• Cuckolding!

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    FUNLOVINGLIZ [sign in to see picture]
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    I get excited and turned on at the thought but then feel guilty. Never thought of going to a club and watching, but I doubt there's amy opportuntiy in Scotland :-( Mind you, we can always have a weekend away.

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    KeptLocked [sign in to see picture]
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    I'd love my wife to do this and we talk about it often but it wil never happen.

    I've always felt a bit guilty that I'd had a number of relationships before we met and she hadn't. I do understand the men on here who don't think it's for them but as someone else has mentioned for me our relationship is very deep and I see sex as a physical act - making love is something different!

    Anyway it will never happen but it continues to be one of my fantasies that my OH is happy to tease me about from time to time.

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    I could never do it, I see sex as being too intimate a thing between two people to introduce another party.

    If you can find enjoyment in cuckolding without hurting either yourself, your partner or the other person then that's fair enough I guess but I don't understand its appeal.

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    We love this idea.

    Most times we have sex we talk about and have been in an amazing relationship since our teens, The most fun is for my wife to dress as a bride and use her sex toys... telling me all the naughty things she has been up to!!

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    M&A [sign in to see picture]
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    So the question was asked about cuckoldry which is vastly different from having a 3 some.

    Cuckoldry is where the male is made to feel inferior in his sexual performance either by comments from the wife/partner and/or the guy involved.

    Personally I see no sexual thrill in humiliating someone over their sexual performance. However don't confuse sharing/swinging as this can be an amazing thing to experience with each other.

    We all have our comfort zones and ethics and there is nothing wrong with either if you are both happy. But what we discovered was how strong our relationship had become by expanding the ways that we achieve sexual satisfaction.

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    KeptLocked [sign in to see picture]
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    Whilst most of the fantasy stories about cuckolding include an element of humilation of the husband or bf, it is not an implicit part of cuckolding.

    In fact true cuckolding is actually a very loving act whereby the OH wishes to see their partner enjoy more than one sexual partner whilst they remain monogamous.

    There are variants which include voyeurism, chastity, humiluation or all these, but essentially it's consensual sex between the female and other men of her choosing with the full knowledge and consent of her partner - and in many case's at his instigation.

    To my mind it's no different to swinging except that only the female participates.

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    FUNLOVINGLIZ wrote:

    I get excited and turned on at the thought but then feel guilty. Never thought of going to a club and watching, but I doubt there's amy opportuntiy in Scotland :-( Mind you, we can always have a weekend away.

    there are a couple of clubs in scotland; After8 in edinburgh CJs at the townhouse in glasgow. They are the 2 I know of xx
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    I'm quite turned on by the idea of being cuckolded. I'm not at all into the embarrassment / chastity / creampie side of it, but the thought of watching my partner being taken by another man and doing things to him is a MASSIVE turn on for me.

    In truth though, I don't know whether I'd be able to manage any jealousy or insecurity to the extent that this wouldn't be a sensible path for my relationship to take.

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    suzi69 [sign in to see picture]
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    Yes it's fun my hubby goes crazy he likes to take pics ,I am very submissive and love acting out lots of fantasies ,if my hubby has been really restraint and not given to much direction we let him join in,it only works if you have a great relationship and have total trust if one of you are the jealous dont attempt it .always have a safe word and agree what you want to do ,it's always best to meet up first as you may not fancy each other .there are some strange people out there. Have fun and take your own toys.xxxx

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    My girlfriend seems to be getting increasingly into the idea. I'm not sure whether she'd ever want to do it in real life, but she certainly seems to enjoy the fantasy. Our dirty talk these days seems to include lots of references to her needing a 'real man' to fuck her, or how I'm just getting her wet for him, or how I'll be licking her clean after he's done with her. I must say, it's all rather steamy!

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    Id love my OH to starting having sex with another man

    & i love the idea of licking her cream pie

    we have talked about cuckolding & fantasise about it but we are well aware of what can go wrong

    what id like to know though is there anykind of safe substance my OH can use as a substitute for cum

    id use my own but once ive cum i quickly go off the idea

    sorry if this is a bit weird

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    Like many of the finer things in life, cum is an acquired taste. I love licking my girlfriends pussy after I've came inside her but it did take me a while to get used to as, like you, the urge to do so would quickly leave me once I'd ejaculated. My girlfriend knew this and knew I wanted to do it, so I asked her to force me to do it after sex and insist despite my protests. What she startedto do was let me finish while she was on top then simply move up and sit on my face, it left me with no choice and I soon got used to it!

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    Eager-2-Please [sign in to see picture]
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    Andyfeck & regular_john

    There are ejaculating dildos on the market (and on LH, too). These could be worth a look if you're interested in the idea of another "man" finishing inside your lady, leaving you to clean up. From the looks of it you use lube as cum. So a white coloured, flavoured lube as cum?

    Check it out. And have fun.

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    KeptLocked wrote:

    Whilst most of the fantasy stories about cuckolding include an element of humilation of the husband or bf, it is not an implicit part of cuckolding.

    In fact true cuckolding is actually a very loving act whereby the OH wishes to see their partner enjoy more than one sexual partner whilst they remain monogamous.

    There are variants which include voyeurism, chastity, humiluation or all these, but essentially it's consensual sex between the female and other men of her choosing with the full knowledge and consent of her partner - and in many case's at his instigation.

    To my mind it's no different to swinging except that only the female participates.

    I think this is a bit of a glorified view on the whole thing, and would be inclined to politely disagree!

    Throughout the ages the term has been used as an insult. The 'true' meaning of cuckolding doesn't enter into this, as it simply meant you had an adulterous wife or you had raised children not your own (both very negative things in the time period). Now it is used to describe a fetish. However, the themes of humiliation etc are very much in the forefront, the partner who is being 'cheated on' is generally taking a more masochistic pleasure out of it than willingly and happily letting their partner sleep around (despite being willing that it happens). Love comes into it, but not in the way of 'oh I love you so much I just want you to find pleasure'. The only difference between the old, negative meaning and the modern day fetish meaning is that there is consent involved, rather than true adultery. However, the feelings still remain the same in the 'victim' of the 'cheating', the point is often to replicate those feelings only knowing that underneath it all your partner does still love you above all others.

    Without the more painful elements, it is just swinging with only one partner partaking. Venturing perhaps into more of a submissive mindset. Being male and having a female be the one to sleep around isn't quite enough to make it fit the definition fully. To be cuckolding, it does by definition need to include more of the 'reluctant victim' elements in the partner being 'cheated on', no matter who instigated it all happening.

    To me there is a line, and your description describes swinging more than cuckolding in the fetish term. Both are defined as consensual (from both partners) sex between a person in a relationship and a person outside of the relationship, so additional criteria is needed to classify 'cuckloding' or simply swinging, sharing, whatever else you wish to call it :)

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    Eager-2-Please [sign in to see picture]
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    That's what I always took away from the cuckolding fetish as well, Lovebirds_x.

    You can have girlfriend/wife sharing, or swinging with only one partner doing sex acts while the other watches, or voyeurism - basically anything where one person is like "I get off on watching the OH having sex with someone else".

    Cuckolding is a step further on from that. Where roleplaying elements come into it. Namely where there is a submissive element to the watching (ususally male*) participant. It becomes about the female getting what she wants/needs from a more capable male sex partner, and thereby humiliating him in the process. It becomes "I get off on watching the OH replacing sex with me with someone else".

    *I think there is a reverse equivalent, where the female is the submissive/humiliated party. I think it's called "queening", or something.

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    KeptLocked [sign in to see picture]
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    OK Lovebirds - I'm willing to go along with what you say as I have little experience of cuckolding and none of swinging.

    However where does the man stand who knows his wife is out seeing others but doesn't care? I know a couple of men who are in this position - their wives see others and they know but choose not to leave them and equally don't get involved. For what ever reason it suits them not to leave the wife and they don't engage in relations themselves.

    Is this then cuckolding in the original form as opposed to the new fetish version?

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    dodgyandchicky [sign in to see picture]
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    we are also swingers and love this both ways,,, we love seeing eachother having sex with others but you must have a very strong marriage ,, weve been married 16 yrs and love eachother deeply but both still love to swing xx

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    For me it will just be a fantasy, if that. I like the sound of it, the subservience and the feeling of helplessness BUT in reality it would kill me to see her with another man.

    Maybe a foursome with another couple would work for me becuase we would all be playing but for another man to have my wife to himself would be heart wrenching.

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    Ive watched a fair bit of cuckhold porn and i love the idea of it wen im watching it but some fantasies are best left at that. Im by no means small in the cock department. 7 inches long and a good girth to me but thinking of a huge black cock pounding my girlfriend gives me a huge orgasm. But thats as far as it will ever go. She is the love of my life. And if i wanna see her take something monstrous we have LH to help :-)

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    muttsnutts [sign in to see picture]
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    haggis 6969 wrote:

    Ive watched a fair bit of cuckhold porn and i love the idea of it wen im watching it but some fantasies are best left at that. Im by no means small in the cock department. 7 inches long and a good girth to me but thinking of a huge black cock pounding my girlfriend gives me a huge orgasm. But thats as far as it will ever go. She is the love of my life. And if i wanna see her take something monstrous we have LH to help :-)

    Pretty much summed my thoughts up there.

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