• kinky birthday present?

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    madsheep [sign in to see picture]
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    I have been with my partner for just over 9 years. We got married this year. We have always just had straight sex. He is so shy that when I asked him what kinds of things he is into so I could get him something special for our honeymoon, he just shrugged and blushed. I am happy with how things are... kind of

    The problem is... we have been trying for a baby for just over 3 years now and thus far have not been sucessful. We have both been proded and pulled about for tests and we are starting to dread sex. To feel like we NEED to do it more, rather than just enjoying it. The passion has competely gone.

    His birthday is at the end of the month and I want to get a present. Something that means we look forward to sex. Something that makes it more kinky again!

    I thought about asking him, but if he gets embarrased about lingerie, then sex toys are probably going to get nowhere too.

    Any suggestions? I have tried massages but they just dont seem to do much anymore.

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    tough one msheep maybe what about a weekend away somewhere nice to enjoy being together as much as the sex, difficulty starting a family hurts male pride

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    Ananke [sign in to see picture]
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    You say he gets embarrassed if you try and mention sexy lingerie, how about putting the sexy lingerie on for yourself? Perhaps making yourself feel more sexy he will get caught up in the vibe.

    My husband is always quite backward about coming forward, so I always choose underwear that makes me feel sexy, and he always reciprocates.

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    By the sounds of it he may not know what he wants as if you've never done anything more kinky then he doesn't know if he will like it, if that makes sense?

    On the lingerie front, maybe find something that makes you feel sexy rather than something you think will make him feel more turned on. If you feel sexy then you'll have more confidence in trying new things. Maybe just a simple babydoll or a basque & stockings with high heels?

    You mentioned that you tried massages so maybe try one step further and add a nice very unimposing satin blindfold whilst you are giving him a massage and add in different sensations.

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21798 This is a lovely quite romantic design and well rated.

    Try a massage oil that heats up on application. Have some ice cubes in a glass and play with the hot and cold sensations very slowly all over. Try a feather tickler also and take time with each one and communicate whilst doing so, asking how certain sensations feel in different areas. It adds a whole new level to a simple massage.

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=2426 Something like this is a cute way to add heat or maybe try a flavoured massage oil that you can lick off like -http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=17913

    If you want to go a step further but are unsure about toys then start out very simple and buy yourself a little bullet, something small and unimposing that won't be offputting or get too much in the way but can add again a different sensation, again just slowly trying it in varying places.

    Any of the following three are great choices for introductory bullets.

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=22179

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14042

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=10157

    Also buy a simple vibrating cock ring, if you both like the sensations of the bullet in different areas, then this would be a good step forward in adding a little fun. If he is accepting of these than maybe it will open him up to discussion about other toys in the future.

    A few options of introductory vibrating rings with great reviews are below.

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=23099

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14798

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=18919

    There is also a great little 3 for 3 offer on beginners toys atm too so a good time to have a look at these http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/special-offers/1611/

    Also this is a great offer too as you can get a free bullet from the ones I mentioned above in this offer -

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/special-offers/1584/page-all/

    A great option here would be to buy yourself the vibrating ring I mentioned above and one of the great books that Tracy Cox wrote that would be very helpful to you both I think and then get the bullet free. This way you get 2 very simple introductory toys and some expert advice on more ways to spice things up and get the passion back too.

    I hope this helps.

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