What do I do now?

MissTerryCleavage wrote:

i don't have any differing advice from that that has already been given, except to say that the paypal thing may not be related to him, they do periodically send out emails about their billing agreements, if they have updated something in their T&C's.

Hope everything works out for you, perhaps CAB may offer some advice on something that you may not have been aware of? Or perhaps Shelter? Their website has been helpful to me before.

Hey hun. xx No, the Paypal thing must have been him - or another hacker... I phoned Paypal and they told me that 'I' had made changes to the billing agreement so that automatic transactions could be made through ebays selling fees and also to automatically pay from my account for purchase transactions to other ebay sellers and also to allow payment for reimbursments or outstanding balances. This was all made yesterday, and since I've never set myself up as a seller on ebay, and also when I checked my ebay account there have been things looked at recently and watched which is nothing to do with me. No transactions though, it seems. But PayPal have cancelled all the changes done on my account and my password has been changed now. Hopefully there isn't a way for him to get in to any of my online accounts now.

Oh, least you found out early then hun and no financial damage has been done. Get all your passwords changed quickly, clear the cache, history etc on the laptop and focus on getting somewhere of your own soon, maybe a room in a shared house would be the most suitable option initially as they're generally furnished even if just basically.

Stay strong :) x

 There is a specific form for rent in advance which takes 7 to 14 days to process but you can also make an application over the phone which is processed in 48hrs (I used it about 9 months ago). Just they won't do an over the phone one if you've sent in a paper application. 

You are classed as homeless if your name is not on the tenancy/ morgage and the ex has withdrawn consent for you to live there OR you are in danger of violence. You can get your local CAB/ Shelter etc to advocate on your behalf for this, or like I said maybe you need to forget about a flat and look for shared accommodation in the first instance just to get you out. 

Maybe you could ask on here/ on facebook etc if anyone can make recommendations for landlords etc in your area? I have looked at a few rooms that are being let on a room only, bills incl basis tenancy so you aren't worrying about getting debt from other people not paying there bills etc. 

lilac_vix wrote:

 There is a specific form for rent in advance which takes 7 to 14 days to process but you can also make an application over the phone which is processed in 48hrs (I used it about 9 months ago). Just they won't do an over the phone one if you've sent in a paper application. 

You are classed as homeless if your name is not on the tenancy/ morgage and the ex has withdrawn consent for you to live there OR you are in danger of violence. You can get your local CAB/ Shelter etc to advocate on your behalf for this, or like I said maybe you need to forget about a flat and look for shared accommodation in the first instance just to get you out. 

Maybe you could ask on here/ on facebook etc if anyone can make recommendations for landlords etc in your area? I have looked at a few rooms that are being let on a room only, bills incl basis tenancy so you aren't worrying about getting debt from other people not paying there bills etc. 

Thanks hun. I really don't want to be in a hostel. I'm looking at private housing at the moment while waiting for my housing application to go through (it's Homefinder). I got information on one flat already, but it was a bedsit, not even that! A tiny little room, smaller than my current bedroom, that had a tiny cupboard in and was doubled up as a kitchen too. Couldn't move in there! Horrid.

I'm coping alright with this arrangement with the man until I get my own place. I think he has his hopes that I will change my mind and go back to him, but it isn't going to happen. Mind is set now.

Though I did stumble a bit the other night when I got seriously upset after going to a pub with a couple of friends and a couple of men came up to me and we began a massive argument because they said I was faking my injuries and that I shouldn't be scrounging of benefits. They didn't even know me! But they went on and on. I think to get a rise out of me. Unfortunately it worked! I got really worried about how I would cope on my own that night when there are people like that around and having no partner to defend me or keep me safe worried me a bit. But my mind is back to being strong again. They were just a couple of w***ers!

I did confront the ex-partner on the PayPal thing, and he denied it. But he got really defensive too. I may have believed him a few weeks or months ago, but his track record for telling the truth when he is in the wrong is not very good. So I'm saying no more on the matter, but I don't really believe him. It's just very odd. If it were a random hacker, they would surely have tried to make purchases on my account. The setting changes are just wierd, and not very 'hacker-like'... it's like there was a particular purpose. Strange... But my account should be safe now, and all the others. Keeping my eyes peeled though.