girls looks and enjoy watching lesbian porn with him. My question is, how do I know if I'm bisexual or Bicurious?? What is the difference? He's worried one day I will leave him to explore that area... I assured him I wouldn't but it leaves me wondering what is going on with me? lol any advice would be greatly appreciated :)

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    RandyMuppet [sign in to see picture]
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    If you think you'd possibly like to have sex with someone of the same sex you are bi curious, if you know you'd like to, you are bisexual. That doesn't really change anything else, bisexual people can still enjoy a monogamous relationship as much as straight or gay people.

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    Eh, I think you shouldn't be too worried about labels. You can like watching lesbian porn and not want to be with women and vice versa. It doesn't necessarily have to relate.

    I, personally, think some female bodies look stunning but cannot think about actually engaging in any sexual behaviour with one.

    Also, I don't think anything is going on- you could just be more aware of the fact that you do appreciate or even find women appealing. It doesn't mean that you, as a person, has changed just your preferences have slighlty become more wider.

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    You haven't done anything with another woman, therefore you are more curious.

    I was curious, along with a few female friends, for a long time but i acted on it as I knew it was more than curiosity, that I craved the touch of a woman, like I did a man.

    I wouldn't put a label in what you feel, you're just a woman who is in touch with her sexual desires.

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    We're all bisexual when it comes down to it, though most of us prefer one or other sex by habit or conditioning. I don't like the term 'bi-curious' because it suggests that you might go with somebody to find out what it's like rather than because you really want to have sex with that actual person. But that may just be my strange brain, an unstable mixture of lust and pedantry.

    However, if you fancy somebody, it doesn't matter what sex they are and it's just as naughty if you're already in a supposedly monogamous relationship. Of course, if your OH is up for adventure ...

    The other problem with bisexual as a term is that it doesn't adequately cover, in my opinion, intersexed, transitioning or other forms of gender-revalued people.

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    It is basically the difference between "I wonder" and "I want".

    Do you simply wonder what it would be like, or do you want to ? Not really any more complicated than that.

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    him'n'her has hit the nail on the head there.

    I shouldn't worry, many women watch lesbian porn, doesn't make them bi, just makes them sexual and curious.

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    Personally I would say "Sod the labels I am who I am" though if I am to give myself one of these labels it would be pansexual ie. I don't give a crap about a person's gentials and what gender they identify with. I give a crap about who they are.

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    There was a similar question on Fab about this.

    As others have said, just because you appreciate another female doesn't make you anything.

    Yes you could be curious, but are you curious about what it would actually be like to have sex with another woman?

    I don't class myself as bisexual (although it says that on our profile) as I don't look at another woman and think "Oh I'd like a piece of that" but I am also not curious as I have had sex with other women.

    I am happy to play with (kiss, touch, go down on and have them go down on me) so I would say I am somewhere in between.

    You are who you are and you like what you like be it male, female or both - labels can be restricting.

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    To be honest I don't think that's something another person - even your partner - can *tell* you.

    For me, I'd just look at it this way - do you want to have sex with women? Yes? You're probably bi, or a similar identity. No? Probably not then. Nothing more to it than that :)

    As for things like finding girl-girl porn attractive, well imagery can be erotic without it saying anything about your sexuality - it could just be that you feed off the chemistry shown, or that the acts themselves are arousing rather than an attraction to women.

    I wouldn't worry about it - if you get the chance to explore (ofc within the boundaries of your relationship) and want to, then go ahead.

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    NymphetamineKiss wrote:

    To be honest I don't think that's something another person - even your partner - can *tell* you.

    For me, I'd just look at it this way - do you want to have sex with women? Yes? You're probably bi, or a similar identity. No? Probably not then. Nothing more to it than that :)

    As for things like finding girl-girl porn attractive, well imagery can be erotic without it saying anything about your sexuality - it could just be that you feed off the chemistry shown, or that the acts themselves are arousing rather than an attraction to women.

    I wouldn't worry about it - if you get the chance to explore (ofc within the boundaries of your relationship) and want to, then go ahead.

    quite agree if you wan to find out if you like it without messing up your realtionship go for it younever know he may want to join in too

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    Don't worry about labels - and tell your BF to take note as well!

    If you're interested in same-sex play, then you might be bi-curious or just inquisitive. If you actually do it, that doesn't make you bisexual either, but we think if it becomes a regular occurrence and you look forward to doing it, as well as different-sex play, then you are bisexual.

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    There is a very fine line in my opinion, bi curious to me was when I thought I fancied other girls and found them attractive but now i consider myself as bisexual because I know i would have sex with a girl if i was single and it was offfered, and i find them equally as attractive as men :)

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    I was fortunate in a respect because I was never bicurious, I've always known I was bisexual - I think that makes life easier, to be so certain from a young age!

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