how to seduce my boyfriend?

 First of all, I am sorry that you are unhappy. I would advise you to stop trying to make him have sex with you. When you go and play woth your toys, do it because you want to, with no intention of trying to provoke him. Work on being together, being close and being intimate. Feel good and make yourself look good just for you. You can tell him that you are feeling good, or that he is looking good just as a compliment. Don't have the intention of turning it into anything.

People can only be seduced when they are open to the idea - otherwise it just feels like harassment.

Honeytongue wrote:

People can only be seduced when they are open to the idea - otherwise it just feels like harassment.

That is so true, many things Frenchfancy said she had tried would be great if the guy is in the mood but possibly scary if he isnt or has issues or worries

Honeytongue wrote:

 First of all, I am sorry that you are unhappy. I would advise you to stop trying to make him have sex with you. When you go and play woth your toys, do it because you want to, with no intention of trying to provoke him. Work on being together, being close and being intimate. Feel good and make yourself look good just for you. You can tell him that you are feeling good, or that he is looking good just as a compliment. Don't have the intention of turning it into anything.

People can only be seduced when they are open to the idea - otherwise it just feels like harassment.

have to say this makes sense and the OH agrees.

i have started to do things just for me, dress for myself, look after myself just for me, began a whole new way of thinking after reading all of your replies guys, thankyou for the difference in perception, tbh thinking about myself over a week ago i seemed like a crazy person who didnt really know whether they wanted to be with their partner because of the apparent sex problem. in saying all this, my OH has pounced on me nearly every night the past week and in the morning cheekily while the kids have been occupied and i'm really surprised at how just not letting it get to me and realising that i can make myself feel better by just doing my own thing and not OBSESSING over it has given him a break and myself. I'm not saying it will carry on like this and i know we will have our 'dips' in drives at certain times, and when stresses come up, but i make my brownie promise to try to keep all your comments in mind.

And thankyou fellow daddies for your side of the story as it gave me another perspective instead of just thinking he was coming up with another excuse.

gunther wrote:

Honeytongue wrote:

People can only be seduced when they are open to the idea - otherwise it just feels like harassment.

That is so true, many things Frenchfancy said she had tried would be great if the guy is in the mood but possibly scary if he isnt or has issues or worries

spot on apparently ;) lol

Sexyboots wrote:

Maybe he feels pressure to perform and doesn't understand that you love him and are turned on by him and want him ...not just sex for the sake of it. It might just be that life got it the way. I do know that some men find intamacey with a woman they feel close to and have feelings for very scary and porn and masturbation are a completely separate thing to them as they can empty their balls in a boiological way and there is no contact. Not that all men regard it that way (don'y want to upset any one )

I know the feeling of being ignored or pushed away and it makes you feel unwanted, unattractive, and insignifacant . If talking and explaining your feelings ( and I know that's difficult...I'm rubbish at expressing my feelings when it actually matters!!) doesn't help and he is not willing to try and help you feel better and meet your needs then quite simply he is not the man for you. 

we have spoken on neutral ground since and he said he felt used as someways i feel like he is using me and we're working on the 'intimacy' part leading to the 'fucking' part so that i feel like i'm getting the intimacy aspect of it while he feels appreciated more during the 'fucking' part because we just seemed to have disconnected in some way... 

i wish they explained all this in sex ed, all the stuff that goes with it while in a relationship!

tff Im glad your working it out