PARTNER HATES ORAL

Easiest way is not to do it on the bed haha

Or have dark sheets...

Oh or lemonade as that wouldnt be so obvious

Or Gin/Vodka and Tonic with ice and a slice, that wouldn't be obvious either. I'm warming to this idea. Poor bastard won't know what's hit him when he gets home from his trip tomorrow.

Yeh true - I like the alcohol idea cause he'll just think its a random drink and nothing kinky! Shove some ice in it too because then you'll have those to hand...

Poor man you'll have to tell us how it goes!

It didn't.

We've had a row. He's a pig and he'll be lucky if I don't slit his throat with a rusty blade when he's asleep never mind suck his dick. And if he thinks I'm ever doing that again he needs to think again. Bloody men.

You can find me in the spare bedroom with my dildo if you need me :)

In fact if he thinks he's ever going to have sex again he'd better get to the Mulberry handbag shop pronto and shell out the necessary readies by way of an apology because it was his fault obviously.

Hey Bboy,
I must admit, before my current partner, I was a little scared about going down on a guy. I'd heard lots of negative feedback from my friends and enough horror stories to put me off for life. Plus, I wasn't entirely sure what to do, what would happen and I wasn't keen on the idea of a guy coming in my mouth. Lucky for me, my guy is very open-minded and understanding so we worked on it. I'd recommended making sure you've talked it through and she's really relaxed. Sounds like the others must have answered your questions by now but my tip for her would be to have a really relaxed mouth and plenty of saliva (plus a bottle of water to hand). A great tip I heard recently that actors use on stage when their mouth gets a little dry from nerves is to gentle and repeatedly bite down on your tongue for a moment, which really works! Maybe take the pressure off her too by getting her to try sucking you gradually - make it clear that she doesn't have to commit to a full blown (hee hee) BJ if she doesn't want to. A nice relaxed position for me is with him sat on the bed with me between his legs knelt on the floor. Now I've relaxed about it all, I've found I really enjoy it which in turn seems to really turn him on!
Also, for JM and Shellyboo, I found that my man was a little self conscious of his penis, which meant he couldn't relax and just go with the flow. This was easily sorted with a hot shower, long massage and plenty of compliments (genuine as I do love it!). :¬)
RRxx

Now that I've got my new handbag... and I tried again but nope - I just can't seem to do it. Am I over-estimating the importance of this? He's said he's not bothered but it really bothers me.

Has he got quite a thick cock Truly? Feel free to correct me guys, but in my experience guys with thick cocks need quite firm handling to cum. Maybe there's just not enough pressure from your mouth to do it. Have you tried taking over with your hand instead of him doing it so you feel more a part of it?
Either way, you shouldn't get hung up on it. At the end of it he's cumming and happy. I'm sure he thinks you're a goddess for taking him in your mouth so willingly anyway! And any guy that comes up with Mulberry handbags by way of apology is a keeper!!!

Ahem. It would appear that I have a problem again. I got back with him :)

So, the quest to get him off with my mouth begins anew!! Might be a bit easier with a clean slate, as it were. Start as I mean to go on, etc etc.

Shall report back!

Hahaha! Yeh if at first you don't suceed...

Yeh if you need the extra pressure, grab him tight with your hand then put possibly the last inch or so in your mouth... thats where most of the nerve endings are anyhoo. Or go so far with your hand first then finnish him off in your mouth... Thats what I do if I get the dreaded jaw lock...

The problem with Mr Scrumptious is that, yes, he is quite thick (well he's a bloke for a start). Sorry, got sidetracked there!

He also has quite a tight foreskin so when I take him in hand, as it were, I sometimes hurt him so the option seems to be that he takes over.

I think it's more my problem than his too be honest.

Good job I'm not giving up the day job to become a hooker - "yes sir, I'll suck you off for a few thousand quid but can't make you cum"

Have you tried using lube to bring him off with your hand?

I second the tease them until they're gasping and then tease the bell end with your tongue before both stroking him with your hand and sucking him off.

Lube! I'll try that. Applying it sensuously with lots of soft, sensuous strokes? Does lube taste nice?

Mulberry handbags are nothing, you should see my new Benz he bought me for his last apology ;)

Flavoured lubes can taste nice... My faves are Durex Play Feel, which I actually thinks tastes kind of naturally sweet, and the Durex Cherry Flavour... yum :)

But, I've had a bit of an epiphany re: the blowjob issue. Was recently with a guy who was fucking me rather deliciously in missionary, and I was loving every second, although it's not really the right position for me to cum in - I usually have to be on top.

Now, he was in a bit of a bad mood, so after a while he let out an enormous laboured sigh and said, "Fine, you better get on top since I'm so crap at this and can't make you cum!" And I was like, eh... hang on, you're not crap, I'M crap because I can't really cum from this position. It's totally not your problem, it's mine. So I reassured him and off we went on our merry orgasming way.

So I got to thinking - is it the same with blowjobs? Are guys feeling under pressure to cum from them when they find it difficult? And, if that's the case, are they happy to just lie back and enjoy the sensation the way I am with missionary?

Is cumming the be all and end all of blow jobs? And the most important question - could I BE any more Carrie Bradshaw?

I can't cum at all just by fucking alone, the nearest I get is doggy style when his balls bag off my clit.

He's soooo not bothered by this issue at all and says pretty much what Shellyboo says in that sometimes it just doesn't make you cum. He also says it doesn't mean it's any less enjoyable and also it's important that the sex is enjoyable when doing it and not the orgasm itself which usually means the end.

It's just me that's hung up about it. I'm a bit of a control freak I guess!

However, I WILL get this right eventually!

Yeah, despite my epiphany I am also still bummed that I can't get him off. I feel like he should spurt within a minute of my locking lips on his cock... I mean, it's only fucking POLITE.

We did have progress however - during the make-up sex he asked me not once but TWICE to suck him, which has never happened before. Perhaps he realised his 'not fussed' attitude was putting me off.

You're right shellyboo - it isn't you! I very rarely cum from being sucked, even though I'd like to. It's just that the sensation isn't quite right to send me over the edge. Different folks like different things after all. You're right about the mental pressure too. I feel like I'm being ungrateful if someone spends a lot of time and effort lovingly sucking my cock for me and I don't show appreciation by cumming. It feels like I'm not thanking them for their effort. The problem is, by trying to cum for them it makes it less likely! Usually I end up doing the porn film thing - pulling out of their mouth and using my hand to bring myself over the edge, splashing over their face and into their mouth if they want, whilst they lick me. I also find that the hotter the situation the more likely I am to cum. For instance if my partner is acting really slutty, or doing something like sliding a vibrator inside my ass and saying very rude things to me. That sort of thing.

Crikey - after writing all that I suddely feel in desperate need of a blowjob...

@BBG - Well, I'd offer but I'm crap at it ;)

Thanks for that. It's nice to get a mans point of view and you have more or less reiterated what Mr Scrumptious says.

I guess I'm going to have to leave this one and not put so much pressure on myself and hopefully get my wish someday when I'm not trying so hard.

I don't believe a word of it! Ready when you are...

:-D