• Using your old toys with your new partner

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    ZombieCpl [sign in to see picture]
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    I know this thread has been done before but I cannot for the life of me find it! So I wanted to ask the question again and see peoples responses.

    If you have lots and lots of sex toys that you used in a previous relationship but you dont want to throw them away as they cost lots of money or you like them too much (maybe you have a big collection of luxury vibes) then how do you introduce them into your new relationship without it seeming weird or creepy or dirty?

    Would you use them with your new partner or would you chuck them and get some new ones or would you just not tell your new partner that you used them with your ex?

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    sweetlove666 [sign in to see picture]
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    it depends on a lot of things

    some types of sex toy material can absorb fluids so if i didnt know an ex was clean i wouldnt risk introducing them to another person without covering them or checking materials and risks ect,.

    i dont think it'd be an issue for me personally - but it depends on the partner. i'd probably say i had them but wouldnt mention that theyd been used in partner sex - things like my wand are only used on me, so not really an issue. and this is someone having sex with you they have to be comfortable that youve had sex with other people.

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    wildjezz [sign in to see picture]
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    Seem to remember this coming up when i first joined ish.

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    ZombieCpl [sign in to see picture]
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    I agree Sweetlove, a new partner has to be comfortable but using an intimate toy with them that has been used on a previous partner could be a strange experience for them.

    And yes Jezz it did which is why I mentioned that in my thread in the hope that somebody could point me in the right direction.

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    Naked_butler [sign in to see picture]
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    only prob would be if guy had a vibe for ex n kept it. most sex toys are female based n she likely owns it... actually vibrating cock rings should prob be thrown

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    Pixieking [sign in to see picture]
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    If it can be serilizied, I'd use it again.

    All of my toys are mine and if I use them on another person then i'm essentially lending them out. In the same way that my penis being in someone else doesn't stop me using it again, neither would my toys. I think throwing away sex toys because they've been used by your partner is a bit like burning your bedsheets because they've slept in them. If somehow i'd developed some sever emotional baggage around them then possibly i'd throw them away, but I seriously doubt it.

    However, if i'd bought it for them, then they belong to them and I wouldn't be taking them anyway.

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    I was thinking about this the other day. I have some buttplugs that have only been used on me not my ex... but the fact that I used them with my ex is a bit weird for me.

    I haven't even confessed to my boyfriend that I own them but when and if I do I would understand if he felt uncomfortable using them.

    Ohh dear sex toy etiquette!

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    S&S [sign in to see picture]
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    No, no, no, no, never. Nope.

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    Laveila [sign in to see picture]
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    I kept most toys after splitting. after all they were used on me, apart from some toys, cock rings were thrown away. Dont feel a reason why I should throw them away. And I admit that althought the We Vibe Tango was used with partner, I still kept it, cannot afford to throw it away. The only thing I may do is that I will not use it with my new partner, if I have some in the future, which I am not sure about right now. And keep it as single toy. I dont feel strange about it and I dont have throughts about the fact it was used with my ex.

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    I agree with Hella, it just seems respectful somehow as toys are a pretty intimate thing. The situation hasn't come up for me yet but I would have to throw things away sadly if I had used it with a previous partner. If I had a really amazing/expensive toy though I may be tempted to keep it for alone time only but it would still feel a bit direspectful to me though.

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    I asked my OH his feelings because if I was in a new relationship I think i'd bring it up and do whatever theyd be most comfortable with. He said and I quote; "I dont think id really care, i think the first time i use it would be to assert my dominance with it, basically to say this was his job but now its mine and I can do it better. Just to break all the ties :)"

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