• how do I ask him to -F- me without looking desperate?

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    mrsorgasmatron [sign in to see picture]
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    So, a few days ago I met that guy on fetlife, and dear god, he is soooo sexy.

    He is now on my friends' list and he lives locally.

    Our kinks seem to much and we do exchange mesages regularly, talking about everything.

    A couple of days ago he initiated a discussion about sex. I sent him some pictures, but 'everyday' pictures and not of any sexual nature. He loved them. Soon after he wrote something that turned me on and I did say to him he turns me on and I would like to try 'things' with him.

    He does like me but he likes any girl showing flesh on the website. I understand that he is there for as much kinky sex as possible and I don't mind.

    He is away at the moment and he is coming back to England end of November.

    I would like to maintain some contact with him, because he is such a nice looking guy and of course I am desperate to visit his bedroom.

    My policy so far (and after that sex discussion) is not to overdo it with messages but send him one message a day (somethink like, hello I love your new pictures), to which he replies.

    How do I 'keep him hot' for so long (until he gets back) without looking desperate? In truth, I am bloody desperate to have sex with him.

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    Riddler001 [sign in to see picture]
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    just do it i say! you only live once..the longer you sit here chatting about it the longer he has to find someone else..if hes the type of guy who likes anybody! "/
    nothing wrong at all with a bit of fun :)

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    just too add and be a spoil sport but be careful if you do :) sure you will! x

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    Nymeria [sign in to see picture]
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    First of all- just to note I hope you have all precautions at hand with meeting someone from online etc- you never know what he ends up to be. So yeah, just keep safe. =)

    As for "keeping him hot" there's really one way to go about it, keep in contact and ease sexy pics into it. Being in a long distance relationship- it's fricking hard at times but exchanging pics and even leading to dirty talk on the phone keeps it fresh. Just use the same guidelines as a long distance relationship. Use Skype- start talking first, them cam then naughty stuff with phone and cam.

    Also, it may help to ease off on the desperation lol, sorry if that sounds bad >.< just mean that it can put some guys off, but I'm sure that he'd be flattered you're so keen on him.

    Hope that helps.

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    Nymeria wrote:

    First of all- just to note I hope you have all precautions at hand with meeting someone from online etc- you never know what he ends up to be. So yeah, just keep safe. =)

    As for "keeping him hot" there's really one way to go about it, keep in contact and ease sexy pics into it. Being in a long distance relationship- it's fricking hard at times but exchanging pics and even leading to dirty talk on the phone keeps it fresh. Just use the same guidelines as a long distance relationship. Use Skype- start talking first, them cam then naughty stuff with phone and cam.

    Also, it may help to ease off on the desperation lol, sorry if that sounds bad >.< just mean that it can put some guys off, but I'm sure that he'd be flattered you're so keen on him.

    Hope that helps.

    what she said :) lol

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    with all the caveats about safety, the best way too keep a guy "hot" who is abroad is not to be "hot" but enigmatic and friendly concerned involved classy and warm...

    from a guy whos worked abroad for 27 yrs

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    I do put safety first, but I do hope that these months until he comes back to England will give us the opportunity to get to know each other a bit better. We did say that our first time going out will be visiting a museum - a public place, so nothing dangerous there; and the second time could be something similar, like a date type of thing, and then, if we both like each other... we take things from there.

    This is what I am afraid will happen: If I run after him all the time or if I look desperate he may simply get tired, get sick of me and ignore me.

    My plan so far is to give him a week or two with just generic chatting and the odd naughty talk but not to show him how desperate I am. After the end of week two I may start sending him some naughty pictures to keep him in the mood.

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    On our first date it was getting late as I was working 6AM till 2Pm shift, after a nice meal and conversation I said sorry Ive gotta go home, she said " we dont have to go STRAIGHT home do we"? that was hot enough for me.

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    mrsorgasmatron [sign in to see picture]
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    but yes, competition is massive. I see that so many women run after him. Fine with me. I am not looking for a husband or boyfriend but for a hot date or a fuck-buddy.

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    mrsorgasmatron wrote:

    but yes, competition is great. I see that so many women run after him. Fine with me. I am not looking for a husband or boyfriend but for a hot date or a fuck-buddy.

    you may be surprised I know a couple of guys who have (had) women always chasing them, they settled for the women that didnt, think HARD about sending pics maybe he wants a nice woman not a quazi porn start.

    Im not saying anything wrong with sending pics but not all guys are into it I am not.

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    mrsorgasmatron [sign in to see picture]
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    I haven't actually sent him anything 'naughty' yet, but I may send him the odd picture of myself wearing my sexy top. This is not plain porn but it spices up things a bit. Then, depending on how he takes it, I act accordingly.

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    But all I can see is that he constantly 'likes / loves' pictures of other girls which reach the level of porn (nudity, etc.). So why would he not like my pics? He does say that one of the options of what he is looking for is a permanent relationship but we all now what fetlife is all about : SEX.

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    maybe he may see you as something different?

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    Time will tell. I will drop a line at some point to keep you informed.

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    Forward does not equal desperate. Just tell him you'd love to hook up sometime! Think about what you'd like him to say to you... if you wouldn't think he was desperate for making a move, why should you feel desparate for making one?!

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    maybe a woman who doesnt post pics would be more attractive than those who do....just a thought

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    im in the same boat as you, theres some great info on here and we've already done some of it, all i can say is just be yourself, and hope they like you for you,

    if he likes you for you then you have nothing to worry about :)

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    funguy1234 wrote:

    im in the same boat as you, theres some great info on here and we've already done some of it, all i can say is just be yourself, and hope they like you for you,

    if he likes you for you then you have nothing to worry about :)

    dunno if i agree i always tried to be the man my wife wanted me to be not exactly the man I am..a bit of pressure there but thats not a bad thing

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    so your faking the way you are to be in a relationship ??

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    sorry funguy everytime i read your name i think of fungi because thats how it reads, and now you have a green picture, not being critical its just the way i read your name lol :)

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