• Threesome... will it ruin my confidence? How to start??

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    lauras8 [sign in to see picture]
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    My boyfriend and I have always talked about having a threesome... I watch lesbian porn so I am up for it, and lately we have both seriously considered it and I think we want to go ahead with it...

    I'm just worried about seeing my boyfriend with another girl and how it will make me feel (I don't want him to think of her post-threesome, or for her to orgasm quicker than me or I will feel so crap as I am not very confident in myself at times)

    Does anyone have any tips on threesomes ie. is it best to di it with someone you know or not etc etc

    Any help would be fully appreciated as we don't know where to start really!

    Thanks,

    Laura xx

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    LoverBunny [sign in to see picture]
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    I have had a threesome before a year ago or so with my boyfriend at the time and it was with one of our female friends. Before we even went about it we have a talk to make sure it was 100% what we wanted and not just a fantasy and kind of set of 'rules' of what to do and not to do. Picking someone that we both knew made it alot easier for us both and it ended up being quite fun.

    Just make sure you are 100% sure on the idea before you do anything.

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    QueenC [sign in to see picture]
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    In short: yes. For a couple to have a threesome with another person, they need to have complete trust and confidence in themselves and each other. As Hella mentioned, your partner will think about it in future, and plus you can't really tell if you or her, or your fella will orgasm first, so analyse if that's a big aspect for you.

    If you have any thoughts that this may effect your relationship (in a bad way) after it's over then don't go through with it. If though you do decide to go for it, then perhaps use a site specifically designed to help people like yourselves find a third party. If you involve a friend or someone you know, you and your partner are likely to think about it everytime you see her so involving a stranger to the both of you may be better for you.

    Hope you work it out!

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    Agree with Hella, if you are having doubts and your post reads as though you were trying to convince yourself, then going ahead could damage not only your self confidence but also your relationship.

    xGGx

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    lauras8 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi everyone, thanks so much for you replies and yes, Hella is right to be honest because I can put myself down quite a bit so I think having a threesome would make that a lot worse for me, although I would like to try it but maybe in the future :)

    Thanks! xx

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    I agree with the others and it's good to see that you're now in a better frame of mind over it.

    We are having a threesome with a lady this weekend - we don't know her and she certainly doesn't live anywhere near us but we have chatted on the phone - we are on a site.

    This will be a first for us (a single lady) we have done the couple thing and also single guys.

    If you do want to go down this route of introducing others into your relationship, then it may be easier if you seek out a couple "to make it fair" ie you both have someone to play with or try a club - you don't have to play there you could just see what goes on and then rethink.

    As has been said, he will certainly think about it afterwards - could be because it was great or she was different from you or even that he didn't like the experience.

    Who's to say that he could actually play with both of you anyway.

    Would you be playing with her as well and she with you?

    It's definately not something to rush into if you are having any sort of doubts.

    xx

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    Hi minxbaby, we are looking into a 3 some, you mentioned you are on a site, may i ask which one?? x

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    Minxbaby [sign in to see picture]
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    Hoppo - we are on fabswingers, local swingers and adultfriendfinder (but that one's expensive and you can't do anything unless you pay up)

    We have found recently that fab swingers is best - free to do lots, although you can subscribe and pay a small amount to get better searches, but it doesn't restrict you in looking at people like AFF.

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    Hi

    This is kind of a similar question but opinions would none the less be appreciated.

    My OH and I have recently looked to set up a threesome (2 guys, 1 girl) this has always been a fantasy for him but he had not looked to do anything about it and it was me that pushed it. I have had lesbian 'experiences' in the past and confidence is not something I have a problem with.

    So here's my issue, he signed us up to a site in order to find someone (I don't actually know what this site is) this is something he did without my knowledge or permission. On said site he found someone he thought suitable (female dom) and has sent her pictures of me, again without my knowledge or permission. I assume that these were explicit picture but I don't actually know, pictures were always something I was concerned for the risk of them being shown to others and he always promised he wouldn't. Additionally his mantra has always been that he would never talk specifcs about our sex lives with others but surely he must have done as this site was given to him from one of his friends.

    So my question is: having spoken to the previously mentioned woman who does seem lovely (I'm sure I shouldn't say that about a dom =p) should I go ahead with this or should I hold off?

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