• Inappropriate Gift? Your Opinions

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    SN [sign in to see picture]
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    Its a good friend's 23rd birthday in a couple of weeks, and as some of you know, I'm also moving away from this part of the country, so it will also be a bit of a leaving thing as well.

    I want to give my friend something nice/good/fun, and I've been toying with the idea (pun intended) of a decent quality present from LH. I wasn't thinking humerous cock, but sophisticated mini vibe or bullet. I have actually ordered a duplicate Swoon 'Cross My Palm' vibe in the recent sales, and was thinking that would be perfect.

    But I have never talked to this friend about anything sex related, or sex toys, and I dont know whether she'd want it, be offended, or even have need of it. She's fun going, modern religious & intellegant family- but we have never talked on that sort of a level.

    I was wondering what peoples opinions were of whether I should give this to her, but also, if necessary, how to broach the subject and possibly check whether she would find a sex-toy present offensive or anything. Thanks so much for any help.

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    My best friend (who i also work with) just suddenly asked me one night if id ever used a rabbit - we hadnt ever talked about it before that lol anyway she admitted she had never tried anything like that, so i bought her a bullet for christmas :D she loves it

    Just mention something about it like.. i dunno you had your new toy delivered this morning and see where the convo goes :) xx

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    If I wasn't already very open about sex with my friend and vice versa I don't think I would risk it unless I had chance to spend time with her to 1. chat about related stuff to guage her possible reaction and 2. have time to spend with her afterwards to see if there is any awkwardness once a couple of days have passed.

    I guess i would broach the subject by saying something in a jokey way then turning the conversation a bit more serious. Not sure exactly how though, it would depend on the friend and how close we were already.

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    Does she seem sexual to you...silly question I know, but if you're out, does she comment on blokes or even have girlie chats (nothing heavy)

    It does seem a bit of a funny pressie if you're unsure about her, yes it could be the best thing that she's ever received, but it could also be the worst and totally inappropriate.

    You probably need to do some ground work first like the others have suggested to see if she is open to that sort of toy

    I did buy a friend one for her birthday the other year - she opened it up in the office but then, I know her and what she's like so I knew that she wouldn't be offended

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    Hey, thanks for the advice, guys!

    It is actually something that I've been toying with asking her, talking to her about LH in a comfy provate conversation. We always were really close, lost touch for a while, but we're back together before I relocate. And yeah, we've talked about boy/girlfriends, and she's got a crush, and stuff, so I've felt that its probably something that we could talk about casually and have a bit of a giggle, of course as long as she isnt appauled by the idea of toys. But of course, that is the part that you back away quickly and laughingly change subject!
    Nah, I'm seeing her again before her birthday, so I'll lightly bring up the subject, and see what she things. I plan on spending as much time as possible together, before I move to a different part of the country, so there are a couple of other visits planned.

    Its odd, but it's something I've wanted to ask her and talk to her about (mainly because I love LH so much). And like you've suggested, it could be one of the best presents possible. But you've just gotta check that she wouldn't be repulsed by the idea of a sex toy.

    I've gone for a really quite tasteful little vibe, too. It doesnt obviously scream 'sex toy'- in it's design or packaging, and it's actually a good quality little thing, I believe. Rechargable, too. But, yeah. I just need to know whether she'd be open to that sort of thing.

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    I was worried about this when I bought one of my friends a Love Bunny for her birthday. I told her not to take what was in the bag the wrong way (she didn't open it till she got home) but then next time I saw her she told me she already had a vibrator but she loved the bunny cos its cute and discreet.

    So I'd say go for it, don't worry too much cos the same thing might happen with your friend. If it turns out she's not too keen on using a sex toy you can tell her it can be used as a massager too :) And I think the Swoon Massager is perfect because it doesn't look like a massive fake penis

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    PinkPolkaDot wrote:

    I was worried about this when I bought one of my friends a Love Bunny for her birthday. I told her not to take what was in the bag the wrong way (she didn't open it till she got home) but then next time I saw her she told me she already had a vibrator but she loved the bunny cos its cute and discreet.

    So I'd say go for it, don't worry too much cos the same thing might happen with your friend. If it turns out she's not too keen on using a sex toy you can tell her it can be used as a massager too :) And I think the Swoon Massager is perfect because it doesn't look like a massive fake penis

    Ahh hah, discression is the key, got it!!! Lol, it's like you've read my mind- I was toying with a 'just give her a box and a note out of the blue, and pray it goes well' idea, but it seems you've already done it and succeeded!

    I think talking to her about sex toys is a good idea- but with things being so close to her birthday, she may (and rightly) get it into her head that she might get it into her head she's getting a sex toy and will be wondering what it might be I'm gonna inflict on her. I dont want to cause someone that sort of worry and anticipation. So actually, that idea- that tactic, may be a very good way to go.

    I just need to trust that I know her well enough that I know I can trust in our friendship and also trust that we can laugh it off if something goes wrong. But it is a risk.

    I'd like to be the person who either introduces her to sex toys; or adds a good piece to a collection if she has one (and you NEVER can tell, lol!) But I hope that it may be cool.

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    And if it goes completely tits up, I can buy her a gigantic penis dildo for Christmas and we can just call it quits.....

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    i gave my friend a pin ups vibe (msainly cos we have known eachother all our lives so she's a friend i could do that with) although it didnt go terribly and we did have quite a laugh she didnt seem amazed and when i made a joke about it when i last saw her she said how she thought it was "a somewhat unrequited gift" so i might ask for it back just to find out if she's actually appreciated it and is just to shy to admit it.

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